Stories by Carol Lane


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Saturday Morning Message: Volunteer in service to others

What volunteer work have you done that has helped on your grief journey and how was it helpful to you?

9/14/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Upcoming Holiday Ideas

What words of encouragement would you offer to someone approaching their first holiday season without their loved one?

9/7/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Pet Grief Support

Pets can be comforting. How does your pet help on your grief journey?

8/31/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep

What helps you sleep when you find yourself restless at night?

8/24/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Creative Ideas

Creativity helps with our healing and honors our loved ones. What do you do to express yourself creatively?

8/17/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Special Places

Is there a place you and your loved one went that is special just for the two of you?

8/10/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Living A Life With Honor

What are you doing to honor your loved one’s service while learning to live a life without his/her physical presence?

8/3/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Uplifting Our Spirits

What do you do to uplift your spirits when you find yourself feeling gloomy?

7/27/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Meaningful Objects

Do you have a personal object that really speaks to your heart?

7/20/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Objects that Help Heal

Do you have a personal object that really speaks to your heart?

7/13/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Summer Memories

What is your favorite summer memory or vacation with your loved one?

7/6/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: 4th of July Ideas

What would you like to do for the 4th of July this year?

6/29/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Your Gifts to Share

What are your gifts and how can you share them to ease someone’s pain?

6/22/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Attending funerals after loss of a loved one, Part 2

Have you had difficulty going to a funeral or memorial service since the death of your loved one?

6/15/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Attending Funerals After Loss of a Loved One

Have you had difficulty going to a funeral or memorial service since the death of your loved one?

6/8/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The things they leave behind

What do you keep around that reminds you of your loved one?

6/1/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Remembrances

Today we look we share responses from the TAPS archives about how survivors honor those who gave their lives in military service to our country.

5/25/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Reactions to TAPS Seminar or Retreat

What TAPS seminar or retreat have you attended and what did you like best about it?

5/18/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Feeling close to our loved ones across time and space

What is a time or place that you feel close to your loved one?

5/11/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: When We Feel Overwhelmed

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the number or scope of rituals honoring your loved one?

5/4/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Books on Grief

Do you have a book you would like to share that has helped you in your grief?

4/27/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Our Loved Ones

What are you doing to honor your loved one?

4/20/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: What do your dreams mean?

Has a loved one come to you in a dream? How did it make you feel? What was remarkable about it?

4/13/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Strategies for Good Sleep

Have your sleep patterns changed since your loss, and what strategies do you find helpful on sleepless nights?

4/6/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Self-Care Strategies

What self-care strategies have you found beneficial?

3/30/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dealing With A Sudden Change

How has a sudden change in your journey impacted the progress you have made with your healing?

3/23/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: How do you share or show your grief in public?

Have you ever felt as though you had to put your own grief aside in order to conform to others' expectations of you at an event honoring your loved one?

3/16/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Memories, Big and Small

Describe one thing that will tell us about your loved one. It can be a serious or a funny detail.

3/9/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Difference TAPS Has Made

How is your life different because you have been able to connect with others through TAPS?

3/2/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Survivor Tips For Tough Times

What is something you use as a tool to help you when grief gets tough?

2/23/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Compassion of TAPS Mentors

How has your TAPS mentor made an impact on your life or those in your family?

2/16/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Comforting Suggestions from Survivors

What was something comforting someone did for you after the death of your loved one?

2/9/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Personalized Memorials Express Your Special Relationship

What do you do as a yearly memorial for your loved one?

2/2/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Making a Difference With TAPS Events

What is the best thing about a TAPS seminar, retreat or other event?

1/26/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Places That Touch Our Hearts

Are there places you used to go that you now avoid after the death of your loved one?

1/19/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Places That Touch Our Hearts

Are there places you used to go that you now avoid after the death of your loved one?

1/12/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Take Good Care

What have you done recently or what do you plan to do to take care of yourself?

1/5/2019 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Take Some Time to Take Care

As we come to the beginning of 2019, treat yourself well. Brad Stetson shares some activities that might be a help to comfort yourself.

12/29/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Gifts from the Heart from our Loved Ones

What was one gift your loved one gave to the family just by being themselves?

12/22/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Showing Love to Those Around Us

How do you let others close to you know you still love them while you are grieving?

12/15/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: An Ornament For Your Loved One

If you could give your loved one an ornament today, what would the ornament symbolize?

12/8/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Coping with the Holidays

What are your strategies for coping with the December holidays?

12/1/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS

We are thankful for all the ways TAPS provides comfort and care to our TAPS family. Learn more about TAPS programs.

11/24/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Thanksgiving Food

What was your loved one's favorite food for the Thanksgiving holiday? How was it prepared?

11/17/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dreams Part 2

Has a loved one come to you in a dream? How did it make you feel? What was remarkable about it?

11/10/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dreams Part 1

Has a loved one come to you in a dream? How did it make you feel? What was remarkable about it?

11/3/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Book Thoughts

If you were to write a book honoring your loved one’s life, what would be the title and why?

10/27/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Uplifting TAPS Experiences

What TAPS event, program or other experience has meant the most to you?

10/20/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Holiday Memories

What is a holiday tradition that you enjoyed with your loved one?

10/13/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Self-Care

What have you done lately to take care of yourself?

10/6/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Birthdays

What do you do to celebrate your loved one’s birthday?

9/29/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: God Winks Part 2

A God wink at TAPS is a moment when you feel your loved one close to you.

9/22/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: God Winks

A God wink at TAPS is a moment when you feel your loved one close to you.

9/15/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Fall Plans

What are your plans for fall activities that will provide you the most comfort?

9/8/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Turning Grief Into Action

What sort of things have others done in order to turn their grief into action?

9/1/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Mementos Part 2

Have you saved certain things that belonged to your loved one that have become priceless to you?

8/25/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Mementos

Have you saved certain things that belonged to your loved one that have become priceless to you?

8/18/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Books Help Our Grief Journey

Has there been a book, or a line in a book, that has helped you on your grief journey?

8/11/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Getting Through Tough Moments

When you are blindsided by a riptide of grief, how do you get yourself through these tough moments?

8/4/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Inspirational Movies

Have you watched movies that helped with your grief or inspired an aspect of healing in your grief?

7/28/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Self Care Ideas

"In the midst of grief, it is so important we take the time to care for ourselves."

7/21/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memories and Photos

Pictures of our loved ones can bring back happy memories. Survivors share some of their favorites.

7/14/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Hometown Places

This week survivors proudly share about great destinations in their hometowns to visit.

7/7/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Life Changes

Survivors share challenges conquered and personal growth experienced after losing a loved one.

6/30/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Reasons for Joining the Military

Patriotism and service to country are some of the many reasons our loved ones joined the military.

6/23/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Kindness for the Grieving

Friends and family sharing memories of our loved ones can help pierce the grief fog early in a loss.

6/16/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Practicing Self Care

Survivors share strategies to the way we can keep ourselves healthy and practice self-care.

6/9/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Recipes

Survivors share favorite recipes of their loved ones.

6/2/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: How do you mark Memorial Day?

Survivors share how they honor and remember their loved ones on memorial day.

5/26/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Mother's Day Activities

Survivors share what they did on Mother’s Day to honor themselves and those who served as mothers as they grew up.

5/19/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Comfort of Pets

Pets can be just the comfort we need in those trying times. They remind us to take care of ourselves since they need to eat and they help organize us.

5/12/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Responding to Comments

Survivors offer strategies about coping with family members and friends who may have a different way of grieving or have opinions that hurt you deeply.

5/5/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Introductions

Survivors introduce their loved one by sharing a favorite memory.

4/28/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Help of Gardening

Many survivors find that gardening can help with the healing process after the death of a loved one.

4/21/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Paying Respects

Losing a loved one changes how you comfort and support friends after the death of their loved one.

4/14/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Activities

Staying busy with activities you enjoy can help you through the dark times of grief.

4/7/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Memories

This week survivors share a special memory of their loved one with us.

3/31/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Lifting Our Spirits

Survivors share what helps to lift their spirits when grieving the loss of their loved one.

3/24/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Comforting Items

Certain items, such as a favorite blanket or home videos, can be a source of comfort after the death of a loved one.

3/17/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Displaying Our Folded Flags

The folded flag that many receive after the death of a loved one can have significant meaning in our grief journey.

3/10/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Changes in Our Lives

Grief drastically changes our lives. But not all change that comes out of the loss of a loved is negative.

3/3/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Angelversary Ideas

Survivors share how they honor and remember their loved ones on angelversaries.

2/24/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorable Comments

The comments or behavior of others who learn you've suffered the loss of a loved one can stick out in your mind.

2/17/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: TAPS National Seminar Highlights

The TAPS National Military Survivor Seminar in Washington, D.C., offers survivors from across the country a chance to come together and connect.

2/10/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dealing With Multiple Deaths

When you're faced with the loss of more than one family member or friend, you can feel weighed down by grief.

2/3/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Spiritual Changes

When a loved one dies, we go through many shifts — including spiritually — as our life changes direction.

1/27/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Our Loved Ones

Finding ways to honor your loved one after their death can help you find healing in your grief.

1/20/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Fond Memories

Certain scents, songs, food and sights can trigger special memories of our fallen heroes.

1/13/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Treating Ourselves

The holidays can be especially stressful when you're grieving, but the New Year is the perfect time to focus on self-care.

1/6/2018 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Warm Wishes for the New Year

Think about treating yourself post-holiday season, explore activities that might be a help to comfort yourself.

12/30/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Holiday Traditions

After the loss of a loved one, many find it hard to observe holidays. Read articles that discuss reaching for the light through the darkness at this time of year.

12/23/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Grieving Multiple Losses

Survivors share how they manage grief after experiencing the death of multiple loved ones.

12/16/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Taking Care Of Ourselves

It is important to practice self-care, especially during the holidays, when you're grieving the loss of a loved one.

12/9/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: How Does Grief Affect Your Work?

Survivors share tips for talking to their employers about grief after the loss of a loved one.

12/2/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Our Loved Ones

This week survivors shared the many different ways they honor their loved ones.

11/25/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Foods

We can find comfort in our grief when we prepare the foods that have been a tradition in our families.

11/18/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Winter Holidays

For those dealing with grief, the winter holidays can add stress to an already difficult time, but there are many ways to cope.

11/11/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Difference TAPS Has Made — Part 2

TAPS survivors share how TAPS has made a difference in their grief journey.

11/4/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Difference TAPS Has Made

Connecting to others who are grieving the loss of a fallen hero through TAPS can make the grief journey a little easier.

10/28/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite TAPS Activities

Survivors share what their favorite activities are when they attend TAPS events.

10/21/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Introducing Our Loved Ones

Sharing memories of our loved ones can be healing and also introduces our loved ones to readers of the Saturday Morning Message.

10/14/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: New Ventures

After the initial pain of grief has lessened, many find that undertaking a new hobby or pastime can offer comfort.

10/7/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts for New Survivors

Survivors offer advice and encouraging words to fellow survivors who are new to TAPS.

9/30/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Warmth of Friendship

The warmth of a friendship can be so healing and comforting during the grief journey.

9/23/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: What is Success?

Your view of success may change after the loss of your loved one.

9/16/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Routine or Change

Is it easier to stick to a routine or change the daily tasks you do after the death of a loved one?

9/9/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dream Retreats

Where would you travel if you could choose one place?

9/2/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Handling Paperwork

Survivors share what ideas for how to store your loved one's paperwork.

8/26/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Stress Reduction Strategies

TAPS survivors share how they cope with the stress that comes with grief.

8/19/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Special Memories

Sharing special memories about your loved one can be helpful for you, and it also allows others to get to know your cherished person.

8/12/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Collections

Collecting items that are meaningful to you or your loved one can be helpful in the healing process.

8/5/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Activities to Deal with Grief

Grief can be isolating and lonely. But activities can help with your grief and create ways to show others that it's OK to share memories of your loved one.

7/29/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: TAPS Seminar Enjoyment

Survivors share what they enjoy most about attending TAPS Seminars.

7/22/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Objects That Help Heal

Survivors share special objects they carry with them that is meaningful and helps when times are rough.

7/15/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing July Fourth Memories

Survivors share their favorite memories from the Fourth of July.

7/8/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sharing Favorite Meals

7/1/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Online Support

Online tools can be a helpful resource as we grieve the loss of our loved ones.

6/24/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Finding Healing Through Volunteering

Volunteering can be a healing process while also giving back to others.

6/17/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Events

TAPS survivors participated in a variety of Memorial Day events across the weekend to honor their fallen heroes.

6/10/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Activities

Survivors honored their loved ones in unique and personal ways on Memorial Day.

6/3/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Weekend

On Memorial Day, military survivors can be found at many different events that honor those who gave their lives in service to our country.

5/27/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Care of Our Loved Ones' Belongings

TAPS Magazine articles, “Boxes in the Attic” and “Boxes in the Attic: Part Two,” give ideas about how we care for our loved one’s belongings.

5/13/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Story Behind the Name

When I was young, many people would talk about who they were named after and why. This has always been one of my favorite conversations.

5/6/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Our Change of Thoughts on Mortality

I live by a relatively large river. It’s one place I like to go to think about questions like the change of ideas after the death of a loved one.

4/29/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Pet Support

Sharing your space with a pet can be very rewarding. Just having your pet cuddle up next to you when you are feeling down can be uplifting.

4/22/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Marking Days of Remembrance

This week survivors share ideas in response to the question about what survivors do on special days like birthdays and angelversaries.

4/15/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Eating While Grieving

Two articles from the TAPS Magazine archives give some good advice on how to give your body needed nutrients when you're experiencing grief.

4/8/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Favorite Photos and Introductions

The photos today show how much each of these outstanding young people were loved and how much they are missed

4/1/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Replying to Comments About Your Grief Journey

Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say, 'My friend, I care.' Excerpt form "Don’t Tell Me That You Understand," written by Joanetta Hendel

3/25/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Handling the Balance of Life

This week, survivors share how they handle the emotional events of their lives. Finding others who had gone through the same experience can be uplifting.

3/18/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Benefits of TAPS Seminars

The best part of attending a TAPS Seminar is seeing the smiles on these survivors’ faces as they hug each other.

3/10/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: A Change of Purpose After Loved One's Death

Our life is forever changed after the death of a loved one. Survivors discuss doing things that honor our loved ones as our purpose in life changes.

3/3/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: When Grief Awakes You

Sleep can be difficult for many survivors after the death of a loved one. Today we will look at a variety of helpful ideas from survivors.

2/24/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Special Places

Snowflakes change ordinary places with their unusual beauty. Thanks to the survivors who sent in those special places they remember this week.

2/18/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Support from Loved Ones

In today's message, survivors share how loved one's friends have honored their fallen comrades.

2/10/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Peer Mentor Reflections

The TAPS Peer Mentor program is a gift for both the mentors and the survivors who become connected.

2/3/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Pet Support for Survivors

This week survivors sent their heartwarming responses about how pets have helped them on their individual grief journeys.

1/28/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Healing While Remembering Our Loved Ones

For many, winter is a time of contemplation about what we have accomplished in the past year and where we are going.

1/20/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: A Sense of Accomplishment

I know that my son would want me to live my life to the fullest and do what I love. I have started competing in agility with our dog, Sam!

1/14/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts on a New Year

Before making resolutions that involve revising our present pattern of behavior or adding something to it, we need to ask if our lives will benefit from it.

1/7/2017 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memories

"Thanks for all your smiles and laughter for those 26 years, Marcus!”

12/24/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: New Traditions

When a loved one dies, it can be hard to face the upcoming time and keep the same traditions.

12/17/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Returning to Work

These roses are still blooming despite freezing temperatures. Isn’t that what we survivors are doing? We are blooming even through severe trauma..

12/10/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thankful Thoughts and Holiday Tips

As 2016 comes to a close, it is time for many of us to look at where we are now on our grief journey and what has helped us.

12/3/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thankful for TAPS

Because it is Thanksgiving weekend, this message features a list of resources TAPS provides that I am thankful for as a survivor.

11/26/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Changing Anger to Pride

This week we explore strategies on how to turn the anger that comes with grief into more of a focus on the pride for our loved one’s service.

11/19/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Winter Songs

Everyone walks a path on their own, but we can share some emotions together. That is what makes us a family.

11/12/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Living Life to Fullest

As you read answers from survivors, living life after the loss of a loved one is not easy, but we all take up the challenge in different ways.

11/5/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Holiday Adjustments

Today survivors share helpful tips to get through this season as well as other ideas from TAPS on getting through the holidays while you are grieving.

10/29/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Move or Stay

This week, there were many replies to the question about moving or staying in the place you shared with your loved one and how you handle going to places that were special if you decide to stay.

10/22/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Fondest Memories of TAPS Events

Two survivors talk about their experiences at Seminars and one survivor describes her experience at Retreats.

10/15/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helping Other Survivors

Survivors remember what was supportive and helpful when they were first grieving as well as what they do now when a death happens in their network of family or friends.

10/8/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Personal Changes

The seasonal changes of the Earth are similar to the emotions survivors feel after the death of a loved one. We change as we travel through our personal journey.

10/1/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Activities

The American flag next to a banner was designed by Anne, mother of Michael, placed in a mall near her home to remind people of Memorial Day’s meaning.

5/21/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Pet Comfort

Military survivors can find pets provide comfort during their time of grieving and as they try to adjust to a life of loss.

5/16/2016 - Carol Lane
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Mother's Day Thoughts

Mothers' Day for those who've lost both a child and a mother is a unique experience.

5/8/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Coping with Lack of Concentration

Lack of concentration is a normal response to a grieving family member and military survivors. Read this article for suggestions on coping strategies.

4/16/2016 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Handling the Holidays

I appreciate the soothing nature of the flickering light of candles and their gentle glow during the shorter days of the holiday season.

11/28/2015 - Carol Lane
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A Gold Star Mother's Day Reflection

Gold Star Mother’s Day is recognized the last Sunday of the month of September. Each year I wear my pin to church as a remembrance of my son.

9/27/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Ways to Re-Energize

When we put forth emotional or physical energy, we need to take time for ourselves to relax and re-energize.

6/6/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Memorial Day Weekend

Wherever you chose to spend this Memorial Day, you are in the right place and the thoughts of your TAPS family are with you.

5/23/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Positive Lessons Learned

Lighthouses have special meaning for me. They light the way for those encountering difficulties while traveling.

5/16/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helping Extended Family

a grandparent's grief being unique as they suffer for both their grandchild as well as their child.

5/2/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Making Friends at a TAPS Event

Coming to a TAPS event alone can make us wonder how "we will fit in, how we will be treated, and what the event will be like".

4/4/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Thoughts on the Journey

When tragedy happens and deep thought is needed, I go to my favorite places, the beach or the garden. These spots help quiet my mind.

3/28/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Uplifting Songs

This beautiful mountain scene is one chosen while I listened to the uplifting songs which survivors sent in answer to last week's question.

3/7/2015 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Our Loved Ones

Honoring your loved one can be on a traditional holiday or one that is special just to your family and friends.

11/29/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Grief Meltdowns

Grief episodes or meltdowns are times that are hard to control. Sometimes they arrive when you are at places or at times when you don't expect them.

11/22/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Feeling Your Loved One Close

The discussion for this week focuses on a time or event when something happened and you felt your loved one close.

11/1/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Honoring Loved Ones With Service

Survivor stories are full of courage and the emotions they have as they serve others while celebrating the lives of their loved ones.

10/25/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Jewelry Options, Part 2

Inside the heart locket is my son, Bryon's, boot camp picture. When I go to TAPS or military events, I wear other pins as well. However, the heart is always with me.

10/11/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Jewelry Options

There were so many good ideas that came in about the wearing and placement of jewelry in the home that there will be two weeks on this topic.

10/4/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: What Do Others Do About Vactions

Everyone's idea of a vacation is different. Mine involves either visiting relatives or going to the ocean beach.

9/27/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: A Different Path

Survivors talk about honoring loved ones by helping others or dedicating work to the communities that supported their families in the time of need.

4/12/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Supporting Others in Grief

Finding ways to help others who are grieving can be easier when you think of the support others gave you.

3/15/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Songs of the Heart

This week, members of our TAPS family shared songs that are meaningful to them.

3/1/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: What Happens at the TAPS National Seminar

This week, survivors who have attended the National Military Survivor Seminar share their experience with survivors who have not attended.

2/22/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Reward Your Bravery

Self-care is not selfish; it is necessary to replenish ourselves so we can have the stamina to care for others.

1/11/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: TAPS Seminars and Retreats

Going to a seminar or a retreat can be a moving experience. If you haven’t attended either, you may want to know the special qualities of each.

1/4/2014 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Survivors Offer Support to New Survivors

Survivors talked this week about ways to support those who are new to the path of grief.

11/30/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Priority Changes That Celebrate the Life

I hope that you find comfort in the other ways survivors have found to celebrate the lives of their loved ones as you read the suggestions.

10/26/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: What It's Like to Attend a TAPS Seminar or Retreat

Survivors share reflections on what to expect at TAPS seminars and retreats.

10/19/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Remembering the Light

Remembering the light and not the darkness takes a long time to come into our lives after the death of a loved one.

8/24/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Displaying Memorabilia

Survivors share what they have done with special mementoes of their loved one.

8/17/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Strategies While Grieving

This week several survivors sent in their ideas on strategies that help them while grieving.

7/20/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Dealing With Emotions That Arise During Holidays, Birthdays, or Death Dates

Finding strategies that help deal with emotions that come around special holidays, birth or death dates of our loved ones can be difficult.

6/22/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Special Places Shared with Loved Ones

Survivors wrote this week about special places they shared with their loved ones.

5/4/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Self Care Part Two

Helping yourself when you are grieving may not seem like a priority. Survivors share strategies that have helped them take care of themselves.

4/27/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Self Care While Grieving

Grieving the loss of a loved one takes a toll on our emotions, body, and mind. The most important thing we can do is to take care of ourselves as best we can.

4/20/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: The Power of Dreams

This week several survivors wrote to tell about the dreams that they have had.

3/30/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Advice for Another Survivor

“Knowing what you know now, what would you offer to another person who has lost a loved one?”

3/23/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Our Loved One's Special Quality

This week survivors shared a special ability or "knack" that made their loved one unique.

3/9/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Our Places of Comfort

Through the Saturday message we offer a safe and comfortable site to share and reach out across the miles to other survivors offering care and comfort.

2/23/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Sleeping & Grief

Sleep. What do you do to get the rest that is needed while grieving?

2/9/2013 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message: Letting Others Know You Love Them

This week’s question centered around letting others know that you love them while you are grieving the loss of an important person in your life.

7/28/2012 - Carol Lane
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Healing Grief, Finding Peace

Your emotions will change as you walk the path of grief. Healing Grief, Finding Peace is also packed with inspirational quotes from a variety of sources.

6/21/2012 - Carol Lane
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Saturday Morning Message

The Saturday message started out as a weekly letter between a few friends that met at the TAPS National seminar over a Memorial Day many years ago.

5/12/2012 - Carol Lane
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Healing the Hurt Spirit

Healing the Hurt Spirit helps dispel the myths that still exist in our society and leads us to the reality that one last event does not define our loved one’s whole life.

9/21/2010 - Carol Lane
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Living to Honor the Dead

For many of us it is hard to open our hearts when our loved one has given the ultimate sacrifice to our nation and we remain behind.

3/21/2010 - Carol Lane