Saturday Morning Message: Educational webinars on grief and loss

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

Webinars from the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing are one of our many gifts to survivors. They can be really helpful while dealing with grief. Our live webinars are archived for those who aren't able to watch them in real time. Live ones usually include a text chat with time to ask questions of the presenter. The archived ones can be paused in case you can’t watch the whole presentation at once.  

The picture today comes from those archives and shows the webinar “Meditation for Coping with Difficult Emotions.” In it, TAPS Advisory Board member Heather Stang talks about meditation techniques to help when the emotions of grief overtake us. Use this link to browse the full archive of TAPS Webinars.

Heather Stang webinar

Debby, spouse of Thomas, wrote, “I hope others have discovered the extremely beneficial resource that TAPS offers to our survivor community. It’s a hidden gem and I know from my own personal experience how much it has helped me along in my personal grief journey. The webinars cover various topics on coping and other aspects of how to manage various special occasions.” 

Debby is looking forward to the November 20 titled “So Much Has Changed: Managing Secondary Losses During the Holidays.” You can register now to attend it. 

Other upcoming live seminars:

You can register now to attend them. More information on the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing can be found online.

Remember, you can write to me anytime — to contribute, subscribe or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you.  My email address is

Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message

Bonnie, mother of Andrew, sent this question, “Sometimes my dreams have my son in them but not always, and often they are so convoluted with so many experiences and people from my life. I often remember them for a while after I wake up, but sometimes I just want to forget them. Other times I am happy for the dreams.” 

The question this week is: What are your dream experiences? We look forward to reading your responses. 

Questions are the  backbone of the Saturday Morning Message. In order to keep the Saturday Morning Message fresh, I am looking for more questions. If you have questions or topics you would like to see addressed in the Saturday Morning Message, you can email me at I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. Replies to the weekly question are best sent to me by Tuesday morning. You are an important part of this message, and I look forward to your questions or any ideas you may have.



♫ Song for the Week

Elizabeth, spouse of Joseph, sent in the song for this week. Elizabeth wrote, “My husband Joe was crazy about babies and loved to sing "I Love You a Bushel and a Peck" to them. When he was a hospice patient and it was obvious his death would be any minute, our youngest daughter decided we should sing that to him. He took about two more breaths after we started and died peacefully. I had not understood before that it’s a privilege to be with someone you love who’s dying. The song was very comforting to all of us who were there.”

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at

Other Items and Events of Interest

Caregiver to Survivor Program banner

TAPS recognizes the urgent need to support families who have lost a military loved one after having been a caregiver. The leading cause of death of our military loved ones is reported by survivors to be illness, but we know there are many survivors that experienced a loss after having cared for a loved one who was traumatically injured or diseased as well. 

At TAPS we understand, and we’re here to support our survivors as they navigate a grief journey that may have begun even before the death of your loved one. And, we are mindful of the differences present when someone has been a caregiver before they have transitioned to a survivor. The Caregiver to Survivor Program was developed with this in mind. 

We invite you to explore our resources and encourage you to reach out for support and take advantage of this exciting new program. 

▶▶  Connect With Other Survivors of Illness Loss

Join with other caregivers who supported their loved one through a devastating illness. Honor and share your loved one, the emotions, issues and challenges facing bereaved caregivers. Regardless of the circumstance or geography of the death, you are welcome in the TAPS Caregiver Support Chat. 

Caregiver to Survivor Chat
Wednesday, May 19
8:00 p.m. - 9:30 p.m. Eastern
We hope to see you there!

▶▶  Connect With Your TAPS Family 

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS Family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.

Did you lose your loved one due to an illness?

Illness Loss Survey

If your military loved one suffered with a wound, illness, or injury, please consider taking our new Illness Loss Survivor Survey, so TAPS can honor your loved one through our advocacy efforts. 

If you took the survey last year, we ask that you retake it as we've made important updates. Your response could help shape policy and legislation, and direct future TAPS programs and services. To learn more, email

About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication contributed by survivors. The primary focus of the SMM is to foster peer-based connections for support and encouragement. It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive place where we can openly share in a nonjudgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable. Content submitted for the SMM is edited for space considerations and may be used in other TAPS publications. The loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please call 202-588-TAPS (8277).