Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Quilts and Blankets

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

Blankets and quilts are made to keep us warm and comfortable. Sometimes they are made after the death of a loved one by someone who cares for us. Others make these special coverings from their loved one’s clothes to ease the heartache. This week survivors share pictures of these special comforters. The opening picture comes from Perry, father of Christopher, whose response you will read below. I have also taken a variety of answers to this question from the TAPS Facebook page. You can go there to read even more.

American flag throw blanket

Remember, you can write to me anytime — to contribute, subscribe or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is online@taps.org.

Hugs,
Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon

 

Answers from Survivors

Responses from Survivors to last week's question: Do you have a special quilt or blanket that makes you think of your fallen hero?

 

From Perry, father of Christopher: The opening picture is a throw blanket that was made by a lady in Indiana. It was given to me at the funeral. Rather than have it on the chair or couch, I have it hanging in my living room. Everyday I see it and think that Chris is watching over me and the house. 

 

quilt made by Andi

From Andi, spouse of Christopher: I made him a quilt every year for Christmas. The last year’s quilt has been on my bed. Others hang or are folded on display. Fifteen years of quilts. Going to make the next ones with some of his Hawaiian shirts. 

 

quilt of Courtney's dress blues

From Gail, mother of Courtney: This hangs in my living room window. The navy blue pieces are from Court's dress blues. I also had three quilts made from her shirts and stuff. The pink was her favorite South Carolina color. 

 

quilt of Brett's tee shirts

From Nancy, mother of Brett: My quilt! Made from many of the T-shirts my son often wore. He lost his battle with PTS and chronic physical pain from combat wounds. He died by suicide, but is alive and well in my heart, soul and every fiber of my being.

 

If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at online@taps.org and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.

 

Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

In this time of giving, it may be interesting to share with others a special gift that reminds us of our loved one, so the question is: Would you share a special item of your loved one that will help us get to know that person better? We look forward to your responses. 

We can honor our loved ones by communicating with each other through writing. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing online@taps.org. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. In order to have your reply included in the week’s Saturday Morning Message, it is best to send it to me by Tuesday morning of the following week. Thank you to everyone responding this week and those who read this message.

 

♫ Song for the Week

This week’s song "I’m Alive Again" was sent by Cheryl, mother of Jack. Cheryl wrote, “After Jack died my daughters gave me some songs that helped me. They did not remind me of Jack, but help my grieving heart. 

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at online@taps.org and include a note about why the song is meaningful to you.


UPCOMING VIDEO AND TEXT CHATS
 

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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.


Other Items and Events of Interest
 

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Celebrating National Mentoring Month

During this National Mentoring Month, we want to express our gratitude for all of our mentors:

  • TAPS Peer Mentors who take their experience as a military survivor and offer support to those new to grief.
  • Military and Legacy Mentors who companion the youngest members of our family, offering a safe and supportive community.

Connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or LinkedIn throughout the month, where we will be sharing resources and articles about mentoring, along with quotes and testimonials from our mentors and mentees.

Color and Flow: A Women's Empowerment Virtual Retreat

If you're a female survivor who can identify a disconnect between emotions and the physical body, we invite you to consider joining us for Color and Flow, an eight-week virtual retreat from February 12 to April 9, 2021 focusing on the ways that we feel blocked or unbalanced. Using movement and creativity, we’ll learn new languages for expressing ourselves and for resolving hurt, pain, and trauma. We’ll investigate where we’re closed off and where we’re wide open, working to understand how we can restore a healthy flow of emotions and energy. As we do, we’ll learn techniques for making sure that we can live vibrantly, even while we’re grieving - tapping into the power that comes from being able to function on the entire emotional spectrum. Color and Flow application now open.

Join TAPS At One of Our 2021 Seminars

Registration is now open for our 2021 Regional Seminars and our National Military Survivor Seminar. In - Person and Virtual Opportunities are available.

TAPS Seminars offer a comprehensive model of care that brings together adult survivors of all ages for a weekend of hope and healing. Whether you recently lost your hero, have lived many years without them or are somewhere in between, TAPS Seminars are designed to meet you where you are in your grief journey. 

Breath of Fresh Air with TAPS Outdoors: Breathing In The New Year

TAPS Outdoors wants to help you reconnect with the natural world in simple yet meaningful ways with weekly activities you can do anywhere. (Yes, we really mean anywhere.) Our goal is to connect you with the healing power of nature no matter where you live and give you the tools to make meaning out of your experiences. 

As many of us have experienced in our grief, a year of great loss and challenge can also give way to new life and hope. Join us in January for Breathing In The New Year, as we transition into a new year and explore the wild, forging new paths together in our hearts and set foot on trails we've yet to see. 

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.


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We're All In This Together

COVID-19 Support and Resources

At TAPS, we’re no stranger to challenging times, and we’re all doing our part to support one another and get through these difficult times together. As always, TAPS is here 24/7, and our team is working hard to provide resources, services and support to surviving military families as they navigate the challenges of COVID-19. For more information or questions, visit our COVID-19 Response and Resources page or please email us at info@taps.org.


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Choose TAPS as Your AmazonSmile Charity of Choice

AmazonSmile is a simple way for you to support TAPS every time you shop, at no cost to you. Visit smile.amazon.com, log in, and select TAPS as your charity of choice. Amazon will give 0.5% of your eligible purchases to TAPS.


About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

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If you ever need to speak to someone regarding an urgent matter or just need a listening ear, the loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please feel free to contact TAPS at 202-588-8277.