Saturday Morning Message: The Power of Music to Heal

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

This week’s message centers around music and how it can help us as it enables us to tell others about our loved ones. The Roots & American Music Society partnered with Bonnie Carroll, founder and president of TAPS, to create a song titled “Love Lives On,” which was released yesterday, so it is our song of the week. Give it a listen, and tell me what you think. Bonnie is shown in the photo with producer Jimmy Nichols. I hope you will also enjoy reading the memories and listening to the songs from survivors featured this week.

Jimmy Nichols and Bonnie Carroll

Remember, you can write to me anytime — to contribute, subscribe or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is online@taps.org.

Hugs,
Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon

 

Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: What song has helped you on your grief journey? Tell us a little bit about how it helped.

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From Charlene, mother of Devin: This question took some thought, especially since the TAPS playlist has so many beautiful, inspirational and sorrowful songs. By far the song that brings me the most hope and inspiration is Carrie Underwood’s  "See You Again." It reminds me that Devin and I will be together again and until that happens “I will carry you with me.“ Also the song has a personal attachment, because it was played at the memorial park on his first birthday after we lost him. My daughter Caitlin downloaded the song for him that day and we let balloons go while she played it.

From Laura, daughter of James: "Rocky Mountain High" by John Denver. My dad liked his music and when it comes on the radio now, I smile and turn it up. I still get teary eyed, but it reminds me of the Green Mountains of Vermont where dad was born and raised. 

From Elizabeth, spouse of Joseph: A popular song when my husband Joe and I started dating in 1967 was "You're Just Too Good To Be True."  Although we never decided on "our song," that was always the way I thought about him. That wasn't always easy as his PTSD got worse over the years, but some part of me always felt that way. I sometimes sing or recite it to myself since he died in 2017. He died a little over a month before the 50th anniversary of our first date.

From Leslie, mother of Eugene: Believe it or not I was watching Oprah when the three tenors from Canada were introduced and I just fell in love with their version of the song, "Hallelujah," which included Celine Dion. I basically turn into a hot mess upon listening to the song, but it gives me great joy to hear it. I have no explanation as to my reaction to this beautiful song other than I think of Gene every time I hear it.

From Suzanne, mother of Brian: "Don't Stop Believin" by Journey.That was my Brian's go-to karaoke song sung in his 'rock star' voice. I played it at his memorial. Everytime I hear it, I smile.

From Shelton, father of Adam: My choice is "Kryptonite" by 3 Doors Down. He thought he was Superman! Invincible! But PTSD was his Kryptonite.

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at online@taps.org and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.

 

Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

The question this week comes from Perry, father of Christopher. He wants to know: Did your loved one ever play a trick or prank on you? What was it? It might be fun to share these memories since the next Saturday Morning Message will be sent just before April Fool’s Day.  We look forward to your responses! 

Questions are the backbone of the Saturday Morning Message. In order to keep the Saturday Morning Message fresh, I am looking for more questions. If you have questions or topics you would like to see addressed in the Saturday Morning Message, you can email me at online@taps.org. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. Replies to the weekly question are best sent to me by Tuesday morning. You are an important part of this message, and I look forward to your questions or any ideas you may have.

 

♫ Song for the Week

This week’s song is "Love Lives On," created by the Roots & American Music Society who partnered with Bonnie Carroll, TAPS founder and president. The link on the song title will take you to a webpage describing more about how this song came to be. If you would like to purchase the song go to lovelivesonmusic.com

You can send favorite songs for this song of the week section at online@taps.org and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.

 

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UPCOMING VIDEO AND TEXT CHATS
 

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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.


Other Items and Events of Interest
 

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Celebrating National Mentoring Month

During this National Mentoring Month, we want to express our gratitude for all of our mentors:

  • TAPS Peer Mentors who take their experience as a military survivor and offer support to those new to grief.
  • Military and Legacy Mentors who companion the youngest members of our family, offering a safe and supportive community.

Connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or LinkedIn throughout the month, where we will be sharing resources and articles about mentoring, along with quotes and testimonials from our mentors and mentees.

Webinar: Mindfulness as Your Superpower

On Thursday, January 28 at 12 p.m. Eastern, the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing® will present a free webinar, "Mindfulness as Your Superpower."

Mindfulness isn’t just for naturally calm people. It is a superpower that can help us cope with the most challenging emotions—even grief. Using superhero case examples, during this workshop, you will learn how mindfulness can help you navigate loss, improve your health, and cultivate much-needed compassion for your grieving heart. 

Join TAPS At One of Our 2021 Seminars

Registration is now open for our 2021 Regional Seminars and our National Military Survivor Seminar. In - Person and Virtual Opportunities are available.

TAPS Seminars offer a comprehensive model of care that brings together adult survivors of all ages for a weekend of hope and healing. Whether you recently lost your hero, have lived many years without them or are somewhere in between, TAPS Seminars are designed to meet you where you are in your grief journey. 

Breath of Fresh Air with TAPS Outdoors: Breathing In The New Year

TAPS Outdoors wants to help you reconnect with the natural world in simple yet meaningful ways with weekly activities you can do anywhere. (Yes, we really mean anywhere.) Our goal is to connect you with the healing power of nature no matter where you live and give you the tools to make meaning out of your experiences. 

As many of us have experienced in our grief, a year of great loss and challenge can also give way to new life and hope. Join us in January for Breathing In The New Year, as we transition into a new year and explore the wild, forging new paths together in our hearts and set foot on trails we've yet to see. 

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.


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We're All In This Together

COVID-19 Support and Resources

At TAPS, we’re no stranger to challenging times, and we’re all doing our part to support one another and get through these difficult times together. As always, TAPS is here 24/7, and our team is working hard to provide resources, services and support to surviving military families as they navigate the challenges of COVID-19. For more information or questions, visit our COVID-19 Response and Resources page or please email us at info@taps.org.


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Choose TAPS as Your AmazonSmile Charity of Choice

AmazonSmile is a simple way for you to support TAPS every time you shop, at no cost to you. Visit smile.amazon.com, log in, and select TAPS as your charity of choice. Amazon will give 0.5% of your eligible purchases to TAPS.


About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

To subscribe or contribute to the Saturday Morning Message email online@taps.org.

If you ever need to speak to someone regarding an urgent matter or just need a listening ear, the loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please feel free to contact TAPS at 202-588-8277.