TAPS is dedicated to finding publications that address the variety of needs of the military survivor and the professionals who work with them. Although it is inappropriate for TAPS to endorse any one publication, we do provide the following list for your convenience.

General Books on Grieving

All is Not Lost: The Healing Journey Through Crisis, Grief and Loss by C. Leslie Charles, Yes! Press, P.O. Box956, East Lansing, MI 48826, 517-675-7535 Find it here: www.lesliecharles.com
A Time to Grieve: Meditations for Healing After the Death of a Loved One
by Carol Staudacher
Beyond Grief by Carol Staudacher
Beyond Loss: A Practical Guide Through Grief to a Meaningful Life by Lilly Singer, Margaret Sirot, and Susan Rodd
Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul By Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
Chicken Soup for the Veteran’s Soul By Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
Companion Through Darkness: Inner Dialogues on Grief by Stephanie Ericsson
Complicated Losses, Difficult Deaths: A Practical Guide for Working Through Griefby Roslyn A. Karaban, Ph.D.
The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum
The Dream Messenger: How Dreams of the Departed Bring Healing Gifts by Patricia Garfield
Dreams that Help You Mourn by Lois Lindsey Hendricks
The Grief Adjustment Guide, A Pathway Through Pain by Charlotte Greenson, Mary Hollingsworth and Michael Washburn; Quaesar Publishing, Inc., 1990.
Failure to Scream by Robert Hicks
Feel the Fear & Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers
The Gift of Significance, By Doug Manning, In-Sight Books, Inc., P.O. Box 42467, Oklahoma City, OK 73123, 800-658-9262, Find it here: www.insight.com
Grief: A Natural Reaction to Loss by Marge Eaton Heegaard
Grief: Climb Toward Understanding: Self-Help When You Are Struggling by Phyllis Davies
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese A. Rando, Ph.D.
I Can’t Get Over It: A handbook for trauma survivors by Aphrodite Matsakis
In Memoriam: A practical guide to planning a memorial service by Amanda Bennett and Terence B. Foley
I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved oneby Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D.
Living With Grief After Sudden Loss: Suicide, Homicide, Accident, Featuring a chapter on Military loss by TAPS founder, Bonnie Carroll and edited by Dr. Kenneth J. Doka. Published by the Hospice Foundation of America, 1996. Find it here: www.hospicefoundation.org
Life After Loss: A personal guide dealing with death, divorce, job change and relocation
by Bob Deits
Love Never Dies: A Mother’s Journey from Loss to Love by Sandy Goodman
Moving Beyond Grief: Lessons from those who have lived through sorrow by Ruth Sissom
Patriot Dreams-the Murder of Colonel Rich Higgins by Lt Col(ret) Robin Higgins. Find it here: www.higginspage.com
Returning Home by TAPS Advisor Robert Hicks and Randy Petersen, Fleming H. Revell Company Publishers, 1991
Transcending Loss: Understanding the Lifelong Impact of Grief and How to Make It Meaningful by Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W.
Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones by Alan Wolfelt, 2003.
Understanding Your Grief Journal: Exploring the Ten Essential Touchstones by Alan Wolfelt, 2003.
What to Do When a Loved One Dies: A practical and compassionate guide to dealing with death on life’s terms by Eva Shaw
When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner
Why Are the Casseroles Always Tuna? A Loving Look At the Lighter Side of Grief by Darcie D. Sims
Words to Comfort, Words to Heal: Poems and Meditation for those Who Grieve, compiled by Juliet Mabey

Books about Grief Recovery

A Passage Through Grief: A Recovery Guide by Barbara Baumgardner
Chicken Soup for the Unsinkable Soul By Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
Grief’s Courageous Journey: A Workbook by Sandi Caplan and Gordon Lang
Healing our Losses: A Journal for Working Through Your Grief by Jack Miller, Ph.D.
How Do I Go On Without You? A journal of love for those who have lost by Kathleen Hammer
Managing Traumatic Stress through Art: Drawing from the center by Barry M. Cohen, Mary-Michola Barnes and Anita B. Rankin
Recovery From Loss: A Personalized Guide to the Grieving Process by Lewis Tagliaferre & Gary L. Harbaugh, Ph.D.
The Grief Recovery Handbook, by John W. James & Russel Friedman

Books for Child Loss

A Broken Heart Still Beats: When Your Child Dies by Anne McCracken & Mary Semel
After the Darkest Hour the Sun Will Shine Again: A Parent’s Guide to Coping With the Loss of a Child by Elizabeth Mehren
After the Death of a Child: Living With Loss Through the Years by Anne K. Finkbeiner\
Finding Your Way After Your Child Dies by Phyllis Vos Wezeman, Kenneth R. Wezeman
Gone but Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child by David W. Wiersbe
Give Sorrow Words: A Father’s Passage Through Grief by Tom Crider.
Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child by Paul C. Rosenblatt
I Have No Intention of Saying Goodbye, by Sandy Fox, iUniverse.com, 2001. Find it here: www.iuniverse.com
Quit Kissing My Ashes: A Mother’s Journey Through Grief by Judy Collier
Recovering from the Loss of a Child by Katherine Fair Donnelley
Surviving the Death of a Child by John Munday & Frances Wohlenhaus-Munday
The Bereaved Parent by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
The Lively Shadow: Living With the Death of a Child by Donald M. Murray
The Worst Loss: How families heal from the death of a child by Barbara D. Rosof
What Forever Means After the Death of a Child: Transcending the Trauma, Living with the Loss
by Kay Talbot
When Goodbye is Forever: Learning to Live Again After the Loss of a Child by Ballentine
Bereavement Books for Children, Teens, and their Caregivers

Children:

Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope, Centering Corporation
A Bunch of Balloons, Centering Corporation
A Taste of Blackberries, by Doris B. Smith
Bart Speaks out: Breaking the Silence on Suicide (ages 4-12), by Linda Goldman, MS
Beat the Turtle Drum, by Constance C. Greene
Chicken Soup for the Kid’s Soul, Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
The Dead Bird, by Margaret Wise Brown. New York: Harper Trophy 1995. (Originally published in 1958.)
Don’t Despair on Thursdays! (ages 4-12) by Adolph Moser, Ed.D.
The Great Blue Yonder, by Alex Shearer
Goodbye Rune (ages5-11), by Marit Kaldhol and Wenche Oyen
Hope for the Flowers, by Trina Paulus
How Do I Feel About When People Die, by Sarah Levete; Copper Beach Publishing: 1997
I Cried Too, by Jim and Sheila Schmidt; Broken Arrow, OK, Find it here: www.icriedtoo.org
I Heard Your Daddy Died, by Mark Scrivani; Omaha: 1996, Centering Corporation.
I Heard Your Mommy Died, by Mark Scrivani; Omaha, Centering Corporation
I’m Fine … I’m With the Angels, (ages 5-10), by TAPS Director of Peer Support Joyce Harvey; Philadelphia: Xlibris, 2003. Find it here: www.xlibris.com
I Remember You Today, by Casey Curry
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, (ages 9-12) Leo Buscalia; Austin, TX: Holt, Rinehart & Winston, 1983.
Let’s Talk About When a Parent Dies, by Elizabeth Weitzman; New York: Rosen Publishing Group, Inc., 1996
My Memory Book: A Journal for Grieving Children, Gretchen Gaines-Lane, LCSW-C, Gaithersburg, MD: Chi Rho Press, 301-926-1208 (phone or fax). chirhopress
Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guide Book for Kids Dealing with Loss, by Michaelene Mundy and R.W. Alley
The Saddest Time (Ages 7-11), by Norma Simon; Morton Grove, IL: Albert Whitman & Company, 1986
Someone Special Died (ages 5-9), by Joan Singleton; Fearon Teacher Aids, Prestine; Torrance, CA: 1993,
Talking about Death, Karen Bryant-Mole, Austin: Raintree Steck-Vaughn, 1999
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney, (ages 4-8) by Erik Blegvad; New York: Atheneum, 1971.
There is a Place … Warren Hanson
What on Earth do you do When Someone Dies? (5-10) by Trevor Romain
When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death, by Laurie Krasny Brown; Boston: Little, Brown and Co., 1996.
When Something Terrible Happens: Children can learn to cope with grief (ages 6-12) and When Someone Very Special Dies: Children can learn to cope with grief (ages 4-7) by Marge Eaton Heegaard
When People Die, by Joanne Bernstein & Stephen Gullo; New York: Dutton, 1977
Why Do People Die? by Cynthia MacGregor, Secaucus, NJ: Carol Publishing Group, 1999

Teens:

Bereaved Children and Teens, Edited by Earl Grollman; Boston: Beacon Press Books, 1995
Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul, by Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 2003
Chicken Soup for the Preteen Soul One, by Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul One, (also Volumes 2 & 3), Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul Journal, Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul Letters, by Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul on Tough Stuff, by Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
Chicken Soup for the Unsinkable Soul, Jack Canfield & Mark V. Hansen; Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1999
Death (Part of the Pre-Teen Pressures Series), Austin, TX: Steck-Vaugn Co., 1998
Death is Hard to Live With, by Sarah Stein; New York: Bantam Doubleday Dell, 1993
Everything You Need to Know About Grieving, by Karen Spies; New York: Rosen Publishing, 1990, 1993
Fire in My Heart, Ice in My Veins, by Enid Traisman; Omaha: Centering Corporation, 1992
I Will Remember You: A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens, by Laura Dower; New York: Scholastic, 2001
Looking Beyond: A Teen’s Guide to the Spiritual World, by James Van Praagh
Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers, by Earl Grollman; Boston: Beacon Pres, 1993
Teenagers Face to Face With Bereavement, Karen Gravelle & Charles Haskins; New York: Simon and Schuster, 1989
How it Feels When a Parent Dies, by Jill Krementz; New York: Alfred Knopf, 1981, 1988
Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love by Earl A. Grollman
When a Friend Dies: A book for teens about grieving and healing by Marilyn E. Gootman, Ed.D.
When a Parent Dies, by Fred Bratman; New York: Rosen Publishing Group, Inc., 1992

Books for Sibling Loss:

Surviving The Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies, by T.J. Wray.
Next of Kin: A Brother’s Journey to Wartime Vietnam, Thomas Reilly, Brassey’s Inc., Dulles, VA

Caregivers, teachers, parents:

35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child, The Dougy Center
The Art of Grief, by Raymer and Mcintyre
Bereaved Children and Teens: A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals by Earl A. Grollman
Breaking the Silence: A Guide to Help Children With Complicated Grief, by Linda Goldman; Washington DC: Taylor & Francis, 1996.
Caring for Your Grieving Child: Engaging Activities for Dealing with Loss and Transition by Martha Wakenshaw & Herman M. Frankel.
Children Mourning and Mourning Children by TAPS Advisor Dr. Kenneth Doka and the Hospice Foundation of America, 1995.
A Child’s View of Grief, by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., Fort Collins, CO: Center for Loss and Life Transition, 1991
Coping with Death and Grief, by Marge Eaton Heegaard
Death and the Classroom: A Teacher’s Guide to Assist Grieving Student, by Kathleen Cassini and Jacqueline Rogers. Cincinnati: Griefwork of Cincinnati, Inc., 1445 Colonial Drive, Suite B, Cincinnati, OH 45238
Fatherless Women: How We Change After We Lose Our Dads, by Clea Simon.
Generic Crisis Intervention Procedures, Beverly Celotta, publisher, A guide for suicide crisis intervention in school settings.
Good Grief: Helping Groups of Children When a Friend Dies, New England Association for the Education of Young Children.
The Good Mourning Game, by Nicholas J. Bisenius, Ph.D. and Michele Norris, MSW
Grief Comes to Class, by Majel Gliko-Braden; Omaha: Centering Corporation, 1992.
Grief Support Group Curriculum, Facilitator’s Handbook, Linda Hehmann-Norquist, Shane Jimerson.
The Grieving Child: A parent’s guide by Helen Fitzgerald.
Guiding Your Child Through Grief, by Mary Ann & James Emswiler.
Healing A Child’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends, & Caregivers, by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.; Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press, 2001
Helping Children Cope With Separation and Loss, by Claudia Jewett; Harvard, MA: 1982
Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies, by Janis Silverman
Helping Bereaved Children, edited by Nancy Boyd Webb, DSW
How Can I Help? How to Support Someone Who is Grieving, by June Kolf; Tucson: Fisher Books, 1999
How Do We Tell the Children? A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope When Someone Dies, by Dan Schaefer & Christine Lyons;
Keys to Helping Children Deal With Death and Grief, by Joy Johnson
Life & Loss: A guide to help grieving children (Preschool through teen), by Linda Goldman; Washington DC: Taylor & Francis, 1994.
Lifetimes: A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children by Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen
Living With Grief, Edited by Kenneth Doka; Hospice Foundation of America, 2000
Living With Grief: At Work, At School, At Worship, Edited by Kenneth Doka
Part of Me Died, Too: Stories of creative survival among bereaved children and teenagers, by Virginia Fry
A Student Dies, A School Mourns, by Ralph Klicher,
Suicide Prevention in Schools, edited by Antoon Leenaars and Suzanne Wenkstern
Talking About Death: A Dialogue between Parent and Child, by Earl A. Grollman
A Teacher’s Handbook of Death, by Maggie Jackson and Jim Colwell.
Teaching Students About Death, by Robert & Eileen Stevenson, Philadelphia: Charles Press, 1996
Teenage Suicide, Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Julian Mesner, Publisher.
Understanding Your Grief: Support Group Guide, by Alan Wolfelt, Spring 2004; Find it here: www.centerforloss.com
What to Do When the Police Leave: A Guide to the First Days of Traumatic Loss, by Bill Jenkins (who lost his son to a tragic shooting); Richmond, VA: WBJ Press, P.O. Box 28382, Richmond, VA 23228, 1999.
When Children Grieve, by John James and Russell Friedman; New York: HarperCollins, 2001
When Grief Visits School, by Dr. John Dudley; Minneapolis: Educational Media Corp., 1995
When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope With Grief by Marge Eaton Heegaard.

Books for Losing a Mate

Being a Widow by Lynn CaineDoors Close, Doors Open: Widows, Grieving and Growing by Morton Lieberman, Ph.D.
Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies by Marta Felber
For Widows Only by Annie Estlund; iUniverse, Find it here: www.iuniverse.com
Getting to the Other Side of Grief - Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, R.N., Ed.D, & Robert C. De Vries, Ph.D.
Grief Expressed: When a Mate Dies by Marta Felber
I’m Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal by Linda Feinberg
Let Me Grieve, But Not Forever by Verdell Davis
Living with Loss: Meditations for Grieving Widows by Ellen Sue Stern
Reawakening to Life: Renewal After a Husband's Death by Mary Ellen Berry & Carmen Renee Berry
Reflections from a Woman Alone: A Lighthearted Look at a Journey Toward Wholeness by Corinne Edwards
Starting Over--Help for Young Widows and Widowers by Adele Rice Nudel
The Widow's Resource: How to Solve the Financial and Legal Problems That Occur Within the First Six to Nine Months of Your Husband's Death by Julie A. Calligaro
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful practical ideas for rebuilding your life by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, MS
Widowed: Beginning Again Personally and Financially by Sharon Trusty, Barry M. Corkern, and Sally Chandler Crisp (Contributor)
When Your Spouse Dies: A Concise and practical source of help and advice by Cathleen L. Curry
Wit and Wisdom for Widows: Beginning Anew by Barbara Whitman Gaeta & Susan Whitman

Books for Parent Loss

How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: A guide for adults by Lois F. Akner
Finding Your Way after Your Parent Dies by Richard Gilbert
Losing a Parent: Passage to a New Way of Living by Alexandra Kennedy
Losing a Parent: A personal guide to coping with that special grief that comes with losing a parent by Fiona Marshall
Motherless Daughters: The legacy of loss by Hope Edelman
The Loss That is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father by Maxine Harris, Ph.D.
When Parents Die by Edward Myers

Books for Suicide Loss

After Suicide, John Knox Press
But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For parents and professionals helping child suicide survivors by Barbara Rubel
Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One, Fireside
My Son, My Son by Iris Bolton
No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the suicide of a loved one by Carla Fine
Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide (The Master Works Series) by Jason Aronson
Why Suicide? Answers to 200 of the most frequently asked questions about suicide, attempted suicide and assisted suicide by Eric Marcus

Books for Grieving Men

Give Sorrow Words: A Father’s Passage through Grief by Tom Crider
Griefquest: Men Coping With Loss by Robert Miller
Grief Therapy for Men by Linus Mundy
Men & Grief: A guide for men surviving the death of a loved one by Carol Staudacher
When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help by Elizabeth Levang
Widower: When Men Are Left Alone (Death, Value, and Meaning Series) by Scott Campbell

Books for Grieving Friends

Grieving the Death of a Friend by Harold Ivan Smith
When a Friend Dies: A book for teens about grieving and healing by Marilyn E. Gootman, Ed.D.

Books for Helping Someone who is Grieving

A Friend In Need…: How to Help When Times Are Tough by Sol Gordon, Ph.D.
Comforting Those Who Grieve: a Guide for Helping Others by Doug Manning
Mending the Torn Fabric - For Those Who Grieve and Those Who Want to Help Them by Sarah Brabant
The Art of Condolence: What to Write, What to Say, What to Do at a Time of Loss by Leonard M. Zunin, M.D. & Hilary Stanton Zunin
Understanding Your Grief: Support Group Guide, Alan Wolfelt, Spring 2004 Find it here: www.centerforloss.com
When You Don't Know What To Say: How To Help Your Grieving Friends by Harold Ivan Smith
When Your Friend’s Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend by Angel Hugs Publishing
When Your Friend Is Grieving: Building a Bridge of Love (Heart and Hand Series) by Paula D’Arcy
Words for Then there are No Words: Writing a Memorable Condolence Note by Deborah Chappa

Additional Books for Helping Professionals

Coping with Trauma: The victim and the helper by R. Watts & D.J. de L. Horne
Trauma and Transformation: Growth in the aftermath of suffering by R.G. Tedeshi & L.G. Calhoun