"Postvention is a critical component of any comprehensive suicide prevention strategy." ~ Kim Ruocco, Vice President, TAPS Suicide Prevention & Postvention


 

 

Suicide Loss Support: We've Got You

TAPS has supported thousands of survivors of military suicide loss by offering them hope, healing, and renewed opportunities for personal growth. If you’ve lost a military loved one to suicide, you've come to the right place. We've got you. At TAPS we understand that suicide grief is different. We know that you are struggling with a range of powerful emotions and wrestling with very complicated questions. Why did this happen? Where do I go from here?

Fortunately, you are not alone on this journey. We are survivors just like you. We have been down the road you are traveling. Let us help you best honor your loved one’s life. TAPS special resources and programming provide compassionate care to all survivors of military suicide loss. Our unique approach will help stabilize you and your family, guide you through "healthy grief," and put you on a path toward healing and growth.

We are you. You are us. Let's heal together.

 

10 things we know to be true

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You are not alone.

Grief can feel very isolating, but you don't have to walk this journey alone. We've been down the road you're traveling, and we are here for you.


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You will NOT always feel this much pain.

As time passes, the hurt you feel now will change. We know from experience that your emotional pain will subside and soften with time. It won't always feel like it does right now.


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Most people who die by suicide do not want to die. They want their pain to end.

Whatever pain brought our loved ones to end their lives, it inhibited them from thinking clearly and from fully comprehending the heartbreak their suicides would cause.


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Suicide is the "perfect storm" event.

Suicide is rarely the result of just one person, conversation, or event. It usually involves multiple, complex factors that culminate in a "perfect storm."


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You can’t prevent what you can’t predict.

There was no way you could have known it would happen that very day, at that precise moment. You cannot control the thoughts and actions of others.


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Eventually, the questions will cease to be so all encompassing.

"Why?" "What if?" Most of us who have experienced suicide loss wrestle with these and other questions for a long time. This is normal. It helps us to learn enough "to suffice," to process our thoughts so that we can eventually find peace.


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What you tell yourself matters.

How you talk to yourself about what happened can shape the experience of your grief journey. Trust what you know about your loved one, and choose to tell yourself the story that best helps you heal.


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Suicide is not a reflection of love.

People who die by suicide may have believed they were a burden to the people they loved. They thought that their families would be better off without them. Whereas we know this to be untrue, our loved ones could not see clearly through the fog of their emotional pain.


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How you cope with this is up to you.

You didn't choose for this to happen to you, but you do get to decide how to respond to it. You have a say in how you heal.


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Love never ends.

When your loved one died, the love you shared didn't just stop. Your relationship continues. Keep the memories alive in all that you do.

For survivors in need of immediate suicide postvention support, please contact us at 800-959-8277

 

 

We invite you

to access some of our most important resources created to assist you as we all navigate this difficult time. See additional resources on mental health, suicide prevention and postvention.

 

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8 Ways to Cope After a Suicide Loss

Learn coping skills to help with your grief from survivors who lost their loved ones to suicide.

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How to talk to children about suicide loss

Telling a child about suicide can be daunting.  Read some suggestions to help you navigate this difficult subject.

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Postvention Webinar: Healing After Suicide

Postvention is a term unfamiliar to many people, yet it is a critical component of suicide prevention.

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A Father's Journey to Healing and Helping Others

You have to take care of yourself in order to be a solid source of support to another.

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Overcoming Trauma

Grief and trauma must be separated out and treated independently. Learn the difference and options for trauma-informed care and treatment.

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How the Pandemic is Affecting Mental Health in Diverse U.S. Communities

Medical News Today: Some groups may face a disproportionate mental health impact during the COVID-19 pandemic.

 


Programs and Services

Death is not the defining feature of a life. On the contrary. TAPS has created special resources and programming that provide compassionate care to survivors so they can best honor their loved one’s entire story.

 

TAPS Family at Suicide Seminar
Suicide Survivor Seminar

One weekend each fall, TAPS suicide loss survivors gather at a resort to continue the work of healing. The program includes peer-to-peer grief support, access to resources and experts,  grief workshops, art therapy, family entertainment, and LOVE.

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Survivor Care Team

TAPS staff, who are trained and caring survivors, reach out to new surviving family members as peer professionals. These trained and caring survivors understand well the road you are traveling. They are available around the clock to help.

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Peer Mentor Program

Suicide loss survivors are paired with peer mentors who have themselves experienced a loss due to suicide. Our peer mentors are there to listen when you need someone to talk to, to be a friend when you're feeling lonely, and to celebrate the triumphs.

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Connect Online

TAPS hosts a live online chat twice a month for just suicide loss survivors that is moderated by our suicide survivor staff members, as well as other ways to stay connected virtually. Join us to learn more.

 


related articles

Hear from those who have been down the road you are traveling. See additional articles on suicide loss.

 

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Little Things Mean a Lot During Stressful Times

COVID-19 has impacted all of us in ways we might not have expected. Here are some practical tips to help you deal with stress and anxiety.

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How I learned to take ownership of my grief

Read out how one survivor learned to stand up for herself and find the path that lead to her own personal healing journey.

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How I learned to confront my despair and rededicate my life

Read how one survivor found a whole new life and way to leave a small mark on the world in her sister's memory.

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Postvention and Posttraumatic Growth

TAPS helps survivors find a stable, healthy path to healing, allowing them to establish a new life after loss—a concept referred to as posttraumatic growth.

 


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