Saturday Morning Message: 4th of July Ideas

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

The picture this week comes from the TAPS files. I thought it would be perfect for the 4th of July edition of the Saturday Morning Message as it has a very large US flag flown by a balloon with the TAPS inscription showing the strong connection between TAPS and our country. 

The 4th of July is another one of those holidays that can bring different emotions to various people. This year I plan to be at a camp on a small lake with my husband’s family. It is always a great time just relaxing, talking with people I don’t see often and listening to the waves wash up against the shore.

Parachutist with TAPS Parachute at PGA Champions Boca Raton Tournament

I hope you enjoy reading the thoughts that other survivors have written. The question was open, so survivors could write about actual activities or share dreams that someday may come true. You can always write to tell me what you did this year. Your activities would make a wonderful addition to the monthly Writer’s Circle put together for those who like to write about their journey and read what others write.

Remember, you can write to me anytime — to contribute, subscribe or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is

Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon


Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: What would you like to do for the 4th of July this year?

From Leslie, mother of Eugene: The 4th of July includes BBQ, fireworks and the birth of a nation. What would I like to do? In my dreams I would like to attend the New York City 4th of July fireworks cruise. If there is a 4th of July concert, that would be great, too.

From Samira, mother of Andres: I will be honoring my son, Andres, again this year. I will do our traditional 4th of July that Andres and I had. I go to Epcot to see the fireworks and I eat his favorite food, which are chicken fingers!

From Kitty, mother of John: My younger brother, Ken, had a heart attack just before Christmas this past year. He stated that, if possible, he would like to see the marker placed at our father's burial site in Bushnell, Florida. Our father was a combat medic at Guadalcanal during WWII. He is buried alongside our mother, a WWII Army 1st lieutenant and our grandmother, a WWI Army nurse, in France.

Since I won't be riding on a float in the three-hour Santa Clarita July 4th parade in California nor visiting our son's grave, I would like to visit the Florida National Cemetery in Bushnell on this July 4th with our family, my brother, his wife, my sister and my husband. This will be a very special and memorable day.

From Bonnie, mother of Case: For the 4th of July, we will be spending a few days with family at the beach. This is a needed distraction for me. My son, Case, LOVED the 4th of July and LOVED fireworks and all things that go bang! This is another hard time for me, so I have chosen to stay busy and be around people who love me. This is not really what I want to do, but I think this is a smart thing to do since I know this will be rough for me. I have found that if I surround myself with others, even when I want to sit in my closet and cry, it helps my heart. I miss my son every second of every day, but I promised him I would do my best, so I plan in advance to do things I can't really back out of easily, like making a hotel reservation.

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message

Since the summer season is underway, let’s share some of the special activities that took place in this season with our loved ones, so the question this week is: What is your favorite summer memory or vacation with your loved one? We look forward to your responses.  

We can honor our loved ones by communicating with each other through writing. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. In order to have your reply included in the week’s Saturday Morning Message, it is best to send it to me by Tuesday morning of the following week. Thank you to everyone responding this week and those who read this message.


♫ Song for the Week

During one of the general chats, we talked about a British group called the D-Day Darlings singing songs to remember those who have sacrificed for our freedom. Two of their songs were sent by survivors and I think they make the perfect songs for this week. 

Perry, father of Christopher sent “We’ll Meet Again” and Debra, spouse of Thomas, sent “I’ll Remember You”

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at

Other Items and Events of Interest

Arlington Cemetery family at headstone

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About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication contributed by survivors. The primary focus of the SMM is to foster peer-based connections for support and encouragement. It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive place where we can openly share in a nonjudgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable. Content submitted for the SMM is edited for space considerations and may be used in other TAPS publications. The loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please call 202-588-TAPS (8277).