Saturday Morning Message: Learning About Ourselves After Loss
Author: Carol Lane
The opening photo today comes from the TAPS article, “Family Project: Mom Teaches Kids to File Taxes,” written by Rachael Hill. In the article, Rachael Hill writes about taking the talent she had for filing her family’s annual tax return and teaching her children how to accomplish this task since her husband’s annuity comes in their names. This also opened up a conversation with her sons about how she budgets the household finances, a skill they will need both now and in the future.
In the response section of today’s message, you will read what other survivors have learned about themselves after their loss. I hope you will enjoy reading today’s Saturday Morning Message.
Mother of Bryon
Responses from Survivors to last week's question
What have you identified about yourself on your grief journey?
From Robin, mother of Steven: It’s been just over 3 years since Steven left us. There has been so much grace in my life as I move from day to day. It’s helped me get past comments that are well intentioned and not meant to be unkind, but that can still be hurtful to a grieving mom. I’m not as outgoing as I used to be and that’s okay. Grief changes us and the way we see things. As long as these changes don’t harm us or others, I have learned it’s okay to be a different person.
From Anne, mother of Michael: Since I lost my son, Michael, on December 11, 2000, I have learned that life goes on, but it will never be the same. I had my husband at that time and we grieved together! Since I lost my husband five years ago, I have learned that I can live alone and take care of everything and know that my love for these fine men will never leave me! I am a grateful person to have had these wonderful people in my life! Semper Fi and God Bless America!
We Welcome Your Comments
If you would like to send a note commenting on one or all of the responses in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to firstname.lastname@example.org and your thoughts will be passed along to each contributor. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another.
Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message
What is your loved one's favorite musician or band?
This week, Elizabeth, spouse of Joseph, sent in our Song of the Week and also submitted the related question about our loved ones’ favorite performers or group.
If your loved one’s favorite performer was a singer or musician, we invite you to also share a song that had special meaning for you or your loved one by that performer. We look forward to reading your responses.
We Welcome Your Questions
The Saturday Morning Message was created so survivors can share questions and read how others respond. Questions for future messages are always welcome and can be sent to email@example.com. In order to have your reply included the following week, it is best to send your response by Tuesday morning.
Song for the Week
Elizabeth, spouse of Joseph, wrote, “Joe's favorite performer was Glenn Yarborough. He had a solo act and also performed with The Limelighters. Our daughters grew up listening to LPs, tapes, and CDs. We went to a few concerts and during the intermission of one show, two women asked Joe for his autograph. He looked so much like Glenn that it was understandable. During Joe's last day at the VA hospital, when he was in a coma, someone found Glenn on their cell phone and played a few songs. He was always just Glenn to our family. No need for the last name.”
So this week’s song is “I Didn’t See the Time Go By” sung by Glenn Yarborough.
Send Your Favorite Song or Recipe
Each week, we publish recipes or songs that have special meaning for our subscribers. If you have a favorite recipe or song for this section, please send it to firstname.lastname@example.org and include a note about why it is meaningful to you.
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