Saturday Morning Message: Special Places
Author: Carol Lane
This week’s message talks about a special place. Each summer our family went to the coast of Maine, which is shown in the opening picture today. We would go there in late August, just before school started, to catch the last of the warm weather, swim in the ocean and eat lobster. It was a fun time and I remember it fondly. Below, other survivors share memories of their special places.
If reading this blog brings up some memories for you, please feel free to write them down and send them to me. Monthly, I put together a longer selection called the Writer’s Circle, which includes longer essays, poems and other written pieces. You can sign up to receive it and I will be delighted to add your thoughts to the September edition.
I look forward to hearing from you for questions you would like to see in the Saturday Morning Message or any ideas on what might make it more helpful. My email address is email@example.com.
Mother of Bryon
Answers from Survivors
Responses from Survivors to last week's question: Is there a place you and your loved one went that is special just for the two of you?
From Alicia, mother of Nathan: We lived in Houston, Texas, from 1987 until we moved to Arizona in 2003. Our son, Nathan, grew up there from age 3 and went through school in the district where my husband and I worked. All of our friends there watched Nathan grow up and graduate from high school.
This past April, my husband and I went back to Houston to attend the wedding of one of our friends’ daughter, who was also close friends with Nathan. It was quite a happy reunion for all of us and a time not only to share the joy of our friend's daughter's wedding, but share stories about the kids, including Nathan, growing up together. This tight knit group of friends were the best relief for us to share stories openly, laugh and cry together.
Coming back to Arizona, both my husband and I shared a feeling that the trip was the best medicine we could have asked for to help us continue our journey without Nathan on this earth. We still mourn, yes, but also received a salve to help us spend more time celebrating our happy memories.
From Bonnie Jo, mother of Andrew: Andy was attending college locally and living with me. Often, maybe once a week or every two weeks, we went out to dinner or I had him invite his buddies in for a meal.
Once, the two of us went out in the late afternoon to a restaurant that was owned by the same company as the restaurant where my Andy worked as a waiter and bartender after classes.
Andy told the waiter to space out the dishes, so we could have time together as we were in no rush. That was great and so was the meal and the conversation. Andy and I could talk about anything at any time. I miss that for sure.
At the end of the meal, Andy asked the waiter, “Can I please speak with your manager?” The waiter was obviously upset and worried about what he might have done. The beauty of this is that Andy told this manager that he worked at another restaurant owned by this company and that he wanted the manager to recognize and acknowledge this young man’s excellent service!
Andy said, “Mom, when someone does a good or better job they should be applauded, so they know their work was recognized.”
At one or more of the events held for my son after he was killed, many officers told me how he was considered and honored to be the most caring, understanding and present medic they had ever met. He was also known for his listening skills.
If you would like to send a message thanking one or all of those who participated in this week’s Saturday Morning Message, send it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will make sure your thoughts are passed along to them.
Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message
Grieving can rob us of our creativity for awhile. We can give each other ideas about reviving this aspect of our lives, so this week’s question is: What do you do to express yourself creatively? Maybe it is through writing letters, building things, creating sewing projects or any other activity. I would love to share pictures of your creative expressions in next week’s Saturday Morning Message. You can also let us know about a creative activity you have been thinking about doing.
We can honor our loved ones by communicating with each other through writing. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing email@example.com. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. In order to have your reply included in the week’s Saturday Morning Message, it is best to send it to me by Tuesday morning of the following week. Thank you to everyone responding this week and those who read this message.
♫ Song for the Week
The song this week connects with our topic of going to special places. It is "I’ll Be Seeing You," sung by Rosemary Clooney, and was sent by Perry, father of Christopher. Perry wrote, “Coming from a family who served in WWII and as a history buff myself, this song touches me on so many levels. It is as relevant today as when it was written. The perspective of the singer is that of a loved one remembering the special places they had once shared together. We all have places like this. The song brings those memories back in a heartwarming way, remembering the life together.”
You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at firstname.lastname@example.org.