Saturday Morning Message: An Ornament For Your Loved One
Author: Carol Lane
This week survivors sent answers to the question about making an ornament for their loved one. In addition to the unique responses, Samantha, fiance of Preston, sent this picture of her Christmas tree that I thought would make a great lead picture for this week’s message. Samantha wrote, “Christmas was my favorite holiday and I went all out. Preston went along with it to make me happy. When we went to get ornaments for our first tree together, he picked them all out. He wanted to go with a patriotic theme (red, white and blue). Some of my favorite memories are decorating the tree together. Now that he’s passed, I’ll continue the tradition of having an American-themed tree each year and use the ornaments that he picked out.”
Enjoy this week’s message. Remember, you can write to me anytime just to communicate or if you have thoughts on what could make the Saturday Morning Message more helpful. I look forward to hearing from you. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org.
Mother of Bryon
Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message
The responses to this week’s question can be used any time of the year. We all have days that are difficult. They can be holidays, birthdays, angelversaries, or other times that can be tough. We also have other family members and friends who need to know we care about them. This week’s question is: How do you let others close to you know you still love them while you are grieving? We look forward to your responses.
We can honor our loved ones by communicating with each other through writing. You never know how your words may touch the heart of another. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing email@example.com. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. In order to have your reply included in the week’s Saturday Morning Message, it is best to send it to me by Tuesday morning of the following week. Thank you to everyone responding this week and those who read this message.
♫ Song for the Week
Basmattie, mother of Kris, sent the song for the week which is “Every Rose Has Its Thorn” which is one that she said he loved.
You can send me favorite songs for this song of the week section at firstname.lastname@example.org. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address.
Answers from Survivors
Responses from Survivors to last week’s question: If you could give your loved one an ornament today, what would the ornament symbolize?
From Debby, wife of Thomas E: If I was able to give Tom a Christmas ornament, I think it would probably be a Salvation Army kettle. Tom never was able to pass one by without putting some money into it. The last Christmas that Tom was alive, there was a little red-headed boy outside of the grocery store that we always went to. The boy, who was about 5-years-old, was helping his dad with the bell ringing and was dancing his heart out. I remember Tom taking out his wallet again after putting in money and giving the little boy a dollar and telling him that it was for him, because he was such a good little helper.
This year, I was going into a grocery store and remembered that day and took my wallet out thinking about Tom and his kettle donations, and as I was putting money into the kettle I noticed a shiny penny laying on the top of the red kettle... it made me smile and I knew then that Tom was showing me he approved. Even if there wasn’t a little red-headed boy dancing his little heart out this time.
From Larry, husband of Alice: If I could give my spouse in heaven an ornament today, it would symbolize “love.” She was the love of my life; everything she did was in the name of love. She loved God, family and herself. She loved everybody and she lived it. You can’t do what she did and not go to heaven. I love her so much and I know how much she loved me. I tell her thank you everyday. It’s tough, but I think of her love in these times of the year as well as everyday. Looking back makes me wonder what God’s plan is. I’m often stuck. I try to let her light lead my actions and live loved.
From Debbie, wife of Thomas G: I would give an ornament that was a circle of mirrors, so he could see the hero he is as the son, the husband and father. He was the gift and is to so many. I would like him to see himself as every mirror shows how incredibly special he was and is to every person he made as a friend and to see how loved he is. I don't think he really knew what a joyful impact he had on people. I wish he realized it, so an ornament that is a circle of mirrors would let him to see for himself what he meant and did through his life's circle.
From Judy, mother of Nathan: If I could give my son an ornament today, I would give him one that symbolizes hope. Hope for a future. Operative word: future. A future he felt he had a part in. Hope for a future where he felt he mattered. A future full of love and a future where he felt surrounded by people who he knew in his soul would be there to support him. When Nathan died, I thought hope was gone. Over time, I realize I do have hope. Hope for a future with joy. With a lot of hard and continuous grief work, I have experienced joy since Nathan died. Matter of fact, now that I write this, I will add a “Hope” ornament to my tree this year.
From Beth, former spouse of Thomas: My spouse, Tom, loved many things — scuba diving, his Corvette, his Honda Blackbird motorcycle, being a locksmith and computers. His bipolar disorder caused him to take his life. I have been working on a star that says hope. I wish that I could have given Tom an ornament that said "Hope." Maybe that would have encouraged him to survive and know that the future could always be brighter.
From Andi, mother of Jacob: When my Jacob was a boy, we would do an ornament-making project every December so he could give them as gifts to his grandparents, aunts, uncles and teachers. In 2001, we glued his school picture to old computer software CDs and decorated them with fancy paper, stars, buttons and glitter glue. That one is still hanging on his grandparents’ refrigerator. His last Christmas in 2016 I Mod Podged family photos onto refrigerator magnets for his apartment. This year I wish he were here to make Swedish Stars out of folded paper, which I just learned how to do on YouTube. I got glitter spray for them, which I know he would love! If I could give him something, I would give him another chance to make ornaments for everyone who loves him. It’s so hard to go on without him and find a way to celebrate, but I am trying.
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