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Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic \| TAPS The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms Hotel and Conference Center in the City of Industry California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic.” Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms Resort Event Information Friday, November 11, 2022 8:00 - 10:00 a.m. Breakfast, Registration and Put
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic 2020 \| TAPS The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms Hotel and Conference Center in the City of Industry California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic.” Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms Resort Event Information Monday, November 11, 2021 8:00 - 10:00 a.m. Breakfast, Registration an
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic 2020 \| TAPS The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms Hotel and Conference Center in the City of Industry California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic.” Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms Resort Event Information Monday, November 11, 2020 8:00 - 10:00 a.m. Breakfast, Registration an
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic 2019 Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic 2019 \| TAPS The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms Hotel and Conference Center in the City of Industry California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic.” Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms Resort Event Information Monday, November 11th, 2019 8:00 - 10:00 a.m. Breakfast, Registra
Three families honor loved ones at the Super Bowl Three families honor loved ones at the Super Bowl Three families to honor loved ones at the Super Bowl \| TAPS TAPS Survivors Michelle Taylor, left, and Amy Dozier and their children received tickets to the Super Bowl in Atlanta. Photo: Pablo Piedra Three TAPS surviving families were in attendance at Super Bowl LIII honoring their fallen military heroes. Two of the families earned their tickets to the big game at last week’s NFL Pro Bowl in Orlando, Florida. Michelle and Jake Taylor,
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TAPS provides critical support and resources to help Americans cope with isolation, fear and loss during the COVID-19 pandemic Tragedy Assistance for Survivors (TAPS) provides critical support and resources to help Americans cope with isolation, fear and loss during the COVID-19 pandemic Main Body taps press release, coronavirus, boredom, grief support Tips, resources, news and information are available on the TAPS website, www.taps.org/covid/together and updated daily for all those affected by the coronavirus.
Media Advisory: The TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing Hosts Live Webinar on Wednesday, June 27, 2018 Media Advisory: The TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing Hosts Live Webinar on Wednesday, June 27, 2018 Press Release Content taps media advisory, taps institute, webinar, suicide prevention On Wednesday, June 27, 2018 the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing will host a live online webinar and introductory discussion on “Understanding Why People Die by Suicide,” featuring Dr. Carla Stumpf-Patton, Director of TAPS Suicide Postvention Programs.
Living the Legacy: Let the Good Days Come Living the Legacy: Let the Good Days Come Living the Legacy ~ Let the Good Days Come Gordon Bolar One of the things that someone said to me shortly after Matthew died in 2007 was this: “There will be some good days and there will be some bad days. Let the good days come and enjoy them.” I didn't believe it at the time but it turned out to be true. When I first heard these words in the wake of losing my son, I wasn't the most optimistic person on the planet. But lately there have been some
March 13 2024 March 13, 2024 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 13, 2024 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States Senate and House of Representatives Joint House and Senate Veterans Service Organization Legislative Presentation Presented by Rebecca Harrison Mullaney Topics in this Statement: Love Lives On Act of 2023 (H.R.3651, S.1266) Honor All Gold Star Families Caring For Survivors Act of 2023 (S.414, H.R.108
October 22, 2019 October 22, 2019 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer October 22, 2019 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats for
Sergeant First Class Nicole McMinamin Named TAPS Military Mentor of the Year Sergeant First Class Nicole McMinamin Named TAPS Military Mentor of the Year \| TAPS Sergeant First Class Nicole McMinamin Named TAPS Military Mentor of the Year FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – March 19, 2024 ARLINGTON, Va. – The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) will name SFC Nicole McMinamin, U.S. Army, Military Mentor of the Year at the TAPS Honor Guard Gala on Wednesday, March 20, 2024. Presented annually since 2016, the TAPS Military Mentor of the Year Award recognizes outstanding s
TAPS' Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann Honored for Her Commitment to Surviving Military Families TAPS' Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann Honored for Her Commitment to Surviving Military Families \| TAPS TAPS' Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann Honored for Her Commitment to Surviving Military Families TAPS Presents the Annual Senator Ted Stevens Leadership Award at TAPS Honor Guard Gala FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – March 19, 2024 ARLINGTON, Va. – The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) will proudly present Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann with the Senator Ted Stevens Leadership Award at its annual TAPS Honor
July 10 2024 July 10, 2024 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer July 10, 2024 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee On Veterans' Affairs United States House of Representatives Disability Assistance and Memorial Affairs Subcommittee Legislative Hearing Presented by Candace Wheeler, Director, Government and Legislative Affairs Topics in this Statement: Veterans Claims Education Act of 2023 (H.R. 2971) Protecting Benefits for Disabled Veterans Act of 2023
April 6 2022 April 6, 2022 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer April 6, 2022 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee On Armed Services United States Senate Subcommittee On Personnel "Suicide Prevention and Related Behavioral Health Interventions In the Department of Defense" View the Full Hearing The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved on
March 2, 2022 March 2, 2022 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 2, 2022 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Armed Services, United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee on Military Personnel "Assessing the Effectiveness of Suicide Prevention Programs" Presented by Bonnie Carroll, TAPS President And Founder View the Full Hearing The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources t
TAPS to Welcome Families of America’s Fallen and Honor Military Heroes for Memorial Day Weekend Events in Washington TAPS to Welcome Families of America’s Fallen and Honor Military Heroes for Memorial Day Weekend Events in Washington TAPS to Welcome Families of America's Fallen and Honor Military Heroes for Memorial Day Weekend Events in Washington 30th Annual National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp Brings Together Surviving Spouses, Parents, Children, Siblings, and Battle Buddies for Weekend of Commemoration and Connection FOR IMMEDIATE
April 9, 2019 April 9, 2019 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer April 9, 2019 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats for adult
March 11 2025 March 11, 2025 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 11, 2025 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States Senate Presented by Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann, Director, Government and Legislative Affairs Topics in this Statement: Love Lives on Act of 2025 (S.410) Caring for Survivors Act of 2025 (S.611) Aviation Cancers Examination Study (ACES) Act (S.201) Veterans Claims Act of 2025 (Draft) Veterans' Assuring
March 4 2025 March 4, 2025 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 4, 2025 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States Senate and House of Representatives Joint House and Senate Veterans Service Organization Legislative Presentation Presented by Bonnie Carroll, President and Founder Topics in this Statement: End The Remarriage Penalty for Surviving Spouses Improve Dependency and Indemnity Compensation For Surviving Spou
April 28, 2021 April 28, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer April 28, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States Senate, Hearing on Pending Legislation Presented by Candace Wheeler, TAPS Director of Policy The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS was founded in 1994 as the 50l(c)(3) non-p
Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset (Widow's Tax) \| TAPS News Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset (Widow's Tax) Finally Begins! Military surviving spouses subject to the Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) and Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (DIC) offset, commonly known as the "Widow's Tax," will potentially see an increase in their SBP payments beginning February 1, 2021. The National Defense Authorization Act for Fiscal Year 2020, signed into law on December 20, 2019, repealed the dollar-for-dollar o
Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset (Widow's Tax) \| TAPS News Widows Tax Phase Out of the SBP-DIC Offset (Widow's Tax) Finally Begins! Military surviving spouses subject to the Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) and Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (DIC) offset, commonly known as the "Widow's Tax," will potentially see an increase in their SBP payments beginning February 1, 2021. The National Defense Authorization Act for Fiscal Year 2020, signed into law on December 20, 2019, repealed the
July 29, 2019 July 29, 2019 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer July 29, 2019 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats for adult
November 15, 2018 November 15, 2018 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer November 15, 2018 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats f
6th Annual TAPS Celebrity Classic 6th Annual TAPS Celebrity Classic 6th Annual TAPS Celebrity Classic Christine Burtt TAPS is grateful for the time and energy that the Cottrells and their team of volunteers put forth each year for the annual TAPS Celebrity Classic. We are humbled by their dedication and thankful for their support. The 6th Annual TAPS Celebrity Classic in Colorado, hosted by Larry Gatlin and the Gatlin Brothers, exceeded expectations both in terms of the fun factor and by the $500,000 raised for the Trag
October 20, 2021 October 20, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer October 20, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee on Disability Assistance and Memorial Affairs, Hearing on Pending Legislation The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS was founded in
September 21, 2021 September 21, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer September 21, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee on Economic Opportunity, Hearing On Pending Legislation Presented by Ashlynne Haycock, Deputy Director, Policy The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a m
March 10, 2021 March 10, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 10, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States Senate, "Military Toxic Exposures: The Human Consequences of War" The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the leading national nonprofit organization providing comfort, care and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS provides comfort and hope through a nation
December 9, 2020 December 9, 2020 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer December 9, 2020 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Subcommittee On Disability and Memorial Affairs Committee On Veterans' Affairs, United States House of Representatives, "The Toxic World of Presumptive Service Connection Determinations: Why Should Our Veterans Wait?" The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the leading national nonprofit organization providing comfort, care and r
May 5, 2021 May 5, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer May 5, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives, Full Committee Legislative Hearing The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS was founded in 1994 as the 50l(c)(3) non-profit organization to provide 24/7 care
March 8 2023 March 8, 2023 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 8, 2023 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States Senate and House of Representatives Joint House and Senate Veterans Service Organization Legislative Presentation Presented by Bonnie Carroll, TAPS President And Founder Topics in this Statement: Pass Comprehensive Remarriage Legislation, The Love Lives On Act Improve Dependency and Indemnity Compensatio
November 17, 2021 November 17, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer November 17, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Oversight and Reform, United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee on National Security, Hearing on Mental Health and Suicide Among Active Duty Servicemembers, Veterans, And Family Members Presented by Dr. Carla Stumpf Patton, Senior Director, Postvention Programs The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the n
Legislative Priorities Policy and Legislative Priorities for Military Survivors \| TAPS TAPS Policy and Legislative Priorities The mission of TAPS is to offer comfort and support for surviving families of military loss regardless of the location or manner of their death. Part of that commitment includes advocating for improvements in programs and services provided by the Federal government through the Department of Defense (DoD), the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA), Department of Education (DoED), Department of L
Webinar: Understanding Why People Die by Suicide Webinar: Understanding Why People Die by Suicide Understanding Why People Die by Suicide Webinar \| TAPS Institute Eastern Presented by the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing®, this webinar with Carla Stumpf-Patton, EdD, LMHC, NCC, FT, CCTP, will address some of the prominent theories about why people die by suicide. It will also explore some of the contributing risk factors that can come together in forming the “perfect storm” that leads to suicide and how survivors of loss can continue to hea
October 13, 2021 October 13, 2021 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer October 13, 2021 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee on Health, Hearing on Pending Legislation The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS was founded in 1994 as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organi
July 17, 2017 July 17, 2017 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer July 17, 2017 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats for adult
Workshops Workshops \| TAPS National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp body content SEMINAR WORKSHOPS and Activities We have a variety of sessions available throughout the weekend. Our workshop presenters are leading experts in the field of grief and loss, and you'll have the opportunity to gain tools and resources for your grief journey. You may choose which workshops and activities to attend at your leisure. Make sure to download the TAPS seminar mobile app. This mobile app puts adv
Workshops TAPS National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar Workshops body content SEMINAR WORKSHOPS and Activities We have a variety of sessions available throughout the weekend. Our workshop presenters are leading experts in the field of grief and loss, and you'll have the opportunity to gain tools and resources for your grief journey. You may choose which workshops and activities to attend at your leisure. Make sure to download the TAPS seminar mobile app. This mobile app puts advance details about the
Workshops TAPS National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar Workshops body content SEMINAR WORKSHOPS and Activities We have a variety of sessions available throughout the weekend. Our workshop presenters are leading experts in the field of grief and loss, and you'll have the opportunity to gain tools and resources for your grief journey. You may choose which workshops and activities to attend at your leisure. Make sure to download the TAPS seminar mobile app. This mobile app puts advance details about the
Country Star Donates Proceeds to TAPS Country Star Donates Proceeds to TAPS Country Star Donates Proceeds to TAPS TAPS Traditional Country singer, Shane Owens, continues to touch audiences with his moving patriotic tribute song “19.” Since Memorial Day, Shane has been donating 100% of the net proceeds from the single to TAPS. In December, Shane will join our survivors at the San Diego Regional Seminar where he will perform a private concert for TAPS families on Sunday. Shane will also spend time meeting the courageous families o
December 8, 2020 December 8, 2020 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer December 8, 2020 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, United States House of Representatives The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the leading national nonprofit organization providing comfort, care and resources to all those grieving the death of a military loved one. TAPS provides comfort and hope 24/7 through a national peer support network and con
March 29, 2022 - House March 29, 2022 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 29, 2022 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committee on Veterans' Affairs United States House of Representatives; Subcommittee On Disability Assistance And Memorial Affairs Legislative Hearing Presented by Candace Wheeler, Director, TAPS Policy View the Full Hearing The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources to all those griev
January 30 2024 January 30, 2024 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer January 30, 2024 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States House of Representatives Presented by Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann, Deputy Director, TAPS Government and Legislative Affairs and Surviving Spouse Kaanan Mackey-Fugler Topics in this Statement: Dependency And Indemnity Compensation for High School Students Dependency And Indemnity Compensation for High
April 26 2023 April 26, 2023 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer April 26, 2023 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs United States Senate Presented by Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann, Deputy Director, Government and Legislative Affairs Topics in this Statement: Love Lives On Act of 2023 Caring for Survivors Act of 2023 (S.414)) Fry Scholarship Enhancement Act of 2023 (S.350) Guard VA Benefits Act (S.740) The GI Bill Foreign Institutio
March 8, 2022 March 8, 2022 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 8, 2022 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the Committees On Veterans' Affairs and United States Senate and House of Representatives; Joint House and Senate Veterans Service Organization Legislative Presentation Presented by Bonnie Carroll, TAPS President And Founder View the Full Hearing The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national provider of comfort, care, and resources t
March 20, 2018 March 20, 2018 TAPS Statement for the Record \| TAPS News Advocacy Proprietary Footer March 20, 2018 - TAPS Statement for the Record Before the United States House of Representatives, Subcommittee On Economic Opportunity, Committee On Veterans Affairs The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national nonprofit organization providing compassionate care for the families of America’s fallen military heroes. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources
Camaraderie and Comfort Camaraderie and Comfort Camaraderie and Comfort \| TAPS TAPS In small towns and big cities, at a coffee shop in a quiet room—the comfort and camaraderie of your TAPS family is right around the corner and close to home. Whether you want to talk about your grief and gain insight into how others are coping, share a casual visit or participate in an activity where you can enjoy the sights and sounds of nature—the love and care of TAPS is present where you live, work and play. TAPS Togethers and
Saturday Morning Message: Summer Memories Saturday Morning Message: Summer Memories Saturday Morning Message: Summer Memories \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, The replies sent in response to the question about summer memories this week were wonderful. When I read them, I got a picture in my mind of the places described. One survivor, Debby RM, spouse of Tom, sent a picture of Lake Tahoe to go along with one of her memories. I thought it would make a good opening for this week’s message. Debby wrote, “Lake Tahoe is where Tom and I we
Finding Hope Amid Devastating Loss: A Military Widow Who Lost her Marine to Suicide Shares Her Story Finding Hope Amid Devastating Loss: A Military Widow Who Lost her Marine to Suicide Shares Her Story Finding Hope Amid Devastating Loss: A Military Widow Who Lost her Marine to Suicide Shares Her Story Kim Ruocco My name is Kim Ruocco and I am the widow of United States Marine Major John Ruocco, who died by suicide at age 40 in 2005. John was an incredible husband, son, father to our two boys, and Marine. He was dedicated and passionate in everything he did. John joined the Marines in 198
NFL Auction Benefits TAPS NFL Auction Benefits TAPS NFL Auction Benefits TAPS TAPS As one of the four official charity partners of the NFL, TAPS benefits from the proceeds of auctions for official NFL items, exclusive Super Bowl Packages and authentic signed and game-used items from your favorite teams and players. Over the past five years, NFL Auction has donated more than $5 million to NFL and team charities and nonprofits. The NFL does not retain any profits generated by the sale of products on the NFL Auction pla
All In With TAPS at National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar All In With TAPS at National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar All In With TAPS at National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar Misty Blum About a year ago I was on the phone with the head of Peer Mentor Training for TAPS. We were chatting about the upcoming national seminar taking place in Washington DC. He mentioned that it is a great experience but suggested for my first seminar I should attend the annual suicide seminar because it is so specific to my loss. Well, I know good advice when I h
27 Memories for 27 Years That Linger Bringing Joy to my Life 27 Memories for 27 Years That Linger Bringing Joy to my Life 27 Memories for 27 Years That Linger Bringing Joy to my Life Linda Ambard Eloping to Reno, NV on November 27, 1988, three days after Thanksgiving. Phil was upset Thanksgiving because of how my father was treating me (I was the first person EVER to get divorced in our family—total ostracization.) Phil didn’t care how people treated him, but it bothered him if people messed with me. As we drove back to Mountain Home Air Force Base
Bonds with the Deceased Don’t Have to End Bonds with the Deceased Don’t Have to End Bonds with the Deceased Don’t Have to End Gloria Horsley Heidi Horsley “Scott is dead!” These are the dreaded words that no parent or sibling should ever have to hear, words that irrevocably changed our lives forever. We heard these words in 1983, when Scott Horsley, our beloved son and brother, died in a fiery collision when the car in which he was a passenger hydroplaned and slammed into a bridge abutment. In an instant, Scott’s life was snuffed
Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts for New Survivors Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts for New Survivors Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts for New Survivors Carol Lane Good morning, The picture today comes from my garden to your house. It is a picture of a rose my sister-in-law gave me for my birthday this year. This is one of the last roses of the summer season in my part of the country. I thought the rose along with an article written by Carla Stumpf-Patton titled “Seasons of Grief” would be appropriate to this week’s topic. In the article
My Death Wish My Death Wish My Death Wish Michele Hernandez Moving from Misery to Meaning It is an odd and frightening sensation to wish you were dead. After my husband died I fervently wished I could die, too. The first time I read that grieving people sometimes fantasize about death, I was relieved. My entire life I had appreciated the gift of life; to suddenly and frequently wish it away was a disconcerting and lonely experience. When my husband, Phil, was hit by a car, the initial shock provided
Webinar: Grief After Self-Inflicted Causes of Death Partner Webinar: Grief After Self-Inflicted Causes of Death Webinar: Grief After Self-Inflicted Causes of Death Cohosted by the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors and the Hospice Foundation of America While all loss is difficult, those whose friends or loved ones die due to self-destructive deaths can face unique challenges. This program, presented by Ken Doka, William Feigelman and John Jordan, explores the latest research into these grief situations and how professionals can help surv
Video: Robert Patrick Memorial Day Message Video: Robert Patrick at the 29th Annual TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar over Memorial Day Weekend Video: Robert Patrick at the 29th Annual TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar over Memorial Day Weekend \| TAPS TAPS Media Robert Patrick, actor, speaks at the Grand Banquet of the 29th Annual TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar on Saturday, May 27, 2023, in Arlington, Virginia. Robert quotes the prayer of Mrs. Roosevelt remembering the sacrifice of those who have and will die for
Fundraiser: Denver 19th Annual TAPS Colorado Celebrity Classic Colorado Celebrity Classic \| TAPS Thank you for supporting our Denver event! Stay tuned for news on the 2025 show. View Flyer Wings Over the Rockies Air and Space Museum 7711 East Academy Boulevard Denver, Colorado 5:30 p.m. General Reception & Silent Auction 6:30 p.m. Dinner & Program Join us as we honor our fallen military servicemembers and pay tribute to the loved ones they left behind. TAPS Legacy Award Presented to Pete Co
Kids, Grief, and COVID-19 Kids, Grief, and COVID-19 Kids, Grief, and COVID-19 \| TAPS Linda Goldman Children and teens have had their world turned inside out during the coronavirus pandemic. The familiar has turned foreign, the expected has vanished, and the world as kids knew it pre-COVID-19 has transformed into a surreal new normal. Overwhelmed by virtual classes, home quarantine, cleanl
Mental Health in the Movies and Media: Continuing the Discussion on Suicide Mental Health in the Movies and Media: Continuing the Discussion on Suicide Mental Health in the Movies and Media: Continuing the Discussion on Suicide \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton Writers note: This story contains topics related to mental health and suicide. If you are experiencing emotional distress or thoughts of suicide, help can be found by contacting the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (Veterans Press 1), or by contacting the National Crisis Text Line by texting “
Widow’s Tax Now Completely Eliminated Widow’s Tax Now Completely Eliminated Widow’s Tax Now Completely Eliminated \| TAPS Candace Wheeler TAPS Policy News: TAPS is pleased to announce that on February 1, 2023, surviving military spouses will receive their full Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) annuity payment from the Department of Defense (DoD) and their full Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (DIC) payment from the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). The SBP-DIC Offset, or Widow’s Tax, is completely eliminated, and fu
To Watch or Not To Watch To Watch or Not To Watch To Watch or Not To Watch Kelly Griffith That is the Question Sitting in the darkened, crowded theater, I realized I had made a mistake. Why hadn’t I picked the cutesy cartoon movie about dancing penguins? Why did I choose to resort to emotional cutting? No. I would be fine. But I looked beside me and saw the looks on my family's faces and knew I had made a big mistake. It was just a few short months after Sammy's death on December 14, and we sat in a room f
Fundraiser: Colorado Springs TAPS Colorado Springs Singer Songwriter Show and Dinner Colorado Springs Singer Songwriter Show and Dinner \| TAPS Mountain Evening Program Boot Barn Hall @ Bourbon Brothers 13071 Bass Pro Drive Colorado Springs, Colorado Join us for a memorable and fun evening featuring Pam Tillis, Frank Myers, Jamie O'Neal, David Ernest Malloy, Jimmy Nichols, and Ed Montana as we honor the families of those who died for our freedoms. Meet TAPS Founder and President Bonnie Carroll and hear the inspi
Fundraiser: Denver A Night of Remembrance & Celebration Colorado Celebrity Classic \| TAPS View Flyer Wings Over the Rockies Air and Space Museum 7711 East Academy Boulevard Denver, Colorado 5:30 p.m. General Reception & Silent Auction 6:30 p.m. Dinner & Program Join us as we honor our fallen military servicemembers and pay tribute to the loved ones they left behind. You'll hear Grammy and CMA Award-winning music and the opportunity to participate in an Auction and Raffle to win one of a kind items
Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Fond Sports Memories Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Fond Sports Memories Sharing Fond Sports Memories \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, Watching sporting events is something that many families like to do together. For football fans, this is an especially big weekend because of the Super Bowl. Barbara, mother of Brian sent the opening photo showing their family when they went to a football game featuring their favorite NFL team. You will read more about this special memory in the respons
Coping with Holidays and Celebrations Coping with Holidays and Celebrations Coping with Holidays and Celebrations Helen Fitzgerald This article is found on American Hospice Foundation website: Coping with Holidays and Celebrations. By Helen Fitzgerald, MFT holidays, grief Military Mother Finds Comfort after Son's Suicide When a loved one has died, holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays inevitably bring fresh memories and a re-experience of the pain of grief.
Audio: Suicide in the Military, Lipstein Suicide in the Military Suicide in the Military Madeline Brand Show Surviving father Don Lipstein talks with the Madeleine Brand Show about the death of his Navy son by suicide. Listen to Audio Your browser does not support the audio element. Listen on the Southern California Public Radio website Suicide, Military, Lipstein Suicide in the Military Surviving father Don Lipstein talks with the Madeleine Brand Show about the death of his Navy son by suicide.
My Dad, My Hero My Dad, My Hero My Dad, My Hero Gabrielle Herman Author, Eckhart Tolle, writes of the search for wholeness, a sense of lack or incompleteness, of not being whole, in which we strive after possessions, money, success, power, recognition, or a special relationship to feel better about ourselves and to feel complete. Only to realize, after attaining all these things, we find the hole is still there, that it is bottomless. He believes the secret of life is to "die before you die" - and find that
Helping Military Kids with Traumatic Death Helping Military Kids with Traumatic Death Helping Military Kids with Traumatic Death Linda Goldman Ordinary fears are a normal part of a child’s developmental growth, and children create internal and external mechanisms to cope with these fears. But a child’s ordinary fears can be transformed into very real survival fears in the face of severe trauma. After children experience the death of a parent, they often feel alone and different. Frightened because their once comfortable world now seem
Up Up and Away! Superheroes and Peer Support Up Up and Away! Superheroes and Peer Support Up Up and Away! Superheroes and Peer Support \| TAPS Jennifer Keeling Every superhero needs a sidekick. Batman has Robin. Iron Man has War Machine. Even Superman has Krypto...super dog. When these superheroes’ personal battles knock them off course from ‘saving the world,’ their trusted sidekicks step in to fight the battle with them, because there is always strength in numbers. So too, when life throws us off course, we need someone there to figh
Atlanta Falcons Andre Roberts Selected for the 2017 Salute to Service Award for Supporting Military Families Atlanta Falcons Andre Roberts Selected for the 2017 Salute to Service Award for Supporting Military Families Atlanta Falcons Andre Roberts Selected for the 2017 Salute to Service Award for Supporting Military Families \| TAPS TAPS Media Andre Roberts has made time for our TAPS families and always welcomes them with open arms and a big smile whether it's on the field or off. We celebrate his recent accolade as the recipient of the NFL's Salute to Service Award and are honored that TAPS was
Peer Mentoring Forges a Deeper Sibling Bond Peer Mentoring Forges a Deeper Sibling Bond Peer Mentoring Forges a Deeper Sibling Bond TAPS When Renee Taylor's younger brother, Army National Guard Capt. Jonathan Shively, died in 2010, she didn't know how to process her loss as a sibling. "We all talked about him all of the time, but I didn't really think, I lost my brother." Renee attended her first TAPS event and started to see her loss as her own. She realized she could be sad about losing her brother and not just sad about her mom lo
Resource Center, TAPS Top Picks for Scholarships Resource Center, TAPS Top Picks for Scholarships Resource Center, TAPS Top Picks for Scholarships TAPS Now that school is back in session, it’s a good time to start planning for your future at college, whether you are a high school senior, surviving spouse, or young adult whose parent has died in military service. When applying for educational and financial resources, the large range of differing requirements and eligibilities can make the scholarship search a grueling process. Here at T
Fundraiser: Denver A Night of Remembrance & Celebration A Night of Remembrance & Celebration Join us for An Intimate Night of Remembrance benefitting TAPS Wings Over the Rockies Air and Space Museum 7711 East Academy Boulevard Denver, Colorado 5:00 p.m. General Reception & Silent Auction 6:00 p.m. Dinner & Program Join us as we honor our fallen military servicemembers and pay tribute to the loved ones they left behind. Includes an exclusive, intimate concert by Nashville songwriters, who will sha
Fundraiser: PT Mechanical Group Golf Invitational PT Mechanical Group Golf Invitational PT Mechanical Group Golf Invitational \| TAPS You are invited to join us at Little Mill Country Club on October 22, 2018 for the Pro-Tech Mechnical 1st Annual Golf Invitational. All proceeds from the tournament will go directly to TAPS in support of their mission to provide peer-based emotional support to all those who are grieving the death of someone who died during or as a result of their military service to the United States. Special Guest LTC Scott
Video: Bonnie Carroll on Finding the Beauty within Tragedy Video: Bonnie Carroll on Finding the Beauty within Tragedy Bonnie Carroll on Finding the Beauty within Tragedy \| TAPS Robin Gargano A conversation between TAPS Founder and President Bonnie Carroll and Robin Gargano that took place during the Finding the Beauty within Tragedy Summit. If you are coping with the loss of your military loved one, find supportive resources and programming on the TAPS website. Select image below to play the video. This video is courtesy of Robin Gargano. video
Messages of Love Messages of Love Messages of Love Claire Perkins Over the years since my son’s death in 2004, I have received many messages and signs from him. Some have come in dreams, some through songs on the radio. Perhaps the most powerful have been the heart-shaped stones and shells washed up by the sea to remind me that love never dies. Read the full article on the Open to Hope website. By Claire Perkins, Surviving mother of Cameron grief, healing, god winks Over the years since my son’s death
Audio: Kim Ruocco Talks with The Mark Steiner Show Kim Ruocco Talks with The Mark Steiner Show Kim Ruocco Talks with The Mark Steiner Show Marc Steiner Radio Show Kim Ruocco, military widow and TAPS manager of suicide postvention and education programs, talks about suicide in the Armed Forces and how we can all help. Listen to Audio Your browser does not support the audio element. Listen on the Mark Steiner Show website Veterans Day, Suicide, Radio Kim Ruocco Talks with The Mark Steiner Show Kim Ruocco, TAPS manager of suicide po
Traumatic Grief in Military Children Traumatic Grief in Military Children Traumatic Grief in Military Children TAPS Traumatic Grief in Military Children: Information for Families To read the complete article, visit www.NCTSN.org and click on Military Children & Families. National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (2008). Traumatic Grief in Military Children: Information for Families. Los Angeles, CA & Durham, NC: National Center for Child Traumatic Stress. By the National Child Traumatic Stress Network military child
Suicide grief: Healing after a loved one's suicide Suicide grief: Healing after a loved one's suicide Suicide grief: Healing after a loved one's suicide Mayo Clinic Staff A loved one's suicide can be emotionally devastating. Use healthy coping strategies — such as seeking support — to begin the journey to healing and acceptance. See article on the Mayo Clinic website: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/suicide/MH00048 By Mayo Clinic Staff suicide loss A loved one's suicide can be emotionally devastating. Use healthy coping strategies —
Understanding Why People Die by Suicide Understanding Why People Die by Suicide Understanding Why People Die by Suicide \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton What happened? Why did he do it? The answers to the questions are complex. When someone we love dies by suicide, it can be overwhelming and confusing, and bring with it many emotions and questions. Those affected by suicide often struggle with how, and if, their life will ever fit back together again. More than anybody, it is the suicide loss survivor who is left with endless “whys” and
What Grieving People Want You to Know What Grieving People Want You to Know What Grieving People Want You to Know Virginia Simpson Articles What A Grieving Child Wants You To Know and What Grieving People Want You To Know are found on Dr. Virginia A. Simpson's website, under Articles, Understanding Grief. By Virginia A. Simpson, PhD, FT: Dr. Virginia A. Simpson is a nationally and internationally recognized authority on dying and grieving. She brings more than a quarter of a century of experience and expertise to her work hel
I Wish I Wish I Wish Michele Hiester Marcum Once upon a time, I had all the answers. Or at least, I thought I did. My life was more predictable than not, and with all the wisdom of my youth, I just knew that I could handle any roadblock I encountered… all by myself. Independence is a good thing, right? All that changed on a chilly, sunny day in March of 2005. That’s the day I received the call that many of you have experienced. Someone you love isn’t coming home. Looking back on that time in my
Saturday Morning Message: The Positive Impact of Peer Mentoring Saturday Morning Message: The Positive Impact of Peer Mentoring The Positive Impact of Peer Mentoring \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, The TAPS Peer Mentor Program offers a companion on our grief journey. We are matched with another survivor who has suffered a similar loss. The opening picture is from the article, "5 Reasons Peer Support Has Helped Me Through My Grief," written by Amanda Klager who is the surviving sister of Army Spc. Adam Klager. In the article, she
Fundraiser: Northside Hospital Orthopedic Institute Half Marathon Northside Hospital Orthopedic Institute Half Marathon Northside Hospital Orthopedic Institute Half Marathon Powered by Jeff Galloway \| TAPS Eastern Powered by Jeff Galloway ABOUT JEFF GALLOWAY Over a million runners and walkers have read Jeff Galloway books, attended his retreats / running schools, received E-coaching or individual consultation or joined his training programs. His doable plans have opened up the life-changing experience of finishing a distance event to almost everyone. His
Fundraiser: Stetler Off Road Jeep Show Stetler Off Road Jeep Show Stetler Off Road Jeep Show \| TAPS Our show is a family friendly event offering vendors, food, kids bounce house, face painting, off road obstacle course, a teeter totter, live music, raffle prizes, goodie bags for the 1st 75 registrants and show trophies! Showcase your modified Jeep and support a good cause. Proceeds will be going to Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors. For more information to register your jeep or be a vendor at the event, visit Stetler Of
Webinar: Responding to Traumatically Bereaved Military Children in Educational Settings Partner Webinar: Responding to Traumatically Bereaved Military Children in Educational Settings Webinar: Responding to Traumatically Bereaved Military Children in Educational Settings: Barriers and Opportunities Join us for a multi-disciplinary and highly interactive look at the common issues traumatically bereaved military children and their families experience in the educational settings. We will discuss systemic, individual, cultural, financial barriers and opportunities to help traumatical
Audio: On Memorial Day, The Hardest Lesson of All On Memorial Day, The Hardest Lesson of All On Memorial Day, The Hardest Lesson of All Ami Neiberger-Miller The TAPS Good Grief Camp, held annually near Washington, DC over Memorial Day Weekend, helps children and teens coping with the death of a parent or sibling who died while serving in the Armed Forces. Interview with TAPS spokesperson, Ami Neiberger-Miller. Listen to Audio Your browser does not support the audio element. Listen on the Public News Service website Memor
A Toast to the Ones We Lost A Toast to the Ones We Lost A Toast to the Ones We Lost \| TAPS Sonia Rai There’s a certain type of person with a certain type of heart who, before setting out to do something they love, will see the inherent danger, corruption, and uncertainty ahead of them, and still choose to act anyway. This is a toast to them. They’re the type of people who aren’t in it for the glory because they realize that glory isn’t something that can be found, rather it can only be bestowed. So they go,
Team TAPS: Virtual Fundraiser Team TAPS Virtual Fundraiser Team TAPS Virtual Fundraiser \| TAPS Join Team TAPS virtually as we mark TAPS' 27th Anniversary Whether you choose to participate in an organized virtual race - run, walk, bike, swim, dance or create your own unique challenge - let's work together to honor the lives of our fallen heroes—and support the mission of TAPS! Surviving military widows, Marie Campbell and Lori (Hunter) Musselman joined each other to participate in the 25th Marine Corps Marathon in Oc
Institute: Understanding and Applying Modern Grief Theory Understanding and Applying Modern Grief Theory Understanding and Applying Modern Grief Theory \| TAPS Institute Eastern Presented by the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing®, this webinar with Litsa Williams and Eleanor Haley, mental health professionals and co-founders of What’s Your Grief, explores the most prominent grief theories to have emerged from the fields of psychology and thanatology, beginning with Freud and working forward to the most current evidence-based models of grief.
Webinar: After an Overdose Death: Understanding Your Grief Webinar: Understanding the Grief of Addiction and Overdose Death Understanding the Grief of Addiction and Overdose Death Webinar \| TAPS Institute Eastern Presented by the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing®, this webinar with Litsa Williams and Eleanor Haley, mental health professionals and co-founders of What’s Your Grief, is designed to help bereaved people understand the dynamics of this unique kind of grief. It addresses the unique stigma and family dynamics that can come with grief after
Fundraiser: Denver TAPS Colorado Celebrity Classic Colorado Celebrity Classic \| TAPS Mountain View Flyer Wings Over the Rockies Air and Space Museum 7711 East Academy Boulevard Denver, Colorado Join us for a memorable and fun evening featuring Frank Meyers, Anthony Smith, Wynn Varble, Brice Long and Jimmy Nichols as we honor the families of those who died for our freedoms. Dinner performances by Tony David and WildeFire and Franki Moscato. Meet TAPS Founder and President Bonnie Carroll and hear the
Resource Center: TAPS National Military Survivor Helpline and Website Live Chat Resource Center: TAPS National Military Survivor Helpline and Website Live Chat Resource Center: TAPS National Military Survivor Helpline and Website Live Chat Kyle Balduf We all remember that day—the day the world stopped for us. We remember the knock on the door, the phone call, the person on the other end fumbling for the words to explain that life had changed forever. After the initial waves of shock rolled over us, we began to thaw, so to speak, and became acquainted with the nature of g
A Bittersweet Gift: Finding Comfort in teams4taps A Bittersweet Gift: Finding Comfort in teams4taps A Bittersweet Gift: Finding Comfort in teams4taps \| TAPS Elizabeth Engleman-Hammett U.S. Army Specialist Tyler Brent Hammett It was Super Bowl Sunday, February 2, 2014. My family and I were settled in front of the television watching the game, as we do every Sunday during football season. It wasn’t quite half-time, rather late in the day, so we were a little more than perplexed to hear someone knock on our front door. In th
Saturday Morning Message: Cultivating Hobbies and Skills Saturday Morning Message: Cultivating Hobbies and Skills Cultivating Hobbies and Skills \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, During this period of quarantine, some have found the additional time to develop new hobbies or skills or have worked hard to enhance old skills, applying that new knowledge to various projects. Several survivors share about their experiences in this week’s Saturday Morning Message. We have all heard that journaling can be part of the h
National Suicide Prevention Month: TAPS Support and Resources National Suicide Prevention Month: TAPS Support and Resources National Suicide Prevention Month: Support and Resources \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton Each September we recognize Suicide Prevention Month, and while every day of the year is an opportunity for awareness, this time of the year specifically we emphasize education and sharing life-saving resources on all issues related to suicide—also referred to as prevention, intervention, and postvention. For those who are suicide loss survivors
Run and Remember: A Win-Win Outcome Run and Remember: A Win-Win Outcome Run and Remember: A Win-Win Outcome Betsy Beard When I first came to TAPS in 2004, I just assumed that somehow the military or the government was paying for the services and resources that were made available to me at the time: the national toll free helpline, the Peer Support Network, a free lifetime subscription to TAPS Magazine, the interactive TAPS website, the online chats, and the national seminar with all its speakers and materials and bus transporta
Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Carol Lane Good Morning, Because it is Thanksgiving weekend, this Saturday Morning Message features a list of resources TAPS provides that I am thankful for as a survivor. Since a list of all the programs would make this message too long, I’ve only included some of the programs. Visit TAPS programs web page to learn more. The picture today is from the TAPS website showing survivors participating in t
Strength Through Communication Strength Through Communication Strength Through Communication TAPS Keeping in Touch Members of a family don’t always live near each other. Miles may physically separate us, yet we carry the comforting knowledge that our loved ones are always close at heart. The same can be said of the TAPS family. Our homes are spread across the nation, and even across the globe. But when our grief weighs heavy, we know our TAPS family is there to provide an encouraging word, a lift of the spirit, and hope f
Online Financial Counseling Online Financial Counseling Online Financial Counseling Fran Hackett To Help Beneficiaries Plan Ahead Eligible beneficiaries in the Servicemembers’ Group Life Insurance (SGLI) Program can now take advantage of two new online financial services that can help with financial planning and also provide the ability to create a will. Eligible beneficiaries include those who have received a payment from SGLI, Veterans’ Group Life Insurance (VGLI), or Family SGLI (FSGLI). The Department of Veterans A
Team TAPS: Virtual Fundraiser Team TAPS Virtual Fundraiser Team TAPS Virtual Fundraiser \| TAPS Join us virtually in celebration of 20 years of raising funds and awareness for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS)! TAPS provides direct support to families who have been impacted by the death of a military loved one. Whether you choose to participate in an organized virtual race, run or walk; complete 20 miles in observance of our 20th anniversary; bike, swim, dance or do your own distance, Team TAPS welcomes
Video: PREVENTS - A Whole Nation Approach to Suicide Prevention Video: PREVENTS - A Whole Nation Approach to Suicide Prevention Video: PREVENTS - A Whole Nation Approach to Suicide Prevention \| TAPS Institute Barbara Van Dahlen Carolyn Colley Join the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing® during National Suicide Prevention Week for a webinar about a new national effort to prevent suicide among Veterans and all Americans. This webinar will provide information about the President’s Roadmap to Empower Veterans and End a National Tragedy of Suicide (PREVENTS).
Helping Surviving Families Achieve Their Post-Secondary Goals Helping Surviving Families Achieve Their Post-Secondary Goals Helping Surviving Families Achieve Their Post-Secondary Goals \| TAPS TAPS When considering post-secondary education, begin with the end in mind and know where you would like to be in the future. It is okay to start right where you are, recognizing that every survivor is at a different point in their school search process. Take one step at a time to be closer to where you would like to be. Remember to cast a wide net when starting y
The Choice The Choice The Choice Linda Ambard For the past five years, I have learned to survive and to make it through the darkest nights. I have come to trust my decisions and discovered happiness through running, work, school, and the all too rare visits with my adult children. It a dull and predictable life that didn’t allow for dreams to creep in or for the wash of agony to take over. I closed myself off to any possibility of a life beyond that flat one dimensional plane. At 49, the spunky, warm, a
Is It Ok? Is It Ok? Is It Ok? Shanette Booker Every day for about the first two years after Dre's passing, I walked on eggshells and hid behind the bushes. I never wanted to be in the limelight. I didn't want to say or do anything that would offend someone. I was his wife and as his widow, I didn't want to be inappropriate in my mannerisms, words, or actions. I felt as if people would question how much I loved my husband, if I loved him as much as I said I did, or if I still loved him. It was the harde
Seven Choices: Finding daylight after loss shatters your world Seven Choices: Finding daylight after loss shatters your world Seven Choices: Finding daylight after loss shatters your world Betsy Beard Early in my grief journey, I looked desperately for books or manuals or instructions-anything to help me get through each day-but bookstores didn't stock very many books about grief. I found this perplexing since death is universal and most of us will experience the loss of a loved one at some point before we ourselves die. For TAPS survivors, that loss see
Webinar: Managing Conflict/Finding Meaning - Supporting Families at Life's End Partner Webinar: Managing Conflict/Finding Meaning - Supporting Families at Life's End Partner Webinar: Managing Conflict/Finding Meaning - Supporting Families at Life's End Eastern Cohosted by the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors and the Hospice Foundation of America Despite the efforts of hospice professionals and clinicians, many people die after being enrolled in hospice for a very short time--sometimes just 24 to 48 hours. Yet bereavement coordinators still strive to help that per
Fundraiser: Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races \| TAPS Eastern The Potomac Hunt Races offer a unique opportunity to entertain your family or host a party for your friends and/or business right here in the DMV. Held just outside D.C. in Poolesville, Maryland, the races are convenient, yet supremely unique in their offerings. In addition to running multiple races throughout the day featuring the area’s top steeplechase horses, we also offer shopping at Vendor Village, a Kid Zone and between-race entertainm
Fundraiser: 9/11 Memorial Golf Outing 7th Annual Montgomery County 9/11 Memorial Golf Outing 7th Annual Montgomery County 9/11 Memorial Golf Outing in Gaithersburg, Maryland \| TAPS Donate in Memory of Lieutenant Darin H. Pontell To donate to this event in memory of LT Darin H. Pontell, USNR, select the Donate to TAPS button above and make sure the 'Make this is an honor or memorial gift' checkbox is selected. Event Information Friday, September 13, 2019 Laytonsville Golf Course Registration and range open at 8 a.m. Play
Fundraiser: Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races \| TAPS Eastern Gates open at 10:00 a.m. \| Activites start at 12:00 p.m. \| Race course closes at 7:00 p.m. Held in the heart of Montgomery County's horse country, the Potomac Hunt Races is an annual tradition, celebrating the sport of steeplechase racing. Amidst the thrill of thundering hooves and soaring horses, race day festivities include a car display, mounted police demonstrations, The RBC Kid Zone, and Vendor Village. Enjoy the camaraderie of friend
Webinar: Grief Dreams Webinar: Grief Dreams Grief Dreams Webinar \| TAPS Institute Eastern Presented by the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing®, this webinar with grief dreams researcher, Joshua Black, PhD, discusses the common questions people have related to dreams after loss (grief dreams) and how they apply to one's grief. Featuring Joshua Black, PhD Dr. Joshua Black is a grief dreams researcher, speaker, author, and host of the Grief Dreams Podcast. He has focused all of his MA and PhD research
Institute: Photographing Grief Workshop: Photographing Grief Photographing Grief \| TAPS Institute Eastern The TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing® invites you to a unique and engaging experiential workshop about using photography as a creative outlet for coping with grief. Featuring LITSA WILLIAMS ELEANOR HALEY Litsa and Eleanor are mental health professionals with more than 20 years of experience in grief and bereavement. They are also the founders of the What’s Your Grief? website. Program Details
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Golf Classic 2017 Land of the Free Golf Classic 2017 Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms and Conference Center in the City of Industry, California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic”. This event will be held on Friday, November 10, 2017. The Land of the Free Foundation was started to recognize the men and woman of
Video: Understanding the Federal Long Term Care Insurance Program Video: Understanding the Federal Long Term Care Insurance Program Video: Understanding the Federal Long Term Care Insurance Program Webinar \| TAPS Institute Hunt Kerrigan Lisa Roussel Bonnie Carroll The Federal Long Term Care Insurance Program (FLTCIP) is an important benefit to understand especially for military survivors. This presentation and discussion will explore the realities of long term care and family caregiving, as well as review highlights of the FLTCIP, including eligibility, the a
Gold Star Children Take on Business World Thanks to TAPS Gold Star Children Take on Business World Thanks to TAPS Gold Star Children Take on Business World Thanks to TAPS Shannon Collins With the help of a Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors initiative, 12 Gold Star children participated in a variety of life-enhancing activities April 11-15 in New York City. A New York Stock Exchange executive explains operations to two Gold Star children at the opening bell in New York City, April 12, 2018. The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors prov
Audio: The Many Faces of Grief The Many Faces of Grief, A Military Widow's Journey to Hope The Many Faces of Grief, A Military Widows Journey to Hope Good Mourning Podcast TAPS founder Bonnie Carroll is interviewed by bereavement expert Darcie Sims. She discusses founding TAPS in 1994 to help all who have suffered the death of loved one serving in the Armed Forces and her own journey as a widow. She discusses discovering connections with other widows who lost their husbands in the same crash that her husband died in, and
Grief 101: Back to the Basics Grief 101: Back to the Basics Grief 101: Back to the Basics Betty Ann Rutledge The holiday season—with its inevitable reminders of the empty spaces in our families—is a good time to go back to the basics of what we know about grief. This article is found on Bereaved Families of Ontario - Toronto website, article: Grief 101: Back to the Basics By Betty Ann Rutledge: Betty Ann Rutledge is a professional volunteer manager with over 20 years of experience in the field of healthcare, death,
Watch the Gold Star Children film Trailer Watch the Gold Star Children film Trailer Watch the Gold Star Children film Trailer TAPS Gold Star Children is a documentary feature film that takes an intimate look at American children who've lost a parent to war. The film follows the parallel journeys of two generations of grieving children; recent war orphans who’ve lost military parents serving in Iraq, Afghanistan, Bosnia and here at home, learn to heal alongside the now adult-child survivors of the Vietnam War. The film brings together
The Power of the Media and Messaging The Power of the Media and Messaging Kim Ruocco's Story of Hope - TAPS News Kim Ruocco It’s been 11 years since my husband died by suicide. It has been a journey of excruciating pain and devastating loss but it has also been a journey of immense growth and a new understanding of the world around me. Like most suicide survivors I have a burning desire to understand why this happened to my loving husband and a need prevent this from happening to another military family. My first instinct was
Sibling Loss Sibling Loss Sibling Loss Heidi Horsley In the United States today, there is a natural, assumed order to the deaths we will experience in our lives. We believe that our grandparents will die first, then our parents, then our brothers and sisters, and then our children. However, that is not how it happens for thousands of people each year, and that is not how it happened for me. When my brother Scott and cousin Matthew were just 17 years old they died together in a fiery car accident.
Saturday Morning Message: Online Support Saturday Morning Message: Online Support Saturday Morning Message: Online Support Carol Lane Good morning, This picture comes from the new TAPS website. When you need support, this is the place to look. Everything TAPS has to offer is listed here. Some of the listings are the helpline that is available 24/7 at 800-959-TAPS (8277), upcoming events and resources such as casework or the survivor care team. There are also a variety of programs, including the TAPS Online Community, which links yo
Growing Up TAPS: Understanding How Our Children Grieve Growing Up TAPS: Understanding How Our Children Grieve Growing Up TAPS: Understanding How Our Children Grieve Andy McNiel There is a personal nature to how each of us grieves, and that individuality extends to our children and teenagers. They uniquely grieve the death of their person based on (but not limited to) their personality type, individual preferences, how they most feel comfortable being in the world, the nature of the relationship they shared with their person before they died, and
Hope Against All Hope Hope Against All Hope Hope Against All Hope Linda Ambard Like most people, I assumed I knew how my life trajectory would evolve and I trusted that prayers would keep Phil safe from harm. I believed ultimately life was fair and good things happened if I just waited long enough or believed strong enough. Phil's death caused a quake in my belief system and it has made me question who I am, what I stand for, and what I carry in my heart. I am different because I know better. When Phil deplo
Saturday Morning Message: Practicing Self Care Saturday Morning Message: Practicing Self Care Saturday Morning Message: Practicing Self Care \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, Often while grieving we care for others in our friends/family circle, but it is really important to take a bit of time each day to do something we enjoy. One thing that lifts my spirits is to sit and talk with a friend like these survivors are doing at a TAPS seminar. That is why I like attending TAPS events. There I meet other survivors and form friendships. When I a
Colorado Celebrity Classic to Benefit TAPS – a model for getting ‘er done! Colorado Celebrity Classic – a model for getting ‘er done! Colorado Celebrity Classic – a model for getting ‘er done! Christine Burtt Sgt. Nick Pansini served five tours as a U.S. Marine, two in Iraq. His sisters Angel and Shannon and dad Joe Pansini told the story of his suicide in 2010 at the Saluting our Fallen Heroes Dinner Concert, and the reason for TAPS became crystal clear: We care! Now it its 11th year, the Colorado Celebrity Classic to benefit TAPS has become a model for hosting
TAPS Togethers: Baltimore May 17 TAPS Togethers: Armed Forces Day with the Baltimore Orioles TAPS Military Survivor Together in Baltimore, Maryland Eastern This event is open to all TAPS survivors, both adults and children, who have experienced a military or veteran loss. Join your TAPS Family to connect and enjoy a wonderful afternoon together at the Baltimore Orioles Armed Forces Day Game. Tickets are generously provided by the Good Feet Store. ADDITIONAL DETAILS Location: Baltimore, Maryland 21201 Registration is req
Expedition: Aconcagua Aconcagua Expedition Aconcagua Expedition \| TAPS Join us as we climb the highest mountain outside of the Himalayas, Aconcagua. We’ll summit one of the seven summits while we honor our loved ones. Unfortunately we have reached the maximum number of participants for this expedition, and we are no longer accepting applications. However, we invite you to consider joining our Kilimanjaro Expedition or contacting adultprograms@taps.org to learn about other TAPS outdoor programs that may interest yo
National Wreaths Across America Day National Wreaths Across America Day National Wreaths Across America Day \| TAPS Lalaine Estella Thousands of volunteers will participate in National Wreaths Across America Day on Saturday, December 15, to place wreaths on veterans’ graves at more than a thousand cemeteries throughout the country, including at Arlington National Cemetery. Gina Barnhurst started participating in Wreaths Across America in 2008, two years after her son, Marine Lance Cpl. Eric Herzberg, was killed in Iraq and buri
Letters From TAPS: From Survivor Care Team Letters From TAPS: From Survivor Care Team Letters From TAPS: From Survivor Care Team Sheri Beck Dear TAPS Family, As a child, I loved summer. Summer brought the promise of days spent boating on the Mississippi River and late nights playing softball and riding bikes. I never wanted the summer to end. As I grew older, I began to look forward to the arrival of autumn with all the changes it brought. And now I welcome the season with its crisp days and cold nights, autumn leaves turning beautif
Special Event: Culver Academy Culver Academy Summer Upper Camp Culver Academy Summer Upper Camp Duty, honor, service and truth — all values taught within military families. The Culver Academy Boarding School in Culver, Indiana, wants to continue to build on those values and develop the character and leadership skills of 10 TAPS teens over the next three summers. Hosted on the Maxinkuckee Lake, the Culver Academy Summer Upper Camp six-week program is open to TAPS teens between 13 ½ and 15 years old and runs from June 16 to
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Golf Classic 2016 Land of the Free Golf Classic 2016 Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms and Conference Center in the City of Industry, California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic”. This event will be held on Friday, November 11, 2016. The Land of the Free Foundation was started to recognize the men and woman of
Yuengling Lagers for Heroes Salute Veterans and Their Families Yuengling Lagers for Heroes Salute Veterans and Their Families Yuengling Lagers for Heroes Salute Veterans and Their Families \| TAPS TAPS TAPS is proud to have the support of America's Oldest Brewery, D.G. Yuengling & Son during the month of May as together we raise a toast to honor our military heroes. Fiercely independent for nearly 190 years, Yuengling is thankful and proud of the brave and dedicated service men and women who make tremendous sacrifices and represent our country's freedom,
Get Texts From Your TAPS Family! Get Texts From Your TAPS Family! Get Texts From Your TAPS Family! TAPS TAPS is expanding our mobile messaging capabilities with an exciting new program that allows us to text care group reminders, event invitations, deadlines and more to mobile phones in the US. Want to sign up? Just text TAPS to 95577. All TAPS text messages will come from the short code 95577. Some of you may already receive personal text messages from our Survivor Care Team or other staff with whom you have a relations
Resource Center: TAPS Military Survivor Education Support Services Resource Center: TAPS Military Survivor Education Support Services Resource Center: TAPS Military Survivor Education Support Services TAPS One of the most exciting times in anyone’s life is the prospect of attending college, secondary education, or trade school. It can also be an emotional and financially difficult time, dealing with complicated student admissions processes, applying for student aid, and dealing with everything else that goes along with this effort. The reality is that colleg
Presidential Memorial Certificates Presidential Memorial Certificates Presidential Memorial Certificates Betsy Beard The Presidential Memorial Certificate (PMC) is a gold embossed certificate signed by the current President in memory of any honorably discharged deceased veteran. This includes any service member who died while serving honorably. Its purpose is simply to honor the memory of those who have served. The certificate bears the name of the veteran along with an inscription expressing the nation's gratitude and recogni
TAPS Togethers: Houston March 5 TAPS Togethers: Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo™ Armed Forces Appreciation Day TAPS Military Survivor Togethers in Houston, Texas Central This event is open to all TAPS survivors, both adults and children, who have experienced a military or veteran loss. TAPS families are invited to gather for "Armed Forces Day," coming together for a day of connection including enjoy lunch, a Welcome Ceremony, and a full day of activities at the Houston Rodeo. This event is sponsored by the Houston Livestoc
Saturday Morning Message: Our Change of Thoughts on Mortality Saturday Morning Message: Our Change of Thoughts on Mortality Saturday Morning Message: Our Change of Thoughts on Mortality Carol Lane Good Morning, The picture this week shows the sunset over the water. Although I don't live near a lake or the ocean, I do live by a relatively large river. It's one place I like to go to think about questions like the one from this week's Saturday Morning Message about the change of ideas after the death of a loved one. In an article from the TAPS Magazine
Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS Carol Lane Good Morning, Because it is Thanksgiving weekend, this Saturday Morning Message features a list of resources TAPS provides that I am thankful for as a survivor. Since a list of all the programs would make this message too long, I've only included some of the programs, but you can learn about all TAPS programs at http://www.taps.org. The picture today is from the TAPS website showing a surviv
TAPS Togethers: Alexandria February 9 TAPS Togethers: Marine Band: Mozart's 40th Symphony, Alexandria TAPS Military Survivor Together in Alexandria, Virginia Eastern This event is open to military adult and child survivors. Join your local TAPS family for an afternoon of musical talent by the Marine Chamber Orchestra featuring Mozart's 40th Symphony at the Rachel M. Schlesinger Concert Hall and Arts Center. The works of Gioachino Rossini and Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart were state of the art during their lifetimes. Rossini left his ma
10 Things We Know to Be True about Suicide Loss 10 Things We Know to Be True about Suicide Loss 10 Things We Know to Be True about Suicide Loss \| TAPS TAPS Losing someone you love to suicide comes with complex grief. You might catch yourself asking why or what if or even wrestling with guilt, thinking you could have done something more — "If only I would have..." or "I should have known something was wrong." These questions, though raw and overwhelming — especially in grief — and processing these questions over time and with support can he
July Was Not Kind July Was Not Kind July Was Not Kind Linda Ambard I took a terrible fall out running at the end of July. Both arms were scraped, and my left rib cage and leg were criss-crossed with terrible scrapes. I knew the right side of my body was traumatized, but I never even recognized the unseen injuries that haunt me know. One and a half weeks after that spill, I came home from a relatively short run for me. Within an hour, I could not use my right leg. My leg buckled and locked. I couldn't get
The Dream, Revised The Dream, Revised The Dream, Revised Tabitha Bonilla A glimpse into my thoughts this past September 11th anniversary… I feel like sometimes the outside world looks at me differently. I feel the pressure of others that I should "move on" since my losses occurred ten years ago. It is different on September 11th though. On that day, people pause in their everyday life, even if it is just for a moment. They remember. On this day, I feel like the world gets it, if only just for a day. I ca
Reflections of Yesterday Reflections of Yesterday Reflections of Yesterday Bob Bagosy On September 23, 2013 I traveled to the UK with a group of TAPS parents, who just like me, had their son die in Iraq, Afghanistan, or at home. We went to the UK to meet and visit fellow parents who had their sons die in military service. On September 24, 2013 I arrived in London and took a taxi to our hotel, the Victory Service Club - a British Military Club built in 1907 in the heart of London. I spent some time with TAPS peop
Veterans Day Reflection Veterans Day Reflection Veterans Day Reflection Janna Schaefer Veterans Day, for many, is the celebration of our men and women in uniform. For myself and family, it is the day we lost our husband, father, son, brother and friend. SSGT Stephen M. Schaefer (USAF) was 31 when he died that morning as a result of his service in Desert Storm. This Veterans Day will mark the 20th anniversary of his death. Sometimes it is as though it were yesterday and I can recall each moment, and other times it
Thank You for Supporting Our Mission in 2022 Thank You for Supporting Our Mission in 2022 Thank You for Supporting Our Mission in 2022 \| TAPS TAPS TAPS is grateful for the incredible outpouring of support we received in 2022. We are humbled that so many members of our TAPS family brought us along as they honored their loved one; we applaud the communities around the country who gathered to pay tribute to local heroes; and we sincerely thank our growing circle of supporters for sharing the TAPS mission. When you fundraise for TAPS, you a
Saturday Morning Message: Coping With Sudden Grief Emotions Saturday Morning Message: Coping With Sudden Grief Emotions Coping With Sudden Grief Emotions \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, Being there to listen without judgement is one wonderful gift TAPS gives to those who connect with our organization. The opening photo shows a TAPS Military Mentor listening carefully to a young survivor. Through our mentors, caring staff and our Helpline Team, TAPS is here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to all survivors. The Saturda
Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, The idea for this week’s topic came from a discussion on one of the Online Community chats. We spent some time talking about what we do when we have difficulty getting a good night’s sleep. In the summer edition of TAPS Magazine, there is an article titled "Grief and Sleep," written by Heather Stang listing more ideas. Then on August 15, which was National Relaxa
Seminar: Suicide Loss National Military Suicide Loss Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp National Military Suicide Loss Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp \| TAPS For Adults: TAPS Seminars TAPS has supported thousands of survivors of military suicide loss by offering them hope, healing, and renewed opportunities for personal growth. If you’ve lost a military loved one to suicide, you've come to the right place. We've got you. At TAPS we understand that suicide grief is different. We know that you are st
Leaving a Mark on History Leaving a Mark on History Leaving a Mark on History \| TAPS Matt Davison In serving incarcerated veterans, I formed bonds with warriors who took part in wars spanning Korea, Vietnam, and the Gulf War. One vet, who is incarcerated at the Federal Correctional Institution at Terminal Island, California, precedes all these wars and has become a valued friend over the past five years. Because of confidentiality issues, I will not give his complete name, but will refer to him simply as Rene. This is
Expedition: Washington San Juan Islands Kayaking Expedition San Juan Islands Kayaking Expedition \| TAPS All adult survivors 18 and older are invited to join TAPS on the 2019 San Juan Islands Kayaking Expedition as we find new purpose, gain radical perspective, and remember what it feels like to live with determination. TAPS Expeditions are outdoor skills-based events that require dedication, preparation and a real sense of adventure. Professional guides will lead us through some of the country’s most spectacular ec
Young Adults: Generosity of Scars TAPS Young Adults: The Heroes Journey - Generosity of Scars TAPS Young Adults: The Heroes Journey - Generosity of Scars This workshop is open to TAPS Young Adults (ages 18 to 30). Storytelling is how we heal, how we validate, how we inform, and how we connect. Our warrior storytellers use purposeful storytelling to achieve relevance in life and business. Story is how we influence! OVERVIEW The Generosity of Scars storytelling workshop brings veterans and/or military fam
Fundraiser: Land of the Free Land of the Free Golf Classic 2018 Land of the Free Golf Classic 2018 \| TAPS Industry Hills Golf Club at Pacific Palms The Land of the Free Foundation is pleased to be partnered with the Pacific Palms and Conference Center in the City of Industry, California and the Industry Hills Golf Club to play host to the annual “Land of the Free Veterans Day Golf Classic”. The Land of the Free Foundation Veterans Day Golf Classic is the main fundraising event for the Land of the Free Foundation.
Seminar: Tampa CANCELLED--Tampa Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp Tampa Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp TAPS cancels Tampa Regional Seminar due to the approach of Hurricane Irma To our families and friends, TAPS is cancelling this week’s Tampa Regional Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp scheduled for Sept. 8-11 based on the State of Emergency in Florida. We understand this is a disappointment, but our first concern is always for the safety and security of our TAPS family. We have seen recen
TAPS Togethers: Wreaths Across America Wreaths Across America Wreaths Across America \| TAPS Eastern Time TAPS will join Wreaths Across America at Arlington National Cemetery to remember and honor our fallen heroes by placing wreaths on each grave and saying the name of each hero aloud. We invite all survivors to join us for this special act of remembrance. TAPS will have a table at the corner of Halsey Drive and York Drive, between Sections 59 and 60, to provide warm drinks and offer emotional care and comfort through TAPS Peer Men
teams4taps: Arizona State University TAPS and Arizona State University Salute to Service TAPS and Arizona State University TAPS is partnering with the Arizona State University Sun Devils Football Program for a unique opportunity to honor and recognize fallen service men and women. Please take a moment to read about this event honoring our fallen heroes. Arizona State University will honor the memory of our service men and women during their Salute to Service Game on Saturday, November 4, 2017. The program will pay tribute t
Fundraiser: Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races Potomac Hunt Races Gates open at 10:00 a.m., activities start at 12:00 p.m. ~ Race course closes at 7:00 p.m. Held in the heart of Montgomery County's horse country, the Potomac Hunt Races is an annual tradition, celebrating the sport of steeplechase racing. Amidst the thrill of thundering hooves and soaring horses, race day festivities include a car display, mounted police demonstrations, a Kid's Zone, stick races and vendor row. TAPS is the charity beneficiary of this
Run with TAPS in 2019 Run with TAPS in 2019 Run with TAPS in 2019 \| TAPS TAPS It’s not too late to commit to setting your resolution to run with TAPS in 2019. We’ve got two fun races coming up in February and March, with each race offering multiple distances for every level of runner. Photo: TAPS Archive The last day to register for the Disney Princess Half Marathon Weekend is Monday, January 28. The weekend event will be held February 21-24 in Orlando, Florida. Entries are available for all distances—5K, 10K, h
TAPS Honored as 2017 Top-Rated Nonprofit TAPS Honored as 2017 Top-Rated Nonprofit TAPS Honored as 2017 Top-Rated Nonprofit TAPS TAPS is pleased to announce that it has been honored with a prestigious 2017 Top-Rated Award by GreatNonprofits, the leading provider of user reviews about nonprofit organizations. “We are excited to be named a Top-Rated 2017 Nonproft,” says Bonnie Carroll, TAPS President and Founder. “We are humbled that so many of our survivors and volunteers took time to tell others how the TAPS mission has impacted
Explore Museums for Free This Summer Explore Museums for Free This Summer Explore Museums for Free This Summer TAPS Participation in Blue Star Museums is one of our favorite ways to enjoy the summer season! From Memorial Day through Labor Day each year, Blue Star Families partners with the National Endowment for the Arts to bring you free admission to more than 2,000 museums across the country. We love this program because museums are great places to learn with your families, and create lasting memories. Our friends at the A
Seminar: Suicide 2016 National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp ADULT SEMINAR The grief that follows a suicide loss is often uniquely complicated. In addition to mourning, unanswered questions and strained relationships, you may find that when you most need the support of others you actually feel most alone. But you are not alone. At the National Military Suicide Survivor Seminar, you'll be able to look around and know that. You'l
Sharing Your Story Sharing Your Story Sharing Your Story \| TAPS Rachel Hunsell I am the story I tell myself, and so are you. We are, like the books we read, a series of chapters bound together by our values, our experiences, our choices and our sense of self. When people we love die, it can feel like the pages we’d set aside for those chapters in our lives have been rewritten, but not by our own pen. It’s as if these pages were drafted without our choice, without our storytelling. But as we come together in
TAPS Advocacy in Action TAPS Advocacy in Action TAPS Advocacy in Action TAPS Your TAPS Policy Team is extremely busy advocating for our surviving families! We testified before Congress on five separate occasions and submitted statements for the record on important survivor issues. TAPS also advocates for our surviving families through the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) Federal Advisory Committee on Veterans’ Families, Caregivers, and Survivors and Chairs the Survivor Subcommittee. We continue to brief leadersh
New Poll Released from National Action Alliance on Suicide Prevention New Poll Released from National Action Alliance on Suicide Prevention New Poll Released from National Action Alliance on Suicide Prevention \| TAPS TAPS Earlier today, as part of National Suicide Prevention Week, the National Action Alliance on Suicide Prevention released the results of its national poll that was conducted in partnership with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and The Harris Poll. The poll showed that Americans overwhelmingly believe that suicide can be prevented,
Friends of TAPS: DynCorp Friends of TAPS: DynCorp Friends of TAPS: DynCorp TAPS Since 2001, DynCorp International has lost 84 teammates while supporting our nation’s foreign policy objectives. The sacrifice of these contractors is not widely known nor heralded except by their families and friends. Our nation asked their loved ones to go to war serving beside our military. Their families deserve our respect and embrace. DynCorp staff wear red shirts on Friday to show support for the Armed Forces. In recognition of
Summer Reading List for Kids Summer Reading List for Kids Summer Reading List for Kids Jonathan Kirkendall I was lucky enough to have a mom that loved to read to us as we grew up, so it’s no surprise that when I began as a group leader at Good Grief Camps, I turned to books to help the kids talk about their own grief. Over the years, I come back to many of the same books over and over again. My strong suggestion is that you read them first before reading them out loud to your kids – some of them are very moving! The F
Team TAPS Participates in Windy25 Memorial 5K Team TAPS Participates in Windy25 Memorial 5K Team TAPS Participates in Windy25 Memorial 5K TAPS Our TAPS family extends our sincere condolences to the families whose loved ones died or were injured in the tragic shooting at Fort Hood, Texas. TAPS is actively helping the families of the victims. Our assistance and support will be unwavering. The TAPS Run and Remember Team participated in the 4th Annual Windy25 Memorial 5K on Saturday in Las Vegas, Nevada. The Windy25 Memorial 5K is ded
A Father's Reflection from the UK A Father's Reflection from the UK A Father's Reflection from the UK Sandy Elliot Private Kevin Elliott, 3rd Battalion, The Black Watch, Royal Regiment of Scotland. That's how the Army knew my son; it's not how I knew him. My son Kevin joined the army in 2002. He served in Northern Ireland and Iraq, and finally in Afghanistan where he died on 31st August 2009. He was 24 years old. Kevin was due to leave the army in March 2009. He had passed his medical and was ready for civvy (civilian)
Our Marine Corps Birthday Tradition Our Marine Corps Birthday Tradition Our Marine Corps Birthday Tradition Bob Bagosy On November 09, 2008, I drove from Atlanta, GA to Camp Lejeune, NC to pick up my son, Tommy. We were making the long drive to Philadelphia, PA to attend the Marine Corps Birthday at a small corner bar in the heart of South Philadelphia. The bar, Cookies Tavern, was founded by a Marine who served in Vietnam in 1968. The bar is very, very small. It is similar to one found in a lot of eastern cities and is no bigg
TAPS Issues Tips for the Public Seeking to Express Sympathy or Support for the Families of Those Who Died in the Navy Yard TAPS Issues Tips for the Public Seeking to Express Sympathy or Support for the Families of Those Who Died in the Navy Yard TAPS Issues Tips for the Public Seeking to Express Sympathy or Support for the Families of Those Who Died in the Navy Yard TAPS The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), issues the following statement: We are saddened by the loss of life and injuries in a shooting incident at the U.S. Navy Yard in Washington D.C. yesterday. TAPS stands ready to assist families
Bereavement Counseling Bereavement Counseling Bereavement Counseling TAPS Department of Veterans Affairs Vet Centers When America experienced the terrorist attack on September 11, 2001, TAPS was there in the Pentagon Family Assistance Center providing comfort and support for all those who lost loved ones on that fateful day. Hundreds of TAPS Peer Mentors volunteered their time over the course of six weeks, traveling to Washington, DC for a week, living in the Center's headquarters hotel, and offering comfort to th
Education Support Services Education Support Services Education Support Services Ashlynne Haycock-Lohmann My dad, Sergeant First Class Jeffrey Haycock, died while training to deploy in 2002 when I was only ten years old. Education was extremely important to him; he actually made me learn all fifty states and their capitals before I started kindergarten. Pursuing a higher education was not optional; his kids would go to college. When he died, attaining his dreams for us seemed uncertain. I always knew, though, that I wo
Enough Enough Enough Michele Hiester Marcum I had the privilege of spending New Year’s Day with my third-grade scouts, shivering at our local state park. What was intended to be a lesson on conservation and environmental responsibility for them turned out to be yet another life lesson for me. Nothing like a chilly 20 degree day and my own words to clear the holiday fog from my brain. Before I explain all that, I need to tell you a little about where I am in my own journey. For many reasons, this ha
The Importance of Hope The Importance of Hope The Importance of Hope Alan Wolfelt Excerpted from The Mourner’s Book of Hope: 30 Days of Inspiration “Today… I open my heart’s hand to allow the touch of hope.” ~ Julia Cameron Someone you love has died. In your heart you have come to know your deepest pain. Your grief has brought challenges that seem beyond your own capacity to survive. Grief creates chaos, and your soul cries out. You naturally experience a sense of helplessness and, at times, you feel the d
Alcohol is Not the Answer Alcohol is Not the Answer Alcohol is Not the Answer Margaret Gerner We are frequently cautioned about the dangers of mixing alcohol and drugs. We are frequently cautioned about the dangers of mixing alcohol and driving. We are seldom cautioned about the danger of mixing alcohol with grief. The shrieking pain of early grief tempts the bereaved to escape in any way they can—to shut out the terrible reality of their loss, even for a short time. Usually they are not eating properly or sleep
The Honorable Celestial Discharge The Honorable Celestial Discharge The Honorable Celestial Discharge Colleen Betlach New terminology to bring comfort and hope As the holiday season approaches and our thoughts turn to holiday music, miracles, lights, and angelic hosts, I am reminded of a Thanksgiving night that I experienced many years ago while working at a VA Medical Center (VAMC). It was then that I first heard of an Honorable Celestial Discharge. I began my work at a VAMC shortly after my own Honorable Medical Dischar
Video: TAPS Mission Impact Video: TAPS Mission Impact Video: TAPS Mission Impact TAPS Media Over 75,000 surviving military family members are part of the TAPS family. They are fully supported 24/7 with compassionate care by a professional staff trained in best practices and offering resources for hope and healing. Thanks to the support of our donors in 2017, TAPS achieved amazing milestones throughout the year in providing comfort to the TAPS family. We hope you'll watch our Mission Impact video and know that we apprec
There’s Still Time to Put on Those Running Shoes for TAPS! There’s Still Time to Put on Those Running Shoes for TAPS! There’s Still Time to Put on Those Running Shoes for TAPS! \| TAPS TAPS The Team TAPS Virtual Fundraiser Campaign is going through December 31. The pandemic hasn’t stopped us from lacing up and running, jumping on our bikes, or hiking a trail as we honor our fallen military and raise funds to support the vital programs of TAPS. Get Involved You can still participate in our virtual campaign or make a resolution t
Let the Volunteer Journey Begin Let the Volunteer Journey Begin Let the Volunteer Journey Begin \| TAPS Clynton Trewyn Editor’s note: Clynton Trewyn, who has served as a TAPS military mentor, recently started a blog. He decided to make his first post about something close to his heart. This blog entry, which first appeared on his site, Volunteer Ripple, has been adapted for use on the TAPS website. I’ve been blessed enough to travel the country volunteering with TAPS over the last four years. By caring for survivors griev
Saturday Morning Message: TAPS Seminar Enjoyment Saturday Morning Message: TAPS Seminar Enjoyment Saturday Morning Message: TAPS Seminar Enjoyment Carol Lane Good Morning, Going to a TAPS Seminar for the first time can be stressful, especially if you are attending alone. I remember the first time I flew into the Reagan National Airport in Washington, D.C., for the TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp held each May. I wasn’t sure what I would find, but when I entered the hotel, there were TAPS staff members waiting to
Are You Ready To Rumble... With TAPS and Dare to Lead™? Are You Ready To Rumble... With TAPS and Dare to Lead™? Are You Ready To Rumble... With TAPS and Dare to Lead™? \| TAPS Terri Williams "I have watched over 300 TAPS Survivors graduate from our Dare to LeadTM program. Their growth, connection, and commitment to learn and help one another is a demonstration of the heart of the TAPS Community." ✯ Terri L. Williams, TAPS Senior Advisor and Dare to LeadTM Facilitator, Survivor of the 9/11 Attack on the Pentagon More than 300 TAPS
Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Proud Memories Of Our Loved Ones Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Proud Memories Of Our Loved Ones Sharing Proud Memories Of Our Loved Ones \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, Sharing memories of our loved ones with others helps us heal. In this week’s message, survivors have shared occasions that bring pride into their lives when they think of their loved ones. Each event helps us create a mental picture of that special person. If you would like to send a note commenting on one or all of the respo
Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Activities Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Activities Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Activities \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, The idea for the question this week came from a discussion we had on the Tuesday general chat about activities that helped lift us from grieving. Debby, wife of Thomas was one of those participating in that chat. She talked about the quilts she makes, so I thought placing her beside one of her quilts would be a good way to open this week’s Saturday Morning Message. It is
Godwinks: Special Gifts From Our Loved Ones Godwinks: Special Gifts From Our Loved Ones Godwinks: Special Gifts From Our Loved Ones Bevin Landrum When I first came to TAPS, I had never heard the term “Godwinks.” I remember feeling quite confused when a co-worker mentioned a Godwink story in our staff meeting. The meaning of the term was clear from her experience of a special song coming on the radio at the exact moment she was feeling alone and missing her parents. The song had always been one she listened to with her mom. It seem
Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Activities Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Activities Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Activities Carol Lane Good Morning, This past week, I attended the 23rd Annual TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp in the D.C. area. TAPS Seminars are a time of reflection and connection as we talk with other survivors who walk this journey with us. It is great to meet others in person who have been a part of the Online Community throughout the year. TAPS has given its website a
Team TAPS: Carry the Load Carry the Load with Team TAPS Carry the Load with Team TAPS Join your TAPS family during this very moving and inspiring memorial month as we honor our heroes nationwide during Carry the Load. COVID Protocol Statement In an effort to comply with local COVID-19 guidelines, please insure you register and indicate where you will be physically participating so Carry the Load can manage participation numbers throughout the Memorial May events, and adhere to all CDC guidelines and protocols.
Self-Funded Travel: New England Cruise TAPS New England Cruise TAPS New England Cruise Military Survivors All survivors are invited to join us on our TAPS New England Cruise. Set sail with your TAPS family this August. This self-funded cruise will be a chance to relax, heal and creating lasting friendships with fellow survivors. IMPORTANT: Registering by May 8 reserves your cabin at the discounted price. After May 8, please contact the TAPS travel consultant, Tamra Sipes, at 360-914-0800 or tamra.sipes@taps.org for price and ca
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton Saturday, November 18, 2023, is International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day (also referred to as ISOSLD or Survivor Day). It is acknowledged as a day of healing throughout the world where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect, honor the lives of their loved ones, and share experiences of support, encouragement, and hope. According to the American Foundation for Suicid
Write On: How Sharing Your Story with TAPS Can Bring Healing to You and Fellow Survivors Write On: How Sharing Your Story with TAPS Can Bring Healing to You and Fellow Survivors Write On: How Sharing Your Story with TAPS Can Bring Healing to You and Fellow Survivors \| TAPS TAPS "[Storytelling] is, in and of itself, a coping skill we can use to heal our hearts." ~ Rachel Hunsell, surviving sister of U.S. Marine Corps Lance Corporal J. Kyle Price, and TAPS Program Manager, Outdoor Engagement Losing a loved one requires facing a full spectrum of emotions, some familiar, some o
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton Saturday, November 19, 2022, is International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day (also referred to as ISOSLD or Survivor Day). It is a day of healing throughout the world where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect with one another, honor the lives of their loved ones, and share experiences of support, encouragement, and hope. According to the American Foundation for Suici
TAPS Friendsgiving TAPS Friendsgiving TAPS Friendsgiving TAPS As we move further into Fall, we begin ushering in the holiday season and are reminded of the importance of family and community. This Fall, we are creating local, one day events across the country where survivors can connect and acknowledge the bittersweet nature of the holidays and the range of emotions that can come along with them. We call this TAPS Friendsgiving. Together, we will tell the stories of those who left empty seats at the table, and
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day, commonly referred to as ISOSLD or Survivor Day, is on Saturday, November 20, 2021. It is declared as a day of healing throughout the world, where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect around the lives of their loved ones and share their experiences of support, encouragement, and hope. According to The American Foundation for
Three Ways to Boost Memories of Loved Ones This Holiday Season Three Ways to Boost Memories of Loved Ones This Holiday Season Three Ways to Boost Memories of Loved Ones This Holiday Season \| TAPS Allison Gilbert We know holidays can be challenging for individuals who’ve lost loved ones, but they also offer opportunities for keeping memories alive. Below are three of my favorite ways to honor and celebrate the family and friends we never want to forget. Use Social Media If you can’t be with your family for the holidays, share memories of your love
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day, also known as ISOSLD or Survivor Day, is on Saturday, November 21, 2020, and is intended to be a day of healing throughout the world, where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect around the lives of their loved ones and the experiences of hope, support, and encouragement. According to The American Foundation for Suicide Pre
Finding Peace, One Piece at a Time Finding Peace, One Piece at a Time Finding Peace, One Piece at a Time \| TAPS Amy Tucci In life, we refer to our loved one’s possessions as their stuff and things. In death, they signify forever connections to cherished memories. – Rachel Kodanaz Rachel Kodanaz, whose husband, Rod, died suddenly when she was 31, knows of what she writes in her new and immensely helpful book, Finding Peace, One Piece at a Time. Kodanaz found intense meaning and intimacy in Rod’s belongings following his dea
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day is on Saturday, November 23, 2019, and is intended to be a day of healing throughout the world, where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect around the lives of their loved ones and the experiences of hope, support, and encouragement. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (or AFSP) supports hundreds of community even
Sesame Street’s Resources for Grieving Military Families Sesame Street’s Resources for Grieving Military Families Sesame Street’s Resources for Grieving Military Families \| TAPS TAPS This year, Elmo, Big Bird and the rest of Sesame Street are celebrating 50 years of bringing quality educational programming to households everywhere. Since the show first aired in 1969, its mission is to help kids—including military surviving kids—everywhere grow smarter, stronger and kinder. Sesame Workshop, the nonprofit organization that produces Sesame Street,
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day is on Saturday, November 17, 2018 and is intended to be a day of healing throughout the world, where all those who are affected by suicide loss can connect around the lives of their loved ones and the experiences of hope, support and encouragement. On this day, survivors will gather around the world in small and large events in local c
Keeping up with Your Benefits Keeping up with Your Benefits Keeping up with Your Benefits \| TAPS Kathy Moakler Sometimes it can be confusing to keep up with all the changes to survivor benefits. TAPS is here to keep you informed of new changes and to assist you with previous benefits. Here is an update on what’s new. New FEDVIP program for Dental and Vision Care Do you use the TRICARE Retiree Dental Program? This program will end on December 31, 2018 and be replaced by the Federal Employees Dental and Vision Insurance
International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day \| TAPS Carla Stumpf Patton International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day is on Saturday, November 18, 2017 and is intended to be a day of healing throughout the world, where all those impacted by suicide loss can connect around the lives of their loved ones and the shared stories of hope, support, and encouragement. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention or AFSP, oversees more than 350 host location
Moments Captured Forever: Behind the Lens for TAPS Moments Captured Forever: Behind the Lens for TAPS Moments Captured Forever: Behind the Lens for TAPS Paige Williams Lenzy Ruffin has been a volunteer with TAPS since the 2016 National Military Survivor Seminar. He took amazing photos during the weekend event to capture the meaning and connection of the TAPS family. Since then, he also covered the Army Ten-Miler in October for Team TAPS. Before becoming a professional photographer, Lenzy served as a lieutenant in the U.S. Army. TAPS is so gra
New Policy Affects Surviving Children with Special Needs New Policy Affects Surviving Children with Special Needs New Policy Affects Surviving Children with Special Needs TAPS New legislation now allows eligible surviving children with disabilities and incapacitated adult dependents to have their Survivor Benefit Plan payment made to a Special Needs Trust. Previously, a Special Needs Trust did not qualify to receive payments from a survivor benefit plan. What it means for survivors who receive payments from a Survivor Benefit Plan Why is this i
Letters from TAPS: TAPS Seminars Letters from TAPS: TAPS Seminars Letters from TAPS: TAPS Seminars Emily Munoz Dear TAPS Family, When this issue reaches your hands, the holiday season will be upon us. While the rest of the world opens up with holiday spirit, those of us who are not at home in a world of celebration may be tempted to close ourselves off, shield ourselves somehow. Worn down by the powerful, insistent tug of how much is missing, we can feel out of place. We wonder if continuity of tradition will bring us
Letters from TAPS: From the Volunteer Coordinator Letters from TAPS: From the Volunteer Coordinator Letters from TAPS: From the Volunteer Coordinator Jerome Tennille Dear TAPS Family, Nearly twenty-eight years ago in 1985, the General Assembly of the United Nations designated December 5 of every year as International Volunteer Day. It is an annual celebration of all that is achieved by volunteers around the world. As we observe that special day and enter the season of winter holidays, with their emphasis on light and warmth and giving, I
The Poems of Sascha Wagner The Poems of Sascha Wagner The Poems of Sascha Wagner Betsy Beard This holiday season, if you are looking for a gift to give to yourself and perhaps to others who grieve, I would like to recommend The Poems of Sascha Wagner. It’s a volume of poetry sold exclusively by The Compassionate Friends (TCF). TCF was started in England almost forty-five years ago and has grown to become an international self-help organization offering friendship, understanding, and hope to families that have experienc
Running with the TAPS Family Running with the TAPS Family Running with the TAPS Family Regina Vitt When a family you know loses a spouse and a father, you want to do anything you can to make life easier for them. Sometimes, it can be difficult to find ways to help. Are you going to say or do something wrong? Are you going to be more of a burden than a help? Do they really want your help at the time? Other times, being able to help just comes naturally. I didn't give it a second thought when Rachael asked family and
Agency Over Agent Orange Agency Over Agent Orange Agency Over Agent Orange \| TAPS Claire Henline “Hey ‘CG’ Can I get you anything?” It was the question my dad always asked me when I was really sick. The kind of sick he could tell just by the look of me — a crumpled up little lump of ginger lethargy on the couch with my woobie — was not just the ‘7 to 2 get out of school flu’ I sometimes came down with. It came in a tone of deep sincerity and earnest determination to fix it however best he could. His hea
October is Emotional Wellness Month October is Emotional Wellness Month October is Emotional Wellness Month \| TAPS TAPS This article was first published on the TAPS website on October 1, 2021 and has been updated with additional resources. As members of the TAPS family, we either know (or are learning) that even in the midst of heartache, we can find moments of comfort and connection. It doesn’t always come naturally - it isn’t easy to balance the needs of grieving and living. Yet, when we’re navigating major life transition
TAPS Care Groups: Finding Safety in Numbers TAPS Care Groups: Finding Safety in Numbers TAPS Care Groups: Finding Safety in Numbers Zaneta Gileno Sadness and grief are normal responses to loss. For many, especially those who suffer the unexpected or traumatic loss of a loved one, post traumatic stress compounds the grief response, making it even more difficult for surviving loved ones to integrate the loss into their lives. The need to be understood and to connect with others who understand is a key to finding hope and healing. TAPS
Children’s Books for the Summer Children’s Books for the Summer Children’s Books for the Summer Cheryl Kreutter By and large, the books reviewed here describe how empathy (an emotion) prompts compassion (an action). Each will appeal in different ways to different readers at different times. Characters are identifiable and real, and illustrations appropriately support the story, theme or concept. Most importantly, these are books that invite readers to discuss their own thoughts and feelings about loss as well as consider wa
Boxes in the Attic Boxes in the Attic Boxes in the Attic Betsy Beard Sorting, keeping, giving, and storing our loved ones’ personal effects Many of us have been faced with multiple shipments of personal effects from various corners of the world. Others of us are denied any access to the items that might help us feel more connected to our loved ones. Wherever we find ourselves on the scale of ownership of personal effects, the pain is immeasurable and long-lasting. I turned my head slightly as I drove, che
Stop, Look, Listen Stop, Look, Listen Stop, Look, Listen Darcie Sims When was the last time you did nothing? Do you ever just sit anymore? Do you ever just lie on your back in new mown grass and watch the clouds dance by? Do you ever chase after butterflies, trying to give them a message to carry? Or dangle your toes in a pond or watch kids dash through a sprinkler? Do you ever sit on a porch or patio and smell the grass, the flowers, the air? Do you even have a porch or patio and do you know what sitting
Military Children and Grief Military Children and Grief Military Children and Grief Betsy Beard Judith Mathewson Tina Saari and Heather Campagna After the flag is folded, and after the last echoing notes of Taps have sounded on the bugle, the overwhelming grief of losing a parent in military service comes to rest squarely on shoulders too small, too fragile, too young, and too inexperienced to bear the burden alone. Tucked away from the public spotlight, the grief following a military death continues for months and ye
Faces of TAPS: Surviving Sister Ideliz Mora-Cruz’s Story Faces of TAPS: Surviving Sister Ideliz Mora-Cruz’s Story Faces of TAPS: Surviving Sister Ideliz Mora-Cruz’s Story \| TAPS TAPS Ideliz Mora-Cruz Faces of TAPS is a digital content series where, in their own words, survivors both celebrate the lives of their military loved ones and reflect on their personal grief journey. Ideliz Mora-Cruz is the surviving sister of Army SGT Geraldo Andre Mora Cruz, who died by suicide on March 15, 2015. Ideliz currently works as an Associate with the TAPS Surviv
From Grief to Giving Back: A TAPS Helpline Associate Shares Her Journey From Grief to Giving Back: A TAPS Helpline Associate Shares Her Journey From Grief to Giving Back: A TAPS Helpline Associate Shares Her Journey \| TAPS Kristi Stolzenberg Vanessa Hanna-Verrett There are moments in life when exactly what you need meets you where you are. Some people credit this to a higher power, some give a nod to lucky stars, and others call it chance. Vanessa Hanna-Verrett, a TAPS Helpline associate, doesn’t believe anything happens by chance. Vanessa wasn’t always an associa
Mental Health and the Military: Asking for Help When You Need It Mental Health and the Military: Asking for Help When You Need It Mental Health and the Military: Asking for Help When You Need It \| TAPS Jon Ganues This piece originally appeared in the Real Stories blog of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I am a survivor of suicide loss, having lost a first cousin, a second cousin, and an Air Force son to suicide. I am also a survivor of suicide ideation. In 1993, while serving as a U.S. Army Warrant Officer, in the 82nd Airborne Division at
Saturday Morning Message: Continuing Our Loved Ones' Habits Saturday Morning Message: Continuing Our Loved Ones' Habits Continuing Our Loved Ones' Habits \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, In my area of the country, fall is coming. This week’s question, combined with the leaves beginning to change color, made me think of a habit I still do that started with my son, Bryon, playing football in high school. Although I didn’t know much about the sport before he decided to play, I learned the names of many plays and what each player
Saturday Morning Message: Show Us How You Display Your Keepsakes Saturday Morning Message: Show Us How You Display Your Keepsakes Show Us How You Display Your Keepsakes \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, The idea for today’s message came from Rachel, mother of Matthew, who sent a picture and wrote, “I wanted to express the emptiness in my heart. Since I'm not good with words and have always loved photography I decided on this. I felt these items best represented my ache at the time. I will forever have "boots in the house." Ra
Saturday Morning Message: To Continue Traditions or Not? Saturday Morning Message: To Continue Traditions or Not? To Continue Traditions or Not? \| TAPS Saturday Morning Message Carol Lane Good Morning, Sometimes it is comforting to go to a place that was special to you and your loved one. This is a photo of Lake Tahoe sent by a survivor, Debbie, spouse of Tom, for inclusion in an earlier Saturday Morning Message. She wrote, “Lake Tahoe will always be my happy place and its magic holds the most incredible memories of joy, happiness and true love th
TAPS In Action TAPS In Action TAPS In Action Candace Wheeler TAPS is committed to supporting and advancing policy and legislation to strengthen the families of America’s fallen military heroes. Our Policy Team listens to the concerns of our surviving military families and advocates on their behalf. We work to educate military and veteran organizations, Members of Congress, and policymakers within the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA), Department of Defense (DoD), and other government agencies to ensure o
Make it Your Mission to Be There for Someone in Crisis Make it Your Mission to Be There for Someone in Crisis Make it Your Mission to Be There for Someone in Crisis \| TAPS Kim Ruocco September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and military units around the world are joining the Defense Suicide Prevention Office and its partners, including the National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention, the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors and other organizations that are there for those who are struggling or are in crisis. Suicide is one of the
A New Role to Play A New Role to Play Honoring the Fallen By Helping the Next Generation \| TAPS William Wagasy A Navy SEAL from 2002 to 2012, I had three deployments to Iraq under my belt and had just finished a year-long deployment to Afghanistan when I returned to the United States. I served another six months in the military and transitioned to civilian life, and I was totally lost as to what to do next with my life. I wanted to unplug for a while. I didn’t want to answer to anyone. So, I moved from my du
Facing My Fears on Heartbreak Hill Facing My Fears on Heartbreak Hill Facing My Fears on Heartbreak Hill Linda Ambard The Boston Marathon is going to be my 100th marathon on April 18th. It was never supposed to be my 100th marathon because 100 marathons is usually a time where people come and celebrate the milestone. My 100thmarathon was supposed to be about finishing the Bucket List I had when Phil was killed and starting a new Bucket List for the next chapter in my life. I figured five years would be time enough to be rea
Anxiety? What Anxiety? Anxiety? What Anxiety? Anxiety? What Anxiety? Jenna Henderson Eight and a half years after Chris’ death in Afghanistan, had anyone told me I would be still struggling to find a sense of normalcy, I would have laughed at him or her. Had anyone told me I would be struggling with anxiety some days that almost swallows me whole in one gulp, I would not have believed it. Up until two years ago, I had never had an ounce of anxiety or experienced anxiety or panic attacks in my life, not even for Chr
Beyond My Fears Beyond My Fears Beyond My Fears Linda Ambard A borrowed line from a song sums it up well. "People say that I'm amazing, strong beyond my years, but they don't see inside of me. I'm hiding all my fears." I've been afraid of my very first memories - afraid of fire, darkness, getting lost, fitting in, trying new things, you name it. I quake and feel slightly nauseated when I am confronted with new situations, decisions, predicaments and even surprises. I learned long ago, though, that waiting on
Today Is My Day Today Is My Day Today Is My Day Linda Ambard So many people spend their lives in quiet desperation thinking of one day - someday. I was no different and, at times, I am still stuck in the rut of day-to-day responsibilities and routines. Mired in the frenetic pace and wanting more, never quite reaching that elusive someday, is exactly where I was when Phil was killed. I was happy sitting on the sidelines waiting, but I knew something was missing for me and for my life. When Phil married me,
I Was Married. I'm Widowed. I'm Still Married. I Was Married. I'm Widowed. I'm Still Married. I Was Married. I'm Widowed. I'm Still Married. Shanette Booker He was a tall caramel complexioned man. His smile lit up when he walked into the room. He had a sense of humor that would cheer a person up no matter their mood. His hugs melted away the bad and made your days better. He was born Andre Booker. I knew him as Dre; his military family knew him as Booker. He was a son, a brother, a father, a Marine, a Soldier, a friend, and my husband. Wh
Once Upon A Time Once Upon A Time Once Upon A Time Linda Ambard People often put off doing the things they want to do because they believe there will be a better time for it. I know that Phil and I put off those couple's only dates and vacations because we thought we had time. In fact, I pushed for a Phil and Linda vacation together before his deployment, but he wanted to wait because it wasn't his top priority. It became the desire of his heart while he was deployed, and we had plans for that magical day t
Life is a Gift Life is a Gift Life is a Gift Rachael Hill Every day I wear a black bracelet on my wrist with my husband's name on it. I never take it off. In some respect I feel like even though I had to take my wedding ring off, I still have this daily token to wear that continues to represent him. Sure it has his date of death on it, but it surprisingly doesn't remind me that he died, but rather that he lived! I wear my bracelet with pride. I get excited when people ask me about it, because it gives m
The 10 Year Anniversary The 10 Year Anniversary The 10 Year Anniversary Elizabeth Rozier Lately, I have been struggling with the subjects of my blogs. I write better when it comes from experience and emotion. But from fear of offending in an easily offended world, I have refrained from sharing from my deepest experiences. However, I think some of you can relate to the topic of faith and grief and trying to figure out where they can both exist in our lives together. So, hear my heart. I do not seek to offend, but si
The Mourner's Bill of Rights The Mourner's Bill of Rights The Mourner's Bill of Rights Alan Wolfelt As a bereaved person, you have certain rights that others must not take away from you. In fact, it is the very upholding of these rights that makes healing possible. 1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. Don't allow others to tell you what you should or should not be feeling. 2. You have the right to talk about your grief. Talking about your
The Day Before Our Last Day The Day Before Our Last Day The Day Before Our Last Day Shanette Booker I contemplated just how my 1 year mark would be…what I should expect…and how I think things will be for me. I think my thinking has driven me crazy, and I think that I always expect things to be worse than they are, considering Dre passed away just days after celebrating both his and our son’s birthdays. But then again my mother always said: “Thinking comes from not knowing”, and in this case she definitely was right.
What Your Kids Want You to Know What Your Kids Want You to Know Andy McNiel * Senior Advisor, TAPS Youth Programs After a life-altering loss, we — as parents and caregivers — want to know how to support our children, ensuring they grow into successful, happy, and healthy adults despite knowing grief. When they seem OK on the outside, we worry about thoughts and feelings we can’t see. And, even when they are outwardly distressed or their behavior indicates something more is happening, they may not necessarily be communica
You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part One You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part One You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part One \| TAPS Alan Wolfelt Author's Note: I have been a grief counselor and educator for more than 40 years, and “crazy” is the most common way in which people describe their early grief to me. Let me assure you straight off: It is normal to feel crazy after a significant loss. But you’re actually not going crazy in the way you may think. What you’re doing is grieving. This six-part article series
Saturday Morning Message: Reasons for Joining the Military Saturday Morning Message: Reasons for Joining the Military Saturday Morning Message: Reasons for Joining the Military \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, The picture this week is the front of one of the hotels that housed the TAPS 24th National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp this year. I thought this picture would capture the theme of this week’s message about why our loved ones joined the military. There were so many wonderful responses to this week’s question that I am going to
Saturday Morning Message: Inspirational Movies Saturday Morning Message: Inspirational Movies Saturday Morning Message: Inspirational Movies \| TAPS Carol Lane Good morning, Movie titles were shared this week that provided support for those who responded. Each responder shared how the movie helped in a special way on the grief journey. Since I wanted to make sure their thoughts were highlighted, a decision was made to place a link for each movie to IMDb for the summary, etc. If you want to know more about a movie, just click on the title
Saturday Morning Message: Thankful Thoughts and Holiday Tips Saturday Morning Message: Thankful Thoughts and Holiday Tips Saturday Morning Message: Thankful Thoughts and Holiday Tips Carol Lane Good Morning, As 2016 comes to a close, it is time for many of us to look at where we are now on our grief journey and what has helped us. This week, survivors have shared what they are thankful for in their own lives, and TAPS has pulled together resources on the TAPS website to assist survivors during this time from Thanksgiving to New Year's Day. You can re
Run and Remember Team: Finding the FUN in Fundraising Run and Remember Team: Finding the FUN in Fundraising Run and Remember Team: Finding the FUN in Fundraising Betsy Beard Since October of 2000 when the first Run and Remember Team of two runners raised nearly five thousand dollars, fundraising has been a part of the team’s efforts on behalf of TAPS. Not only do TAPS runners spend time training for the event, but they also use their skills and ingenuity to raise awareness and raise funds in support of the TAPS mission. Some runners run only
Dealing with the Media in Wake of Tragedy Dealing with the Media in Wake of Tragedy Dealing with the Media in Wake of Tragedy \| TAPS Ami Neiberger-Miller For many surviving families who have lost a loved one in the military, our interactions with the media are interwoven with our experiences in the days immediately after our loved one dies. We encounter the reporters on our front porch, field phone calls from the Associated Press, and might even scan pictures to share. As a seasoned public relations professional, I am no stranger
You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part Five You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part Five You’re Not Crazy — You’re Grieving — Part Five \| TAPS Alan Wolfelt Editor's Note This is part five of a six-part series adapted from Dr. Alan Wolfelt's book, You're Not Crazy — You're Grieving. Parts one through four were published in the summer 2023, fall 2023, spring 2024, and summer 2024 issues of TAPS Magazine. In early grief, existential questions tend to naturally arise. Why did the person have to die? Why now? Why
How Nature Helps Us Heal After Loss How Nature Helps Us Heal After Loss How Nature Helps Us Heal After Loss \| TAPS Erin Jacobson My senses were in overdrive. My ears filled with the sounds of my feet plodding on dirt and the swish of my arms against my backpack. I heard birds singing and the wind moving through the trees. My nostrils filled with the sharp scent of pine trees. The sun toasted my skin. All around me I could see the breathtaking beauty of Eastern Montana, but the sensation of burning muscles consumed me. I had m
Please Say Their Name: The Importance of Honoring and Remembering Please Say Their Name: The Importance of Honoring and Remembering Please Say Their Name: The Importance of Honoring and Remembering \| TAPS Pamela Gabbay My father, Jerry Henry, was in the Army for my entire childhood. We lived all over the United States and in Germany. I really enjoyed being part of the larger military community. After he retired from the Army, he became a long-distance truck driver who drove an 18-wheeler. Late one night, he crashed his big rig on one of his many runs and di
Knowledge. Connection. Hope. Knowledge. Connection. Hope. The Journey of a Surviving Spouse and Her Daughters Through Illness Loss The Journey of a Surviving Spouse and Her Daughters Through Illness Loss \| TAPS Robyn Thomson Lieutenant Colonel Todd Thomson Lt. Col. Todd Thomson proudly served his country for 20 and a half years. The love he had for being a soldier made him get up in the morning; it made his wheels turn. As a logistics officer, he spent time on various posts in the U.S., South Korea, and Ira
On Memorial Day, We Honor Them On Memorial Day, We Honor Them On Memorial Day, We Honor Them \| TAPS Coleen Bowman Editor's Note: As we move into the month of May, we will be sharing a series of stories from survivors. To begin the month, surviving spouse Coleen Bowman shares her memories and thoughts on this sacred time, memories of the past, reflection on the present, and new traditions for the future. We invite you to share your Memorial Day thoughts or memories by sending your stories to editor@taps.org and also share o
From Caregiver to Survivor From Caregiver to Survivor: Finding New Purpose and Honoring Husband's Legacy From Caregiver to Survivor: Finding New Purpose and Honoring Husband's Legacy \| TAPS Coleen Bowman Editor's note: The TAPS Caregiver to Survivor program provides comfort and care to families whose military loved ones died following an illness. In 2019 alone, TAPS welcomed 2,000 survivors who experienced such a loss. We have developed our new program to focus on the complex nature of this grief, which often begins at
Grandma's Garden of Life Grandma's Garden of Life Grandma's Garden of Life \| TAPS Rachel Hunsell Surrounded by her family, boxes of seeds and bulbs, songs of Sunday morning worship and the sound of rain on her tin roof, my Grandma’s spirit left her earthly body on the morning of my brother’s birthday in 2017. The two are forever intertwined. I’d been working at TAPS for less than two months, facilitating our backcountry expeditions and sharing the healing power of nature with my fellow survivors. Just a few
How to Talk to Children About the Coronavirus: Being Open and Honest Can Offer Reassurance How to Talk to Children About the Coronavirus: Being Open and Honest Can Offer Reassurance How to Talk to Children About the Coronavirus: Being Open and Honest Can Offer Reassurance \| TAPS Alan Wolfelt As the coronavirus spreads across North America and our daily lives are transformed, we all must be aware of the need for good mental-health care. Obviously, it’s a stressful time. Families are confined to their homes. School is canceled. Many businesses are closed. Workers are being laid off e
Prepare Yourself for the Holidays Prepare Yourself for the Holidays Prepare Yourself for the Holidays \| TAPS Bonnie Carroll Alan Wolfelt “Oh that it were possible, after long grief and pain, to find the arms of my true love around me once again.” ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson Because the person who died is no longer there to share the holidays with you, you may feel particularly sad and vulnerable during Christmas, Hanukkah and other holidays that are special to your family. Don’t overextend yourself during the holidays. Don’
How I learned to stop asking why and use my tragedy as a force for good How I learned to stop asking “Why?” and use my tragedy as a force for good How I learned to stop asking “Why?” and use my tragedy as a force for good \| TAPS Don Lipstein September is National Suicide Prevention Month. This article is the last of five stories by TAPS suicide loss survivors who wish to share lessons learned from their grief journeys. We invite you to share this story using the hashtag #SurvivorSunday. If you know or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, pleas