Saturday Morning Message: Funny Moments

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

Sharing memories of our loved ones sometimes makes us laugh and they always make us feel less alone. This week’s Saturday Morning Message shares some of the times that make us laugh. Enjoy this week’s message.

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Remember, you can write to me anytime — to contribute, subscribe or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is

Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon


Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: What is one of the funniest things your loved one did? 

From Bob, father of John: Kitty, John, his wife Delfie and I had all gone to the Big Island of Hawaii for R & R for John. While there we visited several touristy sites and among them was the Volcano House. We were standing outside looking into the cauldron of lava when a voice came from behind me and said, "Bob, what are you doing here?" I turned around and said, "Mrs. North, how are you?" This was a teacher from my school who had retired about four years earlier. John looked at me and said, "My God, do you know everybody?" This occurred after three other encounters on the island where I had recognized different people. I further replied to him, "And you always wondered how I knew what you kids were doing." I think he remained baffled for years.

From Kelsey, mother of Michael: I was making a salad and asked Bear to help. I gave him a head of lettuce and told him to hit it on the counter to take the stem out. He rammed it down and lettuce flew everywhere. I said, “I guess that's my fault for asking a Marine to hit lettuce!”

Sheryl, mother of Adam*: Adam and his father were both theater majors in college. One Christmas they dressed up as kings and sang a disco version of “We Three Kings. The rest of the family laughed until we cried. I smile whenever I hear that song.

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.

*corrected on January 29, 2020.


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

The question this week was given to me by Lalaine, daughter of Francisco. It is: What is one dish you ate that brought you comfort in the early stages of your loss? Was it something someone made for you? Was it something you made for yourself? We should have some interesting answers to this question. We look forward to your responses. 

Questions are the backbone of the Saturday Morning Message. In order to keep the Saturday Morning Message fresh, I am looking for more questions. If you have questions or topics you would like to see addressed in the Saturday Morning Message, you can email me at I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. Replies to the weekly question are best sent to me by Tuesday morning. You are an important part of this message, and I look forward to your questions or any ideas you may have.


♫ Song for the Week

This week’s song, "Memories," sung by Maroon 5 is from Leslie, mother of Eugene, who wrote, “We do wish our loved ones were here, but they are not. The memories and love are what we have left. So true.”

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.


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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.

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If you are a military surviving sibling, we invite you to share about your grief experience and perceptions of support you have received in a Military Sibling Grief Survey being conducted by Dr. Courtney Sanchez, a Gold Star sibling and doctor of psychiatric medicine with Prisma Health Midlands in Columbia, South Carolina.

Participation in this survey is completely anonymous. Dr. Sanchez's goal is to create a better understanding of this unique survivor population in order to help provide support for surviving siblings.


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About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

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