Saturday Morning Message: How Do You Relieve Stress?

Author: TAPS

Good Morning,

Reflection of emotions from our grief journey, a journey we did not choose, can sometimes lead us astray and away from family, friends and the peacefulness of nature. Navigating our experiences together and seeing the beauty that surrounds us can refuel us to reach out and connect with others at TAPS. As we walk together through our grief, let us pause to see the real splendor outside allowing us space to ponder ways to be connected through service to others to honor our loved ones through nature. 

Outdoor scene


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message

As we recognize Earth Day in April (April 22), a time when the world focuses on the preservation and protection of the world around us, we want to know:

What are those things in nature that remind you most of your loved one?

Big hugs, 

Your Online Community Team

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Responses from Survivors to last week's question

How do you relieve stress in your daily life?

From Kelsey, mother of Michael: I relieve stress by reading and spending time with my grandson. 

From Claire, surviving granddaughter of Marlin: If I am stressed and have recognized that I am stressed, I make a point of expressing it, whether that means writing it down somewhere or talking to someone about it because at least I am not letting it bottle up inside me. For me expressing it in some way is already taking a bit of the weight of stress off my shoulders. It also helps me process the situation or situations that are causing me stress and helps me find solutions to maybe alleviate the stress.  

From Kristin, mother of Jonathan: One way I relieve stress is by taking a long, hot, Epsom salt bath.

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Recipe for the Week

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This week's recipe was shared by Patricia, mother of Christopher.

"This was Christopher’s favorite! We have renamed it 'Christopher’s sauce'. I made it recently for the first time since he died 5 years ago. It was for a friend whose husband was in hospice and I was told he rallied to have some and said it was 'outstanding.' Always made with love️!"

Aunt Olga’s Spaghetti Sauce and Meatballs: “Christopher’s Sauce”


  • 3 medium onions
  • 1 cup celery, chopped
  • 3 cloves garlic
  • Salt, pepper, rosemary, oregano, thyme
  • 2 large cans whole peeled tomatoes
  • 1 can tomato sauce
  • 1 lb. hamburger (optional)
  • ¼ cup good olive oil

Cooking Instructions

Brown onion, garlic, celery in olive oil. Add the hamburger if using and cook. Add 1 16 oz. can of tomato sauce and 2 large cans of whole peeled tomatoes. Simmer 3 to 4 hours, stirring occasionally.


  • 1 lb. hamburger
  • 1 cup grated cheese
  • 2 eggs - add pepper and garlic salt
  • Bread crumbs

Cooking Instructions

Mix all ingredients together in a bowl. Shape into small meatballs and braise in a skillet. Add sauce and simmer until done. Serve over your favorite spaghetti or pasta.


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Other Items and Events of Interest

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Join us on Memorial Day Weekend, May 28 to 30, for our 27th Annual National Military Survivor Seminar! We will be live streaming all of our general sessions with guest speakers.

Important Note: In-person registration is still open, but we are in a waitlist situation due to COVID occupancy restrictions in the State of Virginia. 

If you have any questions, email or call our Helpline at 202.588.TAPS (8277).

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