Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts on Napping
Author: Carol Lane
Survivors find that sleep can be difficult when grieving. Sometimes taking a nap can be helpful especially when sleep escapes us during the night. Napping is one of the things we naturally do as children, but not as adults. I have found it helpful when I have had a rough night or I need to stay up later than usual, like when I moderate a TAPS online chat. Napping isn’t for everyone, especially those who have to be at work, so I have included additional ideas to get more rest when your sleep is broken at the end of this message.
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Mother of Bryon
Answers from Survivors
Responses from Survivors to last week's question: How often do you take a nap? And does it help you to recharge and feel refreshed?
From Leslie, mother of Eugene: I call them power naps. Set the clock for about 25 minutes. Then I find after a 25-minute nap, I am refreshed and ready to continue what I was too tired to do before the nap. I think it would be smart for corporations to have a nap room or even a meditation room. Not only does it help with the stress, but it helps with productivity. I think it’s a win-win situation all the way around.
From Sandra, mother of Josh: I take a nap almost every day. It is a necessity. I go to sleep late and wake up early. I am a six-hour sleeper but I need eight hours of sleep and can make it up with a nap. I have tried to alter my bedtime and delete my naps many times throughout the years to no avail. After my nap, I definitely feel refreshed and energized. I wake up, fix a mug of hot tea, do some chores, run some errands or start cooking dinner. It is like waking up to a new day. Also, a nap boosts my immune system and is beneficial to my mental and physical wellbeing. In regards to grief, a nap is definitely one more necessary tool in self care that is much needed in coping with the loss of a loved one. If I am unable to nap, I will feel grumpy, fatigued, and more emotional. Naps can be very important to our grief journey.
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Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message
TAPS has been working with the nonprofit Roots and American Music Society to create an album of songs connected to survivors. On March 20, 2020, the single, “Love Lives On” will be released. So let’s make next week’s Saturday Morning Message all about music. What song has helped you on your grief journey? Tell us a little bit about how it helped. We look forward to your responses.
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♫ Song for the Week
Some people find listening to music helpful to calm our minds when sleep comes hard, so this week’s song section includes a group of relaxing sleep music pieces. We hope you will find them helpful.
You can send your favorite songs for this song of the week section at firstname.lastname@example.org and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.
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