Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS

Author: Carol Lane

Good Morning,

Because it is Thanksgiving weekend, this Saturday Morning Message features a list of resources TAPS provides that I am thankful for as a survivor. Since a list of all the programs would make this message too long, I’ve only included some of the programs. Visit TAPS programs web page to learn more.

TAPS mentor and mentee at National Military Survivor Seminar

The picture today is from the TAPS website showing survivors participating in the 24th National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp. The 2019 National Seminar will be held May 24-27. Details will be announced soon. You are welcome to visit the TAPS Events Calendar to see the list of other events.

Connecting with others in your local area can be very comforting. TAPS has Care Groups in several different states. When you go to the TAPS website, you can find the Care Group locations provided by TAPS as well as a list of other resources near you.

Taking care of your Mind, Body and Spirit is very important during grief. The link will lead you to the programs to take care of your whole self. Another interesting program in this area is teams4taps. This is a way survivor can attend the favorite sports event of their fallen loved one. There are a wide variety of sporting events for survivors. 

The Online Community connects survivors throughout the year right from their own living rooms. Survivors need to be signed in before they can access the Online Community. To do that, go to the Programs section at the top of the TAPS website. Then click on the words Online Community. In addition to the variety of peer groups, there is a blog section. You can also access the video and text chats. A list of the upcoming chats is provided when you go to this page. 

When you are ready, you might want to become a Peer Mentor. This is a program designed to connect new survivors to others who are farther along on this grief journey. In this way, we never have to walk alone. This is how the weekly Saturday Morning Message came to be. I was a Peer Mentor and wanted to connect the mentees I had with others. Then it grew to what it is now. We can ask questions and respond or just read how others cope. As survivors began to write longer essays, poems, and send drawings, the monthly Writer’s Circle developed. You can receive either or both of these, by contacting me at

I hope this special edition of the Saturday Morning Message is helpful to you. We are thankful for all the ways TAPS provides comfort and care to our TAPS family. 


Remember, you can write to me anytime just to communicate or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is

Carol Lane
Mother of Bryon


Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

This week’s question came from a conversation in a recent general chat: What are your strategies for coping with the December holidays? We look forward to your replies.


♫ Song for the Week

This week I am sending you one of my favorite songs. It is just a fun song called “A Place in the Choir.” It is one of those songs to which you can clap hands or dance. It always brings me a smile. 

You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address.


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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.

Other Items and Events of Interest

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Women's Empowerment Programming

If you’re looking to connect with other surviving women, you may just find your sisterhood during our fall weekly Women’s Empowerment sessions! These sessions are open to all TAPS women wrestling with questions of identity and purpose after loss. You can join this safe, supportive online environment via webcam. Our weekly schedule offers sessions on Tuesday through Friday each week.

Central Regional Seminar 

Join us at the Central Regional Seminar on  November 13 to 15 for a time of sharing, hope, and healing. Our seminars are designed to meet you where you are and help you gain coping skills that will help you find meaning and purpose as you move forward on your grief journey. We are working to make arrangements for this event with safety in mind and look forward to being together again. Thanks to the generosity of our sponsors, TAPS provides all lodging, meals, materials, activities, and T-shirts at no cost to you.

Dare to Lead - Cohort 3

Whether you are looking to enhance your resume or just want to pick up a new skill or two, we are excited to offer a third cohort of our popular Dare to Lead series of workshops, beginning on Sunday, November 15. These sessions are open to TAPS Survivors wanting to bring more courage to their workplace, home, community, or school. It is applicable for both formal and informal leaders (all of us), executives, visionaries, and healers across all spectrums.

Creating New Holiday Traditions - Webinar

Accessing a spirit of holiday cheer in the midst of grief can be challenging and many may feel compelled to skip the holidays altogether. Especially this year, when so many gatherings and travel may be limited, cultivating holiday traditions that honor your grief and promote connection with others can be very healing. Join the TAPS Institute to discuss creative ways to engage in the holidays in ways that meet you where you are in your grief journey. This Creating New Holiday Traditions webinar is free and will be held Thursday, November 19 from 12:00 to- 1:00 p.m. Eastern. 

You can discover all the opportunities to connect with your TAPS family on our website at the TAPS Event Calendar.

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About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

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