Saturday Morning Message: How We Will Honor Memorial Day

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

The springtime holidays from Mother’s Day to Father’s Day, with Memorial Day in between, can be stressful for many surviving adults and children. If there is a significant birth or angelversary date that occurs during this time, it can be even more emotional for the family. This year is particularly stressful with social distancing and the uncertainty that comes with living during a pandemic. For this reason, TAPS is holding a virtual national seminar that you can attend from your own home. You’ll be able participate online in the company of others through a variety of sessions.To  register or for more information, go to Virtual National Military Survivor Seminar and Family Program. Whatever your plans for the week of Memorial Day, know that your TAPS family is here to support you.

Hugs,
Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon

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Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: What are you going to do to honor your loved one on this Memorial Day?

From Donna, mother of Eric: Our son was KIA on May 26, 2012, the Saturday of Memorial weekend. Each year we host his battle buddies for a long weekend. Some even stay a week. This year, it isn't feasible to have everyone come. A memorial wall group that's about two hours away from us has asked for us to come each year and we just haven't been able to go with all the boys here. So this year, we will be attending their memorial service and get an etching of our son's name on their wall. They have a formal plan for us to get the etching, so Eric will be highlighted during the ceremony. It will be very different this year. Usually I'm so busy cooking for 30 Marines and family that I don't have any time to be sad or wallow. I'm not sure what to expect this year. 

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at online@taps.org and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.

 

Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

This week’s question comes from Lalaine, daughter of Francisco. She writes, “No one knows more the true meaning of Memorial Day than our TAPS families. It is not just a holiday for us, but a lifetime of grief and memories of a love that can't be contained to only one day in the year. If someone were to greet you saying ‘Happy Memorial Day’ how would you respond? How have you responded in the past? Has your answer changed since your loss?” We look forward to your response.

The Saturday Morning Message was created so survivors can share questions and read how others respond. I am always looking for questions for future messages. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing online@taps.org. In order to have your reply included the following week, it is best to send your response to me by Tuesday morning. Thank you to everyone responding this week and those who read this message.

 

♫ Song for the Week

This week’s song is from Laura, spouse of Gregory, who wrote, “Greg always enjoyed driving me nuts with a metal song like, "Let the Bodies Hit the Floor". I’d yell at him to turn it down and he’d tell me that his Grandma always told him how music soothes the soul of a savage beast! Let the bodies hit the floor is now on my workout playlist!" 

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at online@taps.org and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another.

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at online@taps.org and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.

 

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UPCOMING VIDEO AND TEXT CHATS
 

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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.


Other Items and Events of Interest
 

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A Breath of Fresh Air

We want to help you reconnect with nature in simple, yet meaningful ways with monthly themes and weekly activities you can do anywhere. Join us as we navigate the wilds of our natural world and the wilds of your grief. You will have access to downloadable content, videos, and articles each week and a family campfire at the end of each month! Find nature where you live, whether it be in your community or your own backyard. Join in our activities and snap a photo to share with us. Let's join together for a Breath of Fresh Air!

#ListenLearnLove 

The TAPS National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar is going virtual. Held October 16-18, you will hear from others who have walked the road you are traveling. Sessions will offer vital information on anxiety, loss and family dynamics, talking to children and more. The grief that follows suicide loss can be uniquely complicated. You are not alone, and we invite you to join us for a time of hope and healing. 

Celebrating 20 Years of Team TAPS 

For 20 years, Team TAPS has honored our heroes and raised awareness and funds to support the TAPS mission. This year, in celebration of our 20th anniversary, we are coming together to create a virtual movement. We will walk, run, bike, swim, and row - find ways to move in honor of our loved ones. We will gain strength, go the distance, and encourage each other. Join us for this adventure

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.
 

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We're all in this together

Have you lost your job or have reduced household income? How has the pandemic made an impact on your life? If you are grieving the death of a loved one, and their life included military service, we'd like to hear from you.

Your feedback will be used to improve TAPS programs and to communicate survivor needs to donors and stakeholders. Please share how COVID-19 has impacted you by taking our survey.

 

Did you lose your loved on due to an illness loss

If your military loved one suffered with a wound, illness, or injury, please consider taking our new Illness Loss Survivor Survey, so TAPS can honor your loved one through our advocacy efforts.

If you took the survey last year, we ask that you retake it as we've made important updates. Your response could help shape policy and legislation, and direct future TAPS programs and services. To learn more, email illnessloss@taps.org

Those who take either survey will receive a discount to the TAPS store for providing this important and valuable feedback.
 

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The TAPS Daily: Did you know, that during these challenging times, TAPS is publishing a daily round-up of news stories, resources and thought pieces from across the military, veteran and TAPS community?

Read the latest edition.

 

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AmazonSmile is a simple way for you to support TAPS every time you shop, at no cost to you. Visit smile.amazon.com, log in, and select TAPS as your charity of choice. Amazon will give 0.5% of your eligible purchases to TAPS.


About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

To subscribe or contribute to the Saturday Morning Message email online@taps.org.

If you ever need to speak to someone regarding an urgent matter or just need a listening ear, the loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please feel free to contact TAPS at 800-959-8277.