Saturday Morning Message: Enjoyable Activities

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

Sharing enjoyable activities with a loved one can be the high point of our lives. When those activities are things we did with our loved ones, continuing to do them may keep these special people close to us. The picture today is one I took of a trip to Maine with the whole family when the kids were young. I still love to go to the beach. Sometimes I sit by the ocean or the lakes in my region and contemplate those pleasurable memories.

Beach and ocean scene

Would you like to share a question or read how other survivors respond to a topic or question you have? I need more questions, responses to questions and songs to keep the Saturday Morning Message interesting. It can be helpful to read and hear how others cope. I encourage you to send your contributions to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing me at

Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon


Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: What is something you and your loved one enjoyed doing together that you still do now?

From Georgianna, mother of Jamie: My son and I worked out a lot together as he was growing up. When he went into the Navy, we would share our workouts over the phone. I am really picking my workouts up now, because I kind of ate too much lately and from missing him. I don't want to eat on my emotions. I recently moved to a new area, and joined a gym. This gym has a pool. My son was on the swim team in high school and received honors. What is going to be great is when I am swimming, I know he is swimming with me. It is a new normal way of life to learn to live. I have to go swimming now. God bless everyone.

From Mary, TAPS supporter: My favorite sister, Annette, who was 13 months younger than me, died a few years ago. We used to love to scrapbook together and give those as gifts to loved ones. She always complimented me no matter how badly it turned out. Today I send out scrapbook/collage cards I hand make with her in spirit next to me.

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message

As we head into the giving season, it can be helpful to remember the gifts our loved ones gave us just by being themselves. We remember the little things that made them so special. I know when I think of my son, Bryon, I remember the times we spent together and his ability to bring a smile to my face when he unexpectedly called from wherever he was. Now I make sure that I call those who are close to my heart every once in awhile just to say that I was thinking of them. I hope it warms their hearts as much as those calls did mine. So the question for the week is: What is a gift that your loved one left for you that you now pass along to others? I am looking forward to reading your thoughts and sharing them next week in the Message.


♫ Song for the Week

This week’s song, "Be Without You" sung by Mary J Blige was sent by Essie, mother of Tysheena.

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.


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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.

Other Items and Events of Interest

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TAPS Store: Free Holiday Shipping Promotion

Planning to do your holiday shopping with TAPS? Our TAPS Online Store is excited to announce our holiday shipping promotion. From Friday, November 27 through Sunday, December 13, spend $50 in the TAPS Online Store and receive FREE ground shipping. 

Women's Empowerment - December Programming

Are you looking for additional support during this time? You may just find your sisterhood during our Women's Empowerment programming events! Beginning on December 4, a variety of sessions are available daily from Tuesday to Friday of each week and are open to all TAPS women wrestling with questions of identity and purpose after loss. 

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.

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Wreaths Across America

TAPS and Wreaths Across America have teamed up to honor those who served and died for our country Please honor and remember our country’s fallen heroes by sponsoring a Remembrance Wreath that will be laid on the graves of our military and veteran loved ones. Orders for 2020 placement must be made by end of day on Monday, November 30, 2020. You could also join us on December 19, 2020, by volunteering to lay wreaths. Invite your family and friends, as well.

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Military Sibling Grief Survey

If you are a military surviving sibling, we invite you to share about your grief experience and perceptions of support you have received in a Military Sibling Grief Survey being conducted by Dr. Courtney Sanchez, a Gold Star sibling and doctor of psychiatric medicine with Prisma Health Midlands in Columbia, South Carolina.

Participation in this survey is completely anonymous. Dr. Sanchez's goal is to create a better understanding of this unique survivor population in order to help provide support for surviving siblings.


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Choose TAPS as Your AmazonSmile Charity of Choice

AmazonSmile is a simple way for you to support TAPS every time you shop, at no cost to you. Visit, log in, and select TAPS as your charity of choice. Amazon will give 0.5% of your eligible purchases to TAPS.

About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

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