Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Foods

Author: Carol Lane

Good morning,

This week survivors wrote about the favorite foods of their loved ones. In addition, I thought it would be fun to share an article written by Marissa Donovan titled "Easy Fall Foods to Keep Your Spirits Up." The article includes some new recipes that look like they might be fun, like these Jack-O-Lantern stuffed peppers. Sometimes we find comfort in preparing the foods that have been a tradition, and other times it is better to find some new ideas. In this way, the Saturday Morning Message gives you choices. Thanks for all who responded this week and those who read the message.

Jack-O-Lantern Peppers

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Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message

We were talking on one of the Tuesday online chats and the topic came up about what we do to honor our loved ones. One person heard about a survivor who knits things for children born in the local hospital. Everyone thought that would be a good question for the Saturday Morning Message, so the question this week is: What do you do or what would you like to do to honor your loved one? Your work may inspire others. We look forward to reading your thoughts even if they are only in the idea phase right now.

Song for the Week

Patricia, mother of Kyle, sent the song this week, which is "The Wind Beneath My Wings" sung by Bette Midler. Patricia wrote, “Sometimes on days like today, I think of him and it reminds me of how much he has meant to me.”

Answers from Survivors

From Robert, father of Louis: Lou and I would work together on his deck and had Bratz which is Bratwurst, a German sausage, great on a hotdog roll, and Labatts afterward. It took me more than five years to be able to have that. Not the greatest fare in the world, but it was to us.

Still miss him terribly, especially on days like today.

From Leslie, mother of Eugene: My son liked to eat, especially when his brother graduated culinary school, but he loved my meatballs with baked ziti even more than the fancy dishes his brother could make from what seemed like nothing in the refrigerator. I was never sure he loved them because I made them or he loved them because his amazing Nani taught me how to make meatballs and sauce before I married his father. Nevertheless, that would be the food he wanted on leave.

From Merry, mother of Wesley: Wes really liked a "stuffed meatloaf." It was a meatloaf mixture in an 18x12 inch shape, spread with mashed potatoes, which included spinach and spices. It was then rolled up into a log shape and baked. One complete meal! The family liked it, too.

From Laura, mother of Nathaniel: Nathan was a foodie and loved to cook and eat everything in moderation, of course, but the one food that was special to us both are peanut butter cookies. They weren’t his favorite (I know he enjoyed them all), but they are mine. He’d often asked me to bake him some. Many times I’d received random text requests stating, “Madre, cookies.” To which I’d reply, “On their way.” I baked them fresh when he was in town. Because he lived in California the past few years, I’d order and ship some to him. I stocked up on Girl Scout cookies nearly every season just for him.

Now I include peanut butter cookies in new and recurring family traditions or I share them at potluck events simply to remember the love, honor his life and share the journey, internally.

From Bonnie Jo, mother of Andrew: Well, who does not like potatoes, mashed or scalloped or fried?

My son was a potato master since he was about 5 years old. He loved peeling them and actually taught his whole first-grade class how to do it. The teacher was so NOT happy when I went in there with Andy and five potato peelers. I guess she thought the kids were going to cut themselves for our joint parent/teacher Thanksgiving feast where the teacher did most of the work! Andy and I worked the classroom and no kid got cut, in fact, they loved it.

So, every year after, even when Andy came home from his first tour in Afghanistan and was able to spend that part of the holiday with us, he got a pile of potatoes to peel and cook and mash — so funny! He brought home his girlfriend, who was Asian, for Thanksgiving and she had never peeled a potato or even eaten one, so Andy showed and taught her how to do that.

Hey, it was a fun time for the family. Also, why not try this year the latest trend of cauliflower and mashed potato, healthier and so tasty, add a bit of cheese also. Happy holidays to all.


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Other Items and Events of Interest

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This Summer, Youth Programs is hosting TAPS Good Grief and Family Camp at Home through August 28. Each week, there are activities and challenges you can complete individually and as a family. Missed a week? No problem - all activities and challenges from previous weeks are available online. Join us for opportunities for you and the kids to connect to mentors and other families through Zoom sessions.

Make plans to join us for our next Virtual Military Survivor Seminar, August 21 and 22. We have new, dynamic sessions available throughout the weekend at no cost, with all of the resources, care and love we can offer, coming to you in the comfort of your home. We'll also have Share Groups, our facilitated support groups, where you can meet other survivors with similar loss experience. We look forward to seeing you online soon!

Save the date! Please join us for the Military Survivor New to Grief Seminar, once per week from September 3 to 24. Together we will work toward two primary goals. First, we will grow deeper understandings as we deconstruct myths about grief, explore the cognitive and physical impacts of grief, and seek to establish a helpful language around our own experiences. Second, we will establish community among our peers so that we have others who have a strong desire to accompany us as we continue navigating the ups and downs of our loss and grief.

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If your military loved one suffered with a wound, illness, or injury, please consider taking our new Illness Loss Survivor Survey before August 18th, 2020, so TAPS can honor your loved one through our advocacy efforts. If you took the survey last year, we ask that you retake it as we've made important updates. Your response could help shape policy and legislation, and direct future TAPS programs and services. To learn more, email

Have you lost your job, or have reduced work hours? Or are otherwise affected by COVID-19? If you are grieving the death of a loved one, and their life included military service, we'd like to hear from you. Your feedback will be used to improve TAPS programs and to communicate survivor needs to donors and stakeholders. Tell us more.

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About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

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