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Let It R.A.I.N.


Let It R.A.I.N. Heather Stang As a child, I dreaded overcast days, especially during the summer. Even when it wasn’t raining, the threat of precipitation felt like a life sentence with no chance of parole. It was the grey skies I feared, even though they would often lead to bluer skies and sometimes a rainbow. Living in emotional pain is a lot like bad weather. There is no control, no predicting when the clouds will come or when the rain will start. But we can learn to relate to our pain diff

Compassion for All


Compassion for All Heather Stang If grief is the cold, dark winter, then compassion is the spring. Out of the pain of loss comes the recognition that we are all in this together, and we need each other to make it from one season to the next. Fortunately, there is no shortage of compassion within the TAPS family. Strangers who have never met connect with one another wholeheartedly. United in the shared human experience of profound loss, we offer each other kind words, big hugs and an unconditi

Grief and Sleep


Grief and Sleep Heather Stang   7 Tips to Cope with Insomnia After Loss Coping with grief isn’t easy. In addition to the emotional toll, there are a myriad of physical side effects. Sleeplessness is perhaps one of the most frustrating symptoms – when you are sleepy and can’t sleep it just adds insult to injury. While insomnia is considered a common grief reaction, sleeplessness should not be ignored, but tended to mindfully.  When we don’t get enough sleep it impacts our immune system, our mo

Saturday Morning Message: When We Feel Overwhelmed


Saturday Morning Message: When We Feel Overwhelmed Carol Lane Good morning, Early in grief, everything seems to come upon us at once. Arrangements need to be made, paperwork completed, relatives and friends contacted, and your grief addressed. It is easy to find ourselves overwhelmed by the number of tasks. Then those who kindly want to host a ceremony to honor our loved ones send us invitations. We want to attend all of them, but sometimes we can’t. I know that my family was invited to one eve

Saturday Morning Message: Educational webinars on grief and loss


Saturday Morning Message: Educational webinars on grief and loss Carol Lane Good morning, Webinars from the TAPS Institute for Hope and Healing are one of our many gifts to survivors. They can be really helpful while dealing with grief. Our live webinars are archived for those who aren't able to watch them in real time. Live ones usually include a text chat with time to ask questions of the presenter. The archived ones can be paused in case you can’t watch the whole presentation at once.   Th

Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Books on Grief


Saturday Morning Message: Helpful Books on Grief Carol Lane Good morning, This week survivors have sent titles of books that have helped them as they grieve. I thought I would start with an excerpt from the book “Healing Your Grieving Heart After a Military Death,” written by Bonnie Carroll, president and founder of TAPS and Alan Wolfelt, PhD. "For many people, it is restorative and energizing to spend time outside." You may find nature’s timeless beauty healing. The sound of a bird singing o

Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep


Saturday Morning Message: Ideas for Better Sleep Carol Lane Good morning, The idea for this week’s topic came from a discussion on one of the Online Community chats. We spent some time talking about what we do when we have difficulty getting a good night’s sleep. In the summer edition of TAPS Magazine, there is an article titled  "Grief and Sleep," written by Heather Stang listing more ideas. Then on August 15, which was National Relaxation Day, the TAPS Facebook page listed two more articles t

Saturday Morning Message: Healing While Remembering Our Loved Ones


Saturday Morning Message: Healing While Remembering Our Loved Ones Carol Lane Good Morning, It is winter in the part of the country where I live. For many, it is a time of contemplation about what we have accomplished in the past year and where we are going. This week, survivors have replied to the question about how we keep our loved ones close to us while we move on with our lives. One person who responded, Linda, mother of Gene, sent pictures along with her reply, which you will read later