You Deserve to Heal

Author: Alan Wolfelt

“Wounds don’t heal the way you want them to; they heal the way they need to. It takes time for wounds to fade into scars. It takes time for the process of healing to take place. Give yourself that time. Give yourself that grace. Be gentle with your wounds. Be gentle with your heart. You deserve to heal.” – Dele Olanubi


Yes, it takes time and, most important, the process of active mourning for healing to unfold. You must be patient and give yourself that time. You must give yourself the grace of reaching out for and accepting the support of others. Along the way, you must be gentle with yourself and your wounded heart.

But you must also and always hold onto this thought: I deserve to heal. This is a statement of your intention to heal. It is a declaration of hope.

You deserve to heal. You deserve to live and love fully again. You deserve to experience meaning for the rest of your days. As a singular soul, as a child of God, as a person entrusted to carry on the precious legacy of the person who died, it is your right and your destiny and your purpose to shine again. 

From the pen of…
Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., serves as Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition and has written many books that help people mourn, including “Healing Your Grieving Heart After a Military Death”(co-authored with TAPS President Bonnie Carroll).Visit to learn more about grief and to order Dr. Wolfelt’s books.