Saturday Morning Message: Warm Wishes for the New Year

Author: Carol Lane

Good Morning,

As we come to the beginning of 2018, it might be interesting to think about treating yourself since the passing season might have been very stressful especially for those who are grieving. In the article from the winter 2015 TAPS magazine, there is an article titled “Seven Strategies for the New Year” written by Brad Stetson. In it he encourages some activities that might be a help to comfort yourself. The article contains more of his thoughts on each item. 

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Brad Stetson’s List

1. Write yourself a comforting and encouraging letter.

2. Buy a big calendar, and use it.

3. Move your body, move your mind.

4. Realize that you do not need to "understand" your grief right now.

5. Decide that in the New Year, you will begin to focus a bit more on others, as a part of your loved one's legacy.

6. Listen to the music.

7. Wishing you well.

So next week’s message will center around the ideas  that you might have to treat yourself. We all look forward to reading some of the ideas next week from those who respond. 

The Saturday Morning Message was created so survivors can share questions and read how others respond. By sharing coping strategies, together we become stronger. I am always looking for questions for future messages. 

You never know how your words may touch the heart of another. I encourage you to reply to the Saturday Morning Message by emailing online@taps.org. I directly receive all responses that are sent to this address. In order to have your reply included in the week’s Saturday Morning Message, it is best to send it to me by Tuesday of the following week. This week's question is located below my signature. 

Hugs,
Carol 

Question for Next Week’s Saturday Morning Message 

This week the question connects to the article about strategies to treat yourself at the start of the new year, so the question is: What are your plans to treat yourself in the new year?

 ♫ Song for the Week 

Andy, father of Danny, came up witha great idea about putting the songs that have been submitted to the Saturday Morning Message on a playlist on Spotify. Spotify is an online music service that gives you access to all kinds of music. You will have to register to access free songs and the TAPS playlist. The TAPS playlist is called “Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors Songs of Love and Remembrance.” I thought the Song of the Week section would be a good place to put this list this week. If you have a song that is special to you or reminds you of your loved one, please send it along with a sentence or two about what makes this song distinctive so it can be used for a future Saturday Morning Message


UPCOMING VIDEO AND TEXT CHATS

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Visit the TAPS Online Community Calendar for this week's schedule of text and video chats and other offerings. We have a virtual gathering most days of the week. Whether you want to share your story or just read how other survivors are sharing and coping, this online grief support community is a way for you to develop and strengthen your connections with TAPS.


Other Items and Events of Interest

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This Summer, Youth Programs is hosting TAPS Good Grief and Family Camp at Home through August 28. Each week, there are activities and challenges you can complete individually and as a family. Missed a week? No problem - all activities and challenges from previous weeks are available online. Join us for opportunities for you and the kids to connect to mentors and other families through Zoom sessions.

Make plans to join us for our next Virtual Military Survivor Seminar, August 21 and 22. We have new, dynamic sessions available throughout the weekend at no cost, with all of the resources, care and love we can offer, coming to you in the comfort of your home. We'll also have Share Groups, our facilitated support groups, where you can meet other survivors with similar loss experience. We look forward to seeing you online soon!

Save the date! Please join us for the Military Survivor New to Grief Seminar, once per week from September 3 to 24. Together we will work toward two primary goals. First, we will grow deeper understandings as we deconstruct myths about grief, explore the cognitive and physical impacts of grief, and seek to establish a helpful language around our own experiences. Second, we will establish community among our peers so that we have others who have a strong desire to accompany us as we continue navigating the ups and downs of our loss and grief.

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Did you lose your loved on due to an illness loss

If your military loved one suffered with a wound, illness, or injury, please consider taking our new Illness Loss Survivor Survey before August 18th, 2020, so TAPS can honor your loved one through our advocacy efforts. If you took the survey last year, we ask that you retake it as we've made important updates. Your response could help shape policy and legislation, and direct future TAPS programs and services. To learn more, email illnessloss@taps.org.

Have you lost your job, or have reduced work hours? Or are otherwise affected by COVID-19? If you are grieving the death of a loved one, and their life included military service, we'd like to hear from you. Your feedback will be used to improve TAPS programs and to communicate survivor needs to donors and stakeholders. Tell us more.

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About the Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday Morning Message (SMM) is a weekly communication; written and contributed to by survivors. The primary focus of the Saturday Morning Message is to foster peer-based connection for support and encouragement.  It is the goal of this communication to foster a safe, supportive atmosphere where we can openly share in a non-judgmental and caring manner. Read and contribute as you are comfortable, and explore any opinions/ideas shared that are most beneficial to you on your individual journey. Content submitted for inclusion in the Saturday Morning Message is edited for spacing considerations, grammatical corrections and may be used in other TAPS publications.  

To subscribe or contribute to the Saturday Morning Message email online@taps.org.

If you ever need to speak to someone regarding an urgent matter or just need a listening ear, the loving family at TAPS is available to you 24 hours a day. Please feel free to contact TAPS at 800-959-8277.